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Let's sing our husbands praises

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Gratitudeiseverything · 20/04/2020 09:10

Good morning,

I've read so many posts on here about how their DH is driving them crazy.

But let's take a moment to sing our praises for all the amazing things our husbands do.

My husband has been waking up every morning to make the kids breakfast and allowing me to have a lay in!

He's been making us all delicious treats like chocolate crepes and other goodies to randomly make us smile. He constantly thinks about my comfort, as I'm working from home and he currently isn't due to the virus. He even made me dinner last night and usually I would be the one doing most of the work during a normal week as I work from home and he works into the late evening with his work. He also has been great with the kids, helping with their homework, making sure they are happy and having fun.

He is truly amazing! Feeling very grateful 🙌

What are you grateful for?

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nowaitaminute · 21/04/2020 14:17

I get that these are normal tasks and women do them every day...but we both pull our weight to be honest and neither of us actually expect praise for it.

ravenmum · 21/04/2020 14:19

@Trexical has summed it up nicely.
Gratitude, you've either namechanged or signed up just to post this thread. If you've namechanged, then I would assume as you guessed it could be a bit controversial. If you've just signed up, then you might not have been here long enough to know that happy-happy threads on this particular forum usually get far shorter shrift and less sensible discussion than this one! Your thread is doing very well for the subject matter.

ravenmum · 21/04/2020 14:21

those who expect that to be the norm and treat it with causal indifference
I agree that if you do both, it doesn't make for a great time for all. But you can expect it to be the norm and not be indifferent.

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Gratitudeiseverything · 21/04/2020 15:07

@Baconisgoodformeee for sure, I totally agree. I've been married for 4 years and we always show appreciation to eachother even for the small things and our relantionship just gets stronger and stronger for it! I do this with family and friends too... When you exude gratitude you recieve an abundance of it back! 😁

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Gratitudeiseverything · 21/04/2020 15:08

That was supposed to be a smiley face! Smile

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DogWhelk · 21/04/2020 16:41

As woman we put importance to the small things

As a woman, I put a high importance on sharing childcare, domestic work and life admin equally. I don't think this is at all a 'small thing'.

The point is some of the responses on here are equivalent to if someone posted ‘I love how my husband allows me to sleep in the house and answers me when I speak directly to him’

This.

category12 · 21/04/2020 16:46

It was a light hearted thread, meant for a nice read for us all.

Yeah, it's Chat you wanted. Better fit.

Southwesterly · 21/04/2020 17:01

It was a light hearted thread, meant for a nice read for us all

Yeah, so are those 'hilarious' threads about how men can't see dirt, bless them, and burn water when they venture into the kitchen and dress their four year olds in shorts, scuba goggles and the baby's tshirt to go to the park in November.

It doesn't mean they don't reinforce sexual double standards.

Chiyo666 · 21/04/2020 17:02

Yeah, it's Chat you wanted. Better fit

The title of this sub isn’t “shit relationships” or “relationship problems”.

category12 · 21/04/2020 17:11

No, but read the room: Chat, this would fit right in. Relationships, not so much.

It's like turning up to a wake in a clown suit Grin

When the deceased was not a clown.

Desmondo2016 · 21/04/2020 17:49

Another one with a gem of a husband. In every way. He's just the best and in ten years has never let me down.

WhotheWhat · 21/04/2020 18:22

*It's like turning up to a wake in a clown suit Grin

When the deceased was not a clown*

@Category12 Genuine gaffaw. It's the gap I find so funny.

Now, I'm just about to put the bins out and have suggested the DCs might want to form some sort of guard of honour on the drive and bang some pans whilst I do so. Later, I shall make a meal, load the dishwasher and fold some clothes, after which I may do some special pointy-toed walking (daily exercise) around the block wearing penis deely-boppers and playing 'There Ain't Nothin' Like a Dame' on a kazoo.

Toot toot!

#solucky #blessed #opposablethumbs

Trexical · 21/04/2020 18:30

Lovin it @WhotheWhat Grin
The irony is I'm sure most people need a bit of positivity at the moment ..just not of this ilk ..look at all the women who up and down the country are sewing scrubs for the nhs workers ..now if some husbands got together and organised something like that ...hell yes they would deserve praise but bringing you a cup of tea? Nahh

Carouselfish · 21/04/2020 18:53

Partner but: he's been helping my mum create a vegetable patch (we all live together at the moment), chopped lots of wood, the dogs adore him, our DD bounces all over him, he tolerates my 'somebody get a sponge!' pregnancy laziness and my bossiness over names.

