Can we talk about not seeing partners during lockdown

[SenselessUbiquity]

I think there was a thread about this, but I can't find it.

I'm struggling. I've lost my job, my ex is an arse, my children are brilliant but tiring. My boyfriend is a kind, funny, interesting man whom I fancy the pants off and seeing him (and being in bed with him) is the one really truly feel-good thing I had in a life that can get pretty tiring and can feel very groundhog day, even back when we were allowed in theory to do all sorts of things.

I'm struggling. It's hard.

Please can I ask: is everyone honestly following the rules? And if you are (we have) are you going to continue to do so, no matter how long it takes, no matter how many times they extend the lock down?

I saw the broadcast and I do think they've forgotten not everyone couple could live together if they wanted. I have spent this weekend with my boyfriend and honestly it has been amazing, we've just been together in the house or country walks, and it's been so needed. We will do it again in a couple of weeks when he hasn't got the kids and I won't be waiting for the government to tell me it's okay as I don't think they will

Oh come on

Be realistic

He’s basically spelt it out for you

If people can go to work and mix with dozens of people socially distanced then you can meet your partner - socially distanced at least

I have been seeing my dp at a 2m distance few times in last few weeks, so nothing new there! I just want to hug n Kiss him now !
Also parents too ? It's funny as we are allowed to go n sit in a park 2m away with a bunch of strangers but can't have parents in garden 2m away 🤨
I think there will be more detailed information hopefully next few days not holding my breath though 😂

Anyone going to feel better about seeing their bf now ?
I'm in wales and it's the same meeting friends jus two meters apart x

I'm in Scotland so anticipating being officially locked up forever 😃

I can’t decide if I’m pleased that we can now at least travel and meet up for a walk, or if I’m even more pissed off at being treated like a child needing a chaperone!

I honestly don’t know if I’ll feel better or worse seeing him under these circumstances.

@Fentyplenty it's just fucking ridiculous in my view

Not everyone is following the rules op and are unlikely to admit it here as they’d be eaten alive.

If you’re not seeing anyone and following social distance rules in supermarkets etc then i’d go visit him.

I know for a fact that if my boyfriend and I didn’t live together we would have still seen each other, slept together etc.

Me n partner aren't mixing with any other households only his parents and dd he had her once every week. Aibu by just kissing him when he's over in my garden once every week x there are no clear guild lines on focus !!!

I won't b kissing or hugging him at all 😔 even meeting now at a distance is getting to us both

@Mascotte, I agree. Unfortunately there is no allowance for common sense, presumably because there have been so many examples of people demonstrating they don’t posses any whilst doing the conga!

@dollface19 - the guidance is clear in my view it just doesn’t make sense. As it stands today I am allowed to have a cleaner visit my house (along with many others presumably) but not my partner who lives alone and works from home. I know who I consider to be the lower risk and it isn’t the cleaner.

Seems to have gone quiet this thread
How is everyone doing ?

Hello,@dollface19. I'm really downhearted by this continuing lockdown forever mentality up here. But pleased I'm seeing my man again this weekend.

How are you, and everyone else? Any news @sofato5miles?

I’ve asked about being able to see partners again (properly, not at 2m distance in a park!!!) as a question for the daily briefing, suggest others do too if they’re struggling, the more who ask the more likely to be answered I suppose!

www.gov.uk/ask

I did too @beachdays123 .

I have been seeing and shagging my long-term non-resident boyfriend every day since lockdown began.

It has been the one thing that has made it worth getting up.

My mental health is really bad now, my issue is, my guy ive known 10 years we dated few times and did stuff but not actually slept together before lockdown! We would have if it hadn't off happened, I've seen him every weekend, but just in My garden/kitchen drinks etc we are defo not 2m apart we are just not hugging or kissing or anything. I have a young dd I live with we don't see anyone else. He has a dd he sees twice a week overnight at his parents who also do not to anywhere. My dd has met him a few times and I'm tempted to let him stay over when dd is in bed and him early morning as he is not working.
I jus don't how we could get the virus by not seeing people only the people we both have lived with since it happened ! X

Has anyone moved in with a partner since lockdown started and not had any problems? Thinking of doing it now as cant see when we'll be able to visit each other inside but dont want to get in loads of trouble

Wow
www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/coronavirus-sex-lockdown-law-couples-indoors-england-a9542171.html

@Notrightbutok That's because people in Government have been caught doing it. Covering their backs now right. Joke

Are people allowed to move in together now if they haven't already? I see this is the only answer to this

Just carry on as you are. The government are not God, it's a guideline and quite frankly we are going to be one of the worst hot countries so I think that tells you what you need to know about the Government.

I would use your own intelligence and live your life how you wish. I will still see my non resident partner as we've both been isolating and working from home. I see us as very low risk. On the other hand some friends of mine have been sending their kids to school and working still. Pleas tell me how this is allowed but my situation is not?.... Oh that's right it's money and that's what the government are more concerned about.

Also reading through rules etc surely anyone could say they had problems at their current home and need to move in with their partner to 'cool off'? Not saying everyone should lie and do what they want, but how can they actually police this and determine if its untrue or not? Once me and my partner move in together anyway we'll just count as a household so they would need to somehow prove we hadn't been together from the start which again surely isn't possible? We wont be going out at all other than food etc and we will social distance when doing this so I cant see it being a major risk anyway

I really feel like I'm struggling now, nearly 3 months of not seeing my partner, it's also long distance so not like we can just pop over. I feel so distant from him, he said he knows we're strong earlier and we are, but the lack of physical affection is really hard for me I'm struggling to feel close to him, bored of seeing words on a screen, fed up of watching films on Skype, just fed up really, fed up of living my relationship in a virtual world! I don't know how people do this, I'm so worried it's damaging our relationship irreparably. Not really looking for anything just a rant and a moan