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Dp constantly moans about my boobs

346 replies

Mumofthree1984 · 13/04/2020 16:05

Sorry for the rant but I'm so so so pissed off. Dp constantly moans about my boobs, yes they are quite big a 38 DD/E he hated me wearing balcony bras so I took him with me to get fitted in M&S into full cup bras (his choice) a pack of two padded and 2 lacey, he was ok with these at the time. My black padded one has somehow gone missing, I'm. Sure it's in the house somewhere but with 5 of us living here probably got mixed up somewhere. Any way he hates me wearing low cut tops, when I say low cut they aren't the type that my tits are literally hanging out, in fact u can't even see my cleavage just my chest. He says it's if I. Lean forward u can see done some of them. This is becoming very very very draining. I even ripped a bra off in an argument well actually 2 now, we were going up to the cemetary to visit my dads grave, all ready to leave and he starts, we'll that tops a bit revealing, i was so angry, it's not even showing anything! I ripped the top. Off anf the bra, so. Now I'm. Down to 1 bra yes 1, i refuse to buy anymore, I can't afford it, i said why don't we just cut my boobs off, that's the last option we have. I'm not wearing turtle necks all year, so. Now I'm sat in my pyjamas really annoyed whilst he is in my room. Going through all my tops! I've had enough seriously enough

OP posts:
Mumofthree1984 · 13/04/2020 16:26

There is no way he will let me go alone

OP posts:
elizabell · 13/04/2020 16:26

Breaks my heart. Wear what you want and what you feel comfortable in. No one can tell you what that is.

NotStayingIn · 13/04/2020 16:26

But surely even as you are writing this you must realise this is all utterly wrong and controlling. Dear god woman please find some self-respect and dump his sorry ass.

SunshineCake · 13/04/2020 16:26

What are you going to do about this prick who is bossing you around? Are you really trying to have a baby with him ??!

ShouldWeChangeTheBulb · 13/04/2020 16:26

That’s completely out of order.
LTB

ChrissieKeller61 · 13/04/2020 16:27

I wouldn't put up with this, he needs to go

Fluffycloudland77 · 13/04/2020 16:27

This is massively controlling and abusive. Men look at our boobs and bums it’s just human nature. You notice things about other humans or you’d never fancy anyone.

You’re in an abusive relationship.

Parker231 · 13/04/2020 16:27

He can’t stop you going wherever you want. If he tries to, that is when you ring the police.

Get dressed and go out, don’t let him ruin your day.

RandomMess · 13/04/2020 16:28

He won't let you go out alone?

AngryAngryAngryAngryAngryAngryAngryAngryAngry

81Byerley · 13/04/2020 16:28

Get rid of him. He has no right to control you in any way.

rvby · 13/04/2020 16:29

@Mumofthree1984 OP I will ask again, why are you with him? What is keeping you in this relationship, have you no money of your own, etc.?

BacklashStarts · 13/04/2020 16:29

What what what what what what what?? This is your build! And it’s none of his fucking business. He sounds terrible. You are not his possession. You are not anyone’s possession. Terrible.

AnnofPeeves · 13/04/2020 16:29

I'm confused. On a couple of your other recent threads you're saying you're ttc, but on this one you've had enough of him. Given what you've posted above I hope you've had enough.

MrsTerryPratchett · 13/04/2020 16:29

There is no way he will let me go alone

Do you understand that this is domestic abuse?

TheClootieDumplin · 13/04/2020 16:30

Op, please start thinking about a new life for yourself away from this horror of a man.

Windyatthebeach · 13/04/2020 16:30

He can't stop you going out op. If he does please ring the police.

Splitsunrise · 13/04/2020 16:30

I really hope in time you’ll be able to see what a controlling and abusive relationship this is, and be free. It’s not normal, lovely Sad

NorthernLass75 · 13/04/2020 16:30

Going by your username there are three children in your house learning all about how men treat women and their bodies.

He’s disgusting, and you’re putting up with it.

TinglyFeets · 13/04/2020 16:30

tbh this is the only thing we argue about

If that's true then you are appeasing in other areas. Literally no one is such a dick about one single thing like this but entirely lovely about everything else.

Bluebooby · 13/04/2020 16:31

Sorry, he sounds really controlling. Not like you're on the lookout for attention when you're on the way to a cemetery!

HelloJohnGotANewMotor · 13/04/2020 16:31

My brain cannot take this in. I cannot comprehend that a person like this might actually exist. His behaviour is completely outrageous and you should not have to put up with it.

DelphiniumBlue · 13/04/2020 16:32

He won't let you go to the cemetery alone? What's it got to do with him?
He is not the boss of you.
He sounds horrible, telling you what to wear and where you can go.
Don't allow him to control you. He won't change, he thinks he has the right to take charge of your life. You are a possession to him.
I hope you don't already have children with him, because then it will be easy for you to dump him.
Run from this nasty controlling git, get awaynow. It will only get worse.

NW2SW · 13/04/2020 16:32

I've read your other thread. Please do not have a child with this man OP. Itll just be another form of control for him.

Bluebooby · 13/04/2020 16:33

He won't let you go alone? If you think the only problem with your relationship is related to your breasts you need a rethink. That's not right op.

Fairybatman · 13/04/2020 16:33

He sounds really controlling and quite nasty. You can\t help having big boobs, it sounds as if he is jealous and paranoid, and quite frankly you would be better off without him.

You can that he won't let you go places without him, are you scared of him?

You know his behaviour is not right. You should think about leaving.