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Let's sing our husbands praises

223 replies

Gratitudeiseverything · 20/04/2020 09:10

Good morning,

I've read so many posts on here about how their DH is driving them crazy.

But let's take a moment to sing our praises for all the amazing things our husbands do.

My husband has been waking up every morning to make the kids breakfast and allowing me to have a lay in!

He's been making us all delicious treats like chocolate crepes and other goodies to randomly make us smile. He constantly thinks about my comfort, as I'm working from home and he currently isn't due to the virus. He even made me dinner last night and usually I would be the one doing most of the work during a normal week as I work from home and he works into the late evening with his work. He also has been great with the kids, helping with their homework, making sure they are happy and having fun.

He is truly amazing! Feeling very grateful 🙌

What are you grateful for?

OP posts:
Toilenstripes · 20/04/2020 13:14

My husband has been making himself scarce in the garden office. No children, so it works out well. 😁

AvonBarksdale99 · 20/04/2020 13:15

Maybe people should state what they’ve been doing? Isn’t a relationship a two-way thing?

Rebelwithallthecause · 20/04/2020 13:16

I’m also 35 weeks pregnant with a toddler and not too sure how I’d manage without him right now

I’m terribly anemic and feeling exhausted so he’s been doing the lions share of everything whilst also keeping the garden immaculate, washing done and all the unimportant diy jobs that hadn’t been done already

Morporkia · 20/04/2020 13:32

Ok so I posted in a ranty thread the other day. It was very cathartic, however it was just one day I woke up in a pissy mood. DH recognised this, stayed out of my way, cleaned kitchen, cooked dinner (exactly the way I like it) and gave me his last chocolate cake slice 🥰 we’ve been rolling around like bloody teenagers again lately...my hips don’t lie when they say stop shagging on the floor....😁

JaneJeffer · 20/04/2020 13:33

Mine is still going to work every day. Hallelujah.

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 20/04/2020 13:48

Lovely thread Smile

I'm grateful for being single but that's only because I'm a commitment phobe and have the attention span of a sparrow. I change my men as often as I change my socks Blush

But I've really enjoyed reading all your stories Smile

TheLovelinessOfDemons · 20/04/2020 13:49

DH still has to go into work as normal.

Lyricallie · 20/04/2020 13:57

Fiance rather than husband but our wedding got postponed so he organised for us to get a lovely meal from a local restaurant whilst under lockdown on the day we were supposed to be married. He's just generally such a good person and I always feel so sad when people treat their partners so horribly.

RedandBluebox · 20/04/2020 14:01

Lyricallie sorry to hear that 😟 same here. We were due to get married last week.

Quite a strange day.
My fiancé made me breakfast in bed, we went for a long walk, had tapas and wine in the garden and then he cooked for me in the evening.
He made me feel really special all day.
He makes me feel special everyday.

We've got a new date for the wedding later in the year

Subeccoo · 20/04/2020 14:04

Lovely to read. My dh is still working but I'm wfh so I'm doing more house work and cooking than usual.
He's very grateful, as am I in normal circumstances as he does more than me. He's def the better cook but we both enjoy it.
He is amazing at DIY, fiiiiiit as fk, always calm and is a bloody good laugh over a glass of wine and zoom calls with the family.
My life is definitely better for him being in it and I know he feels the same about me.

Wewearpinkonwednesdays · 20/04/2020 14:05

So a thread about men adequately sharing household tasks and we "sing their praises" Hmm

RedandBluebox · 20/04/2020 14:08

Jesus

WaterIsWide · 20/04/2020 14:13

My husband is wfh just now and still does his share of the housework etc. This morning he put a load of washing on before breakfast. He then made breakfast for us both and set the table. He put away most of the clean dishes and utensils that had been on the draining board overnight. He washed up after breakfast.

He was at work on the stroke of 9am. He surfaced around mid morning to make a cup of coffee and hang the laundry on the rotary drier while the kettle was boiling.

He does this as a matter of course.