Catmaiden · 21/04/2020 20:24

My DH brings me tea in bed every morning, does all of the meal cooking, is ace at DIY and housework, does stuff for me to save me struggling, and has nursed me through some serious physical, and some mental, health issues.
He is the kindest man I know, my best friend and we've been together for nearly 40 years now.
I had a very abusive first husband, a short marriage only thank God, and I feel lucky, every day, that I married a decent, caring, kind man the second time around.

FireandFury · 21/04/2020 20:36

DP has been really really great during lockdown. I thought we’d drive each other mad but it’s been really lovely. Both DP and I have pretty stressful jobs but we’ve been taking it in turns to cover off childcare when one is on a call etc.

I’m singing his praises more than usual today because he’s just given me a massage and it was amazing and he made a lovely meal for us this evening.

Onalake · 21/04/2020 21:55

I was looking at some old photos today, and found a photo of me taken 15 years ago when I was about 3 stone lighter. I mentioned how much younger and slimmer I looked, and he looked confused and said I looked exactly the same. Bless him!

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Gratitudeiseverything · 21/04/2020 22:49

So lovely to hear about all of your lovely DH's - makes me smile! My husband also just gave me a lovely massage, helped me with half of my work load as I'm working from home and he isn't currently. Such a lovely man.. Couldn't imagine my life without him! 😁

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Treatedlikeamaid · 21/04/2020 23:19

Lovely to hear you all say nice things. Interesting to hear you say ,’but it’s normal!’ Very interesting to hear what is considered normal in a relationship. I’m realising I don’t get any of that stuff. Oops.

changemynamechangemynamewhen · 22/04/2020 00:25

But I think the point being made by some posters which you are missing OP, is that there are plenty of places on mumsnet where this might be welcomed by all posters. Putting it on the relationships board really does strike me as almost rubbing it in the faces of those women in desparate circumstances who come to this board for support.
It's coming across as terribly smug " let's show those women stupid enough not to know what a PROPER relationship is meant to be like".
It's leaving a very bad taste in my mouth and although I doubt you will listen, perhaps you might be able to ask for this to be moved to the chat board?

THIS!!!

BertiesLanding · 22/04/2020 10:01

When you exude gratitude you recieve an abundance of it back!

It's wonderful when this works, but please don't preach this as something that works for everyone. Particularly not here.

CandyLeBonBon · 23/04/2020 01:22

I think the OP feels #SoBlessed

User7764217 · 23/04/2020 01:34

My husband hasn’t been snoring like a pig tonight

I should check to see if he’s breathing but cba

BitterAndTwistedChoreDodger · 23/04/2020 01:53

I have skim read the thread, I won't praise my husband for doing the minimum, the same as I don't pay my children to do chores, as they live here too.

However, since lock down, I am at home, he is a key worker.

My depression has been hit hard, so he has gone from doing half the chores and childcare, to pretty much doing all of it while still working full time . Am I allowed to be thankful, or will that piss some posters off?

ofwarren · 23/04/2020 02:20

My husband is such a wonderful man.
Our son was born with liver failure and needed a transplant at 6 months old. My husband donated a section of his liver to him as no organ was available for him on the register. To be able to do this he quit smoking and lost a stone in weight in 2 weeks. The risk to his health was huge but he was so happy to do it and still says it was the best thing he has ever done in his life.

When our son was ill in hospital we missed our wedding so my husband arranged for us to get married in the hospital chapel and for our critically ill son to attend. He arranged for the wedding dress and shoes to be delivered to the hospital and organised with friends and family to attend. He also arranged with the nursing staff to get a buffet on the ward for us and for 1 night in a local hotel for after the wedding.

Most recently, our youngest son and I were suspected of having covid. As this would be a huge risk to our transplanted son, my husband rearranged the rooms so we could stay upstairs and he moved downstairs with the other child. He works full time from home and carried on working but also did literally everything else for almost 2 weeks while we isolated upstairs. He brought us both 3 meals a day and made sure we had everything we needed.

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