Dp constantly moans about my boobs

[Mumofthree1984]

Sorry for the rant but I'm so so so pissed off. Dp constantly moans about my boobs, yes they are quite big a 38 DD/E he hated me wearing balcony bras so I took him with me to get fitted in M&S into full cup bras (his choice) a pack of two padded and 2 lacey, he was ok with these at the time. My black padded one has somehow gone missing, I'm. Sure it's in the house somewhere but with 5 of us living here probably got mixed up somewhere. Any way he hates me wearing low cut tops, when I say low cut they aren't the type that my tits are literally hanging out, in fact u can't even see my cleavage just my chest. He says it's if I. Lean forward u can see done some of them. This is becoming very very very draining. I even ripped a bra off in an argument well actually 2 now, we were going up to the cemetary to visit my dads grave, all ready to leave and he starts, we'll that tops a bit revealing, i was so angry, it's not even showing anything! I ripped the top. Off anf the bra, so. Now I'm. Down to 1 bra yes 1, i refuse to buy anymore, I can't afford it, i said why don't we just cut my boobs off, that's the last option we have. I'm not wearing turtle necks all year, so. Now I'm sat in my pyjamas really annoyed whilst he is in my room. Going through all my tops! I've had enough seriously enough

How insecure is he!! This is all his problem and not yours.

Wear what you want, when you want - he has no control over you. It's your body (boobs) and thats the end off it.

He has to deal with, I assume you had boobs when you met him so whats changed.

If he's being agressive, emotionally abusive etc -then please seek help.

I BIG boobs - no matter how you dress them, men will still look no matter what I'm wearing.

Good luck, and please seek help. A relationship should be one, where a person can choose what the other wears.

Did he not notice you have tits when you met?

Tell him it's over. Woman haters don't get to ruin women's lives any more.

Leave him. Now. You are allowed to leave an abuser during lockdown. His possessiveness and controlling behaviour is abusive.

And FTLOG don't conceive by him.

You deserve much better.

It doesn't matter what size your boobs are, they are your boobs. No one has the right to tell you which bras are acceptable and which aren't - this is not normal behaviour!

Don't put up with this. You deserve better.

First ever LTB.
I pray you realise soon how abusive this relationship is. Please leave now before bringing any children into this.

Do NOT listen to *@. Fucks sake, some people really have low bars

He KNOWS what he is doing. He enjoys controlling you.

*@givemeanamepls this is someone's life not a fucking soap opera to follow. At least have the decency to click watch thread if you want to "follow" without showing support .

Oh and the ex I had took a non molestation and restraining order to get rid of. He still occasionally pops up 2 years later with a new social media account.

There is no way he will let me go alone

Wtaf?! He has no right to tell you what to where or to decide where go and with whom! What an utter creep. OP, you do realise that none of this is acceptable in a relationship, right?

Yuk wtf why is the creature going through your clothes and telling you which bras to wear he is very very odd and has no right to tell you what to wear so tell him he's a controlling fecker and get rid of him pronto

I am following as I am also a victim of abuse @SunshineCake

Something is very very very wrong in your relationship. You need to leave him with whatever confidence and agency you have left.

I don't belive any of this. You've been with this man for a year? You have three children? He won't let you go out on your own? He went bra shopping with you so he could pick out the type of bra he wants you to wear? He's going through your shirts telling you what you can wear? You have hardly any clothes and bras and you're ripping them off yourself because he doesn't like them? And you're trying to have a baby with this man? Good luck Op.

Just here for the deletion message - previous threads include questions about a threesome with this bloke.

Why?!?!?! Because she's only been with him for a year and is trying for a baby?!

Not ideal but that certainly does NOT make her a troll for goodness sake! Some people DO try for a baby after less than a year. Sometimes it actually works out.

I doubt if that's why she has reported it. It's more likely to be the issue about going to visit a grave.

Oh bloody hell

WTAF!! You can't take your tits off!

And also WTAF he won't LET you go to the cemetery on you own.

"this is literally the only thing that causes issues, he is very insecure himself"

It's not "the only thing that causes issues" - it's the FIRST thing he's doing to control you and bring home to you that he knows best, that you're disgusting and unacceptable and you NEED him to police you, your body, your clothes and your behaviour. More will undoubtedly follow. Was it him who was keen to move in and start trying for a baby?

He's not a nice man, is he. Would you slag him off when he's going to visit his father's grave for goodness sake? go through his clothes? try to make him feel wrong all the time? He's cruel and he's testing you. Who made him the king of everything?

JFC he’s fucking nuts! I will now read everyone else’s replies and any updates, but I just had to get that in there before my phone signs me out, as it regularly does. Seriously this is not ok OP.

He's the biggest tit in all this! Get rid, life's too short

Don't listen to *@ktp100

*@givemeanamepls if that is the case then I am sorry and is suggest you start a thread if you want out

Erm, he sounds like a controlling twat and like he has huge issues. I would pack my one remaining bra and get the hell out of there

Your poor kids

Do NOT force another kid into this shitshow, it would be an act of cruelty. Dump the scumbag, there’s no justification for accepting his behaviour choices, or staying in this farce of a relationship. None. Use two types of contraception.