Mistake with older man coming back to bite me

[Yecats1990]

5 years ago I made a mistake with a man I worked with. I was 25 and single but he was 45 and in a relationship with a woman the same age as him (they weren't married and they both had kids but none together).
Anyway it wasn't my finest hour, he was training me in work and I found him sexy and exciting and honestly I just enjoyed the attention from an older more experienced guy. We would flirt at work and then progressed to texting, then we started to have phone sex and sent sexual videos and photos to each other, nothing ever became physical though and it wasn't an emotional affair either as we rarely spoke about anything other than sex. We had a token attempt to meet up a few times for sex but never went through with it I think we both knew the relationship was just fantasy we used for masturbation and nothing more. The whole thing lasted about 2 years.
Eventually I left the job and moved to another area and the whole thing just fizzled out (prob slightly more on my part than his)
I met a new man, got married and am now 38 wks pregnant with our first baby. My husband knows nothing about that awful decision I made back then.

Anyway the problem is 10 mins ago i received a WhatsApp message from a number I don't know with a sexual photo of me that I had sent to this man (no face in the photo but I know it was me) and a text followed which says

"Why the fuck were you sending naked photos to my partner you dirty c##t"

Then quickly followed by a "you're welcome to him f##king slut".

And now my phone keeps ringing from a private number. Im not answering obvs.

Anyway now she will know at least my first name from my WhatsApp profile and I have a profile picture up so she can search for me on Facebook.
We live at opposite ends of the country so I don't think I will run into her even after lockdown but im terrified about her getting further information about me and contacting my husband just wks before our baby arrives.

Should I tell my husband about it now and explain? Should I interact with this woman and try to explain to her? Or should I just ignore it and hope it goes away??

I was a selfish idiot back then and really regret what I did long before this woman ever contacted me. I know I deserve little sympathy here but just want opinions on what I should do

You did the right thing messaging her.
I'd change the phone, forget it and focus on your new family. Best of luck!

You cannot actively lie to someone if you have no contact with them. Equally you cannot gaslight them.
The older man, "Nick", is the one doing all those things, NOT the OP.

@StayingInSummer I don't want to be mean but you are sounding completely unhinged comparing the OP to a woman who is complicit in domestic violence and saying that you can gas light a person you have never met and insisting that sending a text to a taken man is "abuse".

Abuse is illegal. Physical abuse, sexual abuse and emotional abuse are all illegal.... what do you think the police would say if you called them and said "a woman I never met sent my boyfriend a sexy photo and I'm hurt by that" they would tell you to jog on no crime has been committed and that act is not "abuse" in legal terms.

Whereas the harassment the OP recieved is actually illegal.... 53 phone calls in 12 hours, name calling, texts with abusive language etc. She had to change her number and delete her social media to make it stop.... in the eyes of the law the OP is actually the victim whether you like that or not.

Hope your okay OP

I didn't get to the end of the thread but I am so glad you told your husband and things are OK. Good for you!