Dp constantly moans about my boobs

[Mumofthree1984]

Sorry for the rant but I'm so so so pissed off. Dp constantly moans about my boobs, yes they are quite big a 38 DD/E he hated me wearing balcony bras so I took him with me to get fitted in M&S into full cup bras (his choice) a pack of two padded and 2 lacey, he was ok with these at the time. My black padded one has somehow gone missing, I'm. Sure it's in the house somewhere but with 5 of us living here probably got mixed up somewhere. Any way he hates me wearing low cut tops, when I say low cut they aren't the type that my tits are literally hanging out, in fact u can't even see my cleavage just my chest. He says it's if I. Lean forward u can see done some of them. This is becoming very very very draining. I even ripped a bra off in an argument well actually 2 now, we were going up to the cemetary to visit my dads grave, all ready to leave and he starts, we'll that tops a bit revealing, i was so angry, it's not even showing anything! I ripped the top. Off anf the bra, so. Now I'm. Down to 1 bra yes 1, i refuse to buy anymore, I can't afford it, i said why don't we just cut my boobs off, that's the last option we have. I'm not wearing turtle necks all year, so. Now I'm sat in my pyjamas really annoyed whilst he is in my room. Going through all my tops! I've had enough seriously enough

Mumofthree1984 - you have to leave him. He’s abusing you and controlling you.

The only time I am wearing a top you cannot possibly see down or a tight fitting one is when I volunteer in a primary school for obvious reasons.

All other times, I just wear whatever top I like. My chest is big, I cannot help it.

Newsflash, men like boobs. They look, at everyone's. You can't stop people looking, so this is all about him, not you.

This is seriously wrong. Choosing your bras for fucks sake?

This is not normal and will not get better.

Please leave him

Hang on, I just read one of your past posts.

You’ve only been with this twerp for a year, he treats you like this, and you’re trying for a baby with him?

FFS. You’re beyond help.

I feel sad for your children.

Yes we were planning on it and this is literally the only thing that causes issues, he is very insecure himself,

Another one who agrees that, while the boob issue is very unpleasant for you, not letting you go out alone is a massive red flag. More than a red flag. It's unacceptable controlling behaviour and is abuse.

Ffs... LTB. And that's the first ever time I've said that!

Mumofthree1984 - you have to leave him. He’s abusing you and controlling you.

This sounds like essential travel, so should be OK.

Yes I’ve reported this thread. I may be wrong OP, but I don’t want well intentioned people wasting their time

It will get even worse . My DD is slim but has large breasts ( 