Let's sing our husbands praises

[Gratitudeiseverything]

Good morning,

I've read so many posts on here about how their DH is driving them crazy.

But let's take a moment to sing our praises for all the amazing things our husbands do.

My husband has been waking up every morning to make the kids breakfast and allowing me to have a lay in!

He's been making us all delicious treats like chocolate crepes and other goodies to randomly make us smile. He constantly thinks about my comfort, as I'm working from home and he currently isn't due to the virus. He even made me dinner last night and usually I would be the one doing most of the work during a normal week as I work from home and he works into the late evening with his work. He also has been great with the kids, helping with their homework, making sure they are happy and having fun.

He is truly amazing! Feeling very grateful 🙌

What are you grateful for?

My dh is wfh atm. He always brings me a tray with tea in bed but as he is home he had brought me toast in bed too. He he finding time to teach foster son science and ICT as gaining travel time. He has shown adult sons who are clueless about DIY how to laminate a floor, sand, paint and decorate. Sons are furloughed so agreed to do up BTL for me. Dh is going to show them how to put in new kitchen units too. We have got yeast now and is going to make us pizza on Saturday. He also puts up with me when I get grouchy from lock down. He is very laid back do calms me down.

@ofwarren Must have been bloody awful to live through, but that is really worth a "truly amazing, so grateful".

@ravenmum
Yes, it was a horrendous time.
They are so close now and have matching scars which they like to compare. Really cute to watch.

My old man has been working in the mornings and working hard in the garden every say when he gets home to make it nice for us for lockdown. We def follow traditional ways in this house - pink and blue jobs are a thing!!

When you exude gratitude you recieve an abundance of it back

Ha utter bollocks

*It's like turning up to a wake in a clown suit grin

When the deceased was not a clown.*

love it!

Yes, my DH is definitely not like this anymore. Fuck it. Not going to start pining for a bubble bath from him... I’ll run my own!

It's very clear there are two groups of people in this thread.

Those that can be happy for others and those that wish everyone was as miserable as they are.

It's very clear there are two groups of people in this thread.

Those that can be happy for others and those that wish everyone was as miserable as they are.

It's clear to me that there are two groups of people on the thread.

(1) Those who feel that breathless gratitude towards men doing a fair share of the housework, life admin and childcare is reductive, infantilising and promotes sexual double standards and

(2) those who feel that their husbands or partners doing the laundry or cooking or actually looking after their own children means they are #SoBlessed and #SoLucky and should be greeted with hysterical levels of appreciation, ticker tape parades and the starting of internet threads.

@hayfevered this thread was started as a light hearted read for everyone to enjoy hearing positivity and showing gratitude for what they have. It doesn't matter if these things are normal things to expect, you can still be grateful for them! Everyday I wake up I am grateful for another day, in these times with people dying, there is nothing wrong with showing appreciation to those that you love for EVERYTHING they do, big and small. And it's been shown via this thread that what is expected to be normal for a man to do, clearly is not as not all men do these things. My husband is grateful for everything I do big and small even if I should be doing those things and likewise I am for him. If you didn't like the thread topic then do not participate. It's pretty simple.

a light hearted read for everyone to enjoy

Clearly "everyone" enjoys different things. People can criticise or respond negatively to your thread if they like, this isn't the 'aww bless' website.

@category12 what a miserable bunch you are.

@Gratitudeiseverything If you didn't like the thread topic then do not participate. It's pretty simple

You put your thread on a public forum, you have to accept you'll get replies you don't like. Saying everyone who disagrees with you is miserable is just dismissive.

Turning a positive into a negative is a pretty miserable way of looking at life.

And you're tone-deaf. You're welcome!

I can't decide whether you just don't get what people are saying or you refuse to try to understand a different perspective.....

OP, you're the person who keeps asserting that the people who have pointed out the sexual double standards being promoted by those who start an internet thread because their husband does childcare are 'miserable' and unhappy in their relationships.

Appreciating what your husband does is not promoting sexual double standards. It's just called appreciation and gratitude.

...and just like that, we've hit the conversational brick wall.

Generally he's a good un anyway.

But he's doing better in lockdown than I expected. He's the type that likes to be busy most of the time.
He's WFH but still getting involved in educating the girls and doing his fair share of cleaning.

He's also done some extra jobs in the house that needed doing, that normally would be crammed into weekends and stressful but he's been able to do them as and when so it's kept the mood happy.

He's just generally good company too.

...and just like that, we've hit the conversational brick wall.

Yup. It's like trying to have a reasoned debate with someone who's got their fingers in their ears while singing 'Live! Laugh! Love!' very loudly to themselves.

I had work on Weds and Thurs. my husband planned a lovely day for my 2 boys. His grand finale was a camping night for my eldest, they slept the whole night in the tent. He is brilliant!

Appreciating what your husband does is not promoting sexual double standards. It's just called appreciation and gratitude

I think it is. I don’t think anyone is ‘amazing’ for making their kids breakfast or dinner or helping their kids with homework. You want to praise men for doing these things, that’s different from appreciating your partner.

I agree with Hayfevered and category12.