We had a walk before lunch, then made and ate lunch together. He made me a cup of tea and went back to his work. I will tidy up after lunch.

triedandtestedteacher · 20/04/2020 14:14

Mine does all the cooking and is very good at motivating the kids with homeschooling while I'm useless at the moment with really bad morning sickness

foodtoorder · 20/04/2020 14:17

Honestl, what a world we live in when we aren't able to share things like this 🙄
I am still working (nurse) and husband working from home so he has def picked up more domestic duties as I have increased my hours during the pandemic. He also decided he didn't want the children at further risk going to school so he is absolutely multi tasking all day and doing what he has missed work wise in the evenings.
Under normal circumstances he is up and out the door first thing with no thought for anything else that needs to be done and we usually blow up at times about him not helping. However the pandemic has fully made him up his game, I totally under estimated him and I am eating humble pie daily..we have been been enjoying our time off together so much more too

RJnomore1 · 20/04/2020 14:24

I’m working from home, I’ve just nipped up to the bedroom and all my washing has been dried, folded and sat in neat piles for me to put in my drawers.

Bienentrinkwasser · 20/04/2020 14:28

DH is WFH but doesn’t have much to do thankfully as I’m sick as a dog with hyperemesis.

He gets up every morning and goes to get DS from his room so that I don’t have to deal with any potential overnight poo in his nappy. He does all the cooking, washing up, laundry, cleaning, hoovering etc. He’s also doing his best to keep me motivated and make sure I’m not too miserable. He’s honestly an absolute gem and I’d be falling apart without him.

In return I’m trying to make sure he can get out to run and cycle (bike trainer indoors) for a couple of hours per day so he doesn’t lose the plot. But I know it’s not much in comparison!

Blindingpeaky · 20/04/2020 14:29

I am pregnant and feeling rather unattractive and large. My DH tells me how beautiful I am and kisses my stomach all the time. His enthusiasm and excitement about our growing family means the world to me.

Pitaramus · 20/04/2020 14:33

I’m really grateful for my DH. We’re both wfh, both finding it tricky with the kids and both attempting to homeschool.

We compliment each other pretty well as in many ways we’re good at different things. I’ve been really impressed with some of the “lessons” he’s done with the kids. He’s got some great ideas and they are loving spending the time with him.

We also read each other well and manage to step in for each other and give each other a break from the kids when it’s most needed (several times a day!)

mamato3lads · 20/04/2020 14:52

He's been cooking, I'll give him that...nice to have a break Grin and also some DIY. First time in forever, so that's nice too.

Original poster
Gratitudeiseverything · 20/04/2020 15:30

Such lovely responses and I created this thread just for us to show gratitude to the good around us, which I believe is much needed in this time.

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PlanetMJ · 20/04/2020 15:48

But I think the point being made by some posters which you are missing OP, is that there are plenty of places on mumsnet where this might be welcomed by all posters. Putting it on the relationships board really does strike me as almost rubbing it in the faces of those women in desparate circumstances who come to this board for support.
It's coming across as terribly smug " let's show those women stupid enough not to know what a PROPER relationship is meant to be like".
It's leaving a very bad taste in my mouth and although I doubt you will listen, perhaps you might be able to ask for this to be moved to the chat board?

Original poster
Gratitudeiseverything · 20/04/2020 15:50

I didn't realise that this board was just for people going through bad relantionships, I selected it as I was discussing husbands or partners so thought this was the right place for it?

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lialiana · 20/04/2020 15:55

You might have thought that OP, but some replies have explicitly said they want to show people going through a rough time what a "normal" relationship looks like. Most people posting questions here want support, they want reassurance after years of gaslighting and self esteem destruction for example, they don't want women showing them what they could be having. That's not helpful.

I'm all for positive threads, but there are definitely better places this conversation should be had.

PlanetMJ · 20/04/2020 15:57

There definitely isn't a rule and I'm sorry if I came across harshly. It's just that this board really can be a safe space for women fleeing abuse and being given support in truly horrific circumstances.
The tone of this thread seems to jar with the overall tone of the board I think. I'm sure it would be very welcome emsewgere on mumsnet though.