A little suspicious - any knowledgeable WhatsApp users around?

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I think DH might be blocking and unblocking me on WhatsApp.

He works away midweek. I noticed randomly a while ago that his profile pic on WhatsApp had changed to nothing. Before it had been a pic of us all.

Then noticed on sons phone a while later (he was showing me messages) it was a pic of the kids.

I didn't think much of it. Then I was whatsapping someone and his pic was of the kids on mine too. Basically thought I must have been mistaken and promptly forgot all about it. We very rarely WhatsApp each other, we mainly use iMessage but he uses WhatsApp with the kids and other family/friends. I use it for the kids and workmates mainly.

Fast forward to last night. Was on WhatsApp and saw the picture of the kids. He is quite high up on my chats list.

For some reason I screenshot it. Then this morning, went to WhatsApp my sister and the pic is back to nothing again. It's of the kids on my sons!

I WhatsApped a message and it's just got one tick and has for ages. But on a group kids chat we are on it went to two straight away for him when I messaged this morning.

This is just weird!

It can't be that he wants to hide his last online as he has that set so nobody sees that anyway. He wouldn't need to block me for that.

Any ideas as to why?

I know the right thing to do is ask. I don't really want to do that right now.

So sorry, you know what's going on. What a crafty arse hole!

If there’s other strange behaviour....well follow your instincts. I’d be trying to get a look at his phone, to be honest.

@Notapheasantplucker not if she is blocked. He won't see that deleted sign. O P delete it...maybe play about with your kid's account first but it should work..

Buy a SIM, stick it on your phone or a spare if possible and monitor his WhatsApp from there.

Then you will know

Can't get hold of his phone as he is at work.

He normally comes home weekends. I know he cannot this weekend though, it's definitely not a choice.

He may be home this weekend coming.

Why would he not want me to know he is online?! Is that a clear sign of cheating? Is it because it shows he is talking to people late at night when he's telling me he is watching a film/sleeping/showering??

It's as though by blocking me he has brought more attention to it! As even if he was online and I saw it I'd probably think it was his Mum or workmates he was talking to

If he’s blocked you then he won’t get the message you sent him while you were blocked even when he unblocks you. So he won’t know you sent it.

I'd agree that it's suspicious. The most obvious reason is that he doesn't want you to see when he's online.

Just to add that if he blocks you and then unblocks you, the messages you sent him whilst blocked do not go through - they will permanently just be one grey tick. He probably doesn't realise and thinks he's being very clever. Use that to your advantage. Maybe try sending him some 'important' messages when you think you're blocked (don't send to the family chat too), things that if he doesn't see and react to you've got grounds to pick him up on.

But when he unblocks me (which he must be doing every now and again) will the message I sent suddenly become visible to him?

Thanks - crossed messages. That's a relief!

Twat.

Sorry OP.

I guess if he’s with someone else who might see or have access to his phone, he might not want to be getting messages from you. Although I don’t know how that would work if you send him iMessages anyway.

Yeah that's what I thought. I contact him mainly by iMessage and phone. So I doubt he'd block me on WhatsApp to prevent contact when we rarely use it as he knows I'd contact him using other ways before that.

I sent an iMessage this morning whilst blocked on WhatsApp and that got delivered straightaway.

Yeah sounds like he’s not wanting you to see that’s he’s online, I would think it’s because he’s speaking to someone else.

If he puts his phone on do not disturb I think iMessages show as delivered anyway, but I could be wrong?

How often do you ring him? Does it always go through straight away whenever you call or do you get voicemail?

Normally rings straightaway rather than voicemail.

That's the thing hells bells if I saw him online I wouldn't question it. I'd think it was a mate, mum, work, sister. Anyone really.

By blocking me and unblocking me it's made it really very suspicious! He'd have been better just letting me see him as online and said oh it was Mum or work

Sorry OP that doesn't sound good. Can you get your kids phone for a couple of evenings (assuming they're not blocked by him) and see how often he's online? If he's telling you he's busy and you see him online he may be chatting to others x

I never even question it. It's just daft. I wouldn't message him and say oh who are you speaking to?

I'm massively busy on a night what with my job, kids and him being away so we have a quick FaceTime about 7ish and then just send the odd message through the night.

I honestly would probably not have even noticed him being online

If you cant use your kids phone i would do as said up thread, get a sim, put his number into WA and monitor that way

He'll be online when he's saying he's asleep or whatever

Now why might this be..sorry OP

I do have a vague memory of a few weeks ago. Couldn't sleep and I picked my phone up and he was online. It was early hours.

He must have noticed me online too. Maybe that's what's brought this on. Trying to prevent me seeing that if he does it again. Makes it sound as though whomever else he is speaking to is either up late or trying to hide what they are up to also, so they speak late.

Right. I'm going to do that. He's away midweek so I can monitor quite easily to be honest.

Have an old phone. Just need a sim.

If I used the kids phone then he would see that they (me) are online. I'd rather use a sim so he doesn't realise/think I'm using the kids phones to check.

He'd get suspicious if they are on late too.

Thanks. You have all helped to clarify my thoughts!

If his pictures going on your side but not on your sons, he must be deleting your number then re adding you. Simply blocking wouldn't make the picture go if he still had you saved as a contact.

When it says 'online ' it can also be a video call too

Blocking does make the picture go