Dp constantly moans about my boobs

[Mumofthree1984]

Sorry for the rant but I'm so so so pissed off. Dp constantly moans about my boobs, yes they are quite big a 38 DD/E he hated me wearing balcony bras so I took him with me to get fitted in M&S into full cup bras (his choice) a pack of two padded and 2 lacey, he was ok with these at the time. My black padded one has somehow gone missing, I'm. Sure it's in the house somewhere but with 5 of us living here probably got mixed up somewhere. Any way he hates me wearing low cut tops, when I say low cut they aren't the type that my tits are literally hanging out, in fact u can't even see my cleavage just my chest. He says it's if I. Lean forward u can see done some of them. This is becoming very very very draining. I even ripped a bra off in an argument well actually 2 now, we were going up to the cemetary to visit my dads grave, all ready to leave and he starts, we'll that tops a bit revealing, i was so angry, it's not even showing anything! I ripped the top. Off anf the bra, so. Now I'm. Down to 1 bra yes 1, i refuse to buy anymore, I can't afford it, i said why don't we just cut my boobs off, that's the last option we have. I'm not wearing turtle necks all year, so. Now I'm sat in my pyjamas really annoyed whilst he is in my room. Going through all my tops! I've had enough seriously enough

Why wont he let you go out on your own. This is not normal. This is abusive behaviour

Here we are again .

Utterly ridiculous how many abusive controlling men are also "insecure" themselves. It's the same play book as the people who are so sensitive they can't take it but dish it out.

OP, it is shit this man is like this but seriously give your head a wobble. You've moved him in too quick, move him out quicker or it is a shut up/put up situation.

Leave. This might be the only sign of his issues for now, it won't be soon. Change the locks, there are videos online, it's fairly easy.

Easily solved, get rid of him. And treat yourself to some nice new underwear.

@MrsGrindah Yes I’ve reported this thread

Why?!?!?! Because she's only been with him for a year and is trying for a baby?!

Not ideal but that certainly does NOT make her a troll for goodness sake! Some people DO try for a baby after less than a year. Sometimes it actually works out.

This poor woman is being abused and is looking for support, and you're pushing her away.

You should be ashamed of yourself.

I cannot stand MN'ers who report anything & everything that doesn't align with their own life. Anything even remotely shocking or even eyebrow raising - reported.

Poor MNHQ!

Yes he doesn't want any men looking at them, not. Much I can do. Unless I walk around in a cardboard box

This is where both of you lose me. Ok, first of all, BOTH of you need to realise that just because you've got a 38DD, doesn't mean every guy walking past you, OP, is salivating over you or your boobs. I mean that nicely. I mean that in a 'Surprise, surprise! Not EVERY guy on the street is out to objectify you- believe it or not.' sort of way. But it's hard to believe this when your partner has totally and utterly objectified and 'sullied' you, then paints all men as he himself most likely is; a debaser of women. The saying 'Suspicion always haunts the guilty mind' comes to mind.

You're in for a life as chattel should you foolishly stay with this man. Every alarm bell is ringing. And you mentioned ttc. Well, that's hell on wheels if you ask me. But it's your call.

Your not great at picking them are you?.

You’d be insane to have a baby with a controlling man.

Abuse escalates when women get pg and you’ll always be tied to him then.

I had an ex like this, it is so draining.

He would also moan if I had no bra on (but a top) and answered the door incase the post man saw my nipples outlined through my top.

He is insecure and controlling and the only way to deal with it is to get rid of him.

He won't let you do what alone, OP? Go shopping or go out at all?!

Either way, WEIRD, ABUSIVE & UNACCEPTABLE!!!

If you're not prepared to leave him, get the creep to counselling asap - this is just ridiculous!

Bless you.x.

This is so far from normal or acceptable. I'm big busted too and I dress how suits me - my husband wouldn't dream of telling me to cover up or how to dress and as for him coming with me to pick my bras..!?!? Please do leave when you can - this really isn't right.

In all honesty OP, I would show him this thread. He clearly doesn't realise his behaviour is terrible.

No woman should have to put up with that.

None of this is ok. No. Just no.

@HavenDilemma absolutely not ashamed. Stop shrieking.

I don’t care what you think.

OP you really are setting yourself up for a life of misery.

You've jumped from one shit relationship into another and want a baby with this gobshite.

Abusive.
Don’t have a baby with him - can you imagine his reaction when your milk comes in and your tits are suddenly 7 times the size they were, and up round your neck? Would he let you breastfeed if you wanted to? What about if you were in public and the baby was hungry? For that matter, what about when you’re in labour? Will he be haranguing you about your tits being out in front of the male anaesthetist?

Fuck. Him. Off.

Yak.
He has no more claim to comment on YOUR breasts than a stranger on the street.

Dress however you like and tell him to fuck right off.

He's not insecure. He's a controlling bully. Whose own behaviour is likely questionable, so he's projecting it onto you.

Get rid. don't let your children grow up thinking this is normal or acceptable way to treat a woman or be treated as a woman.

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How will he cope when your boobs grow if you get pregnant? Will you be allowed to breast feed?
Get rid of him op.
He won't even allow you near a dead man!
He is sick.

He's telling you a lot about how he views women. Basically, he's a fucking misogynistic lech.

Wow. Do not allow him to go through your clothes. I had a similar partner when I was in my mid 30's (I'm nearly 50 now). He shamed me for wearing a white gypsy skirt that was a bit see through, I refused to change into another outfit and he sulked the whole day. This wasn't the only occasion he acted this way, it's just the first one that springs to mind. This guy turned out to be the most controlling, sociopathic, hateful person I've ever had the displeasure to have to deal with. Get rid of the big tit my dear, not the two beautiful ones that you should be proud to show off xx

OP I think there is a lot more going on - he doesnt let you go out by yourself, he doesnt like you wearing anything he doesnt approve of and you dont have any money

This seems a very abusive relationship

And you already have three children??

Please don't bring another one into this mess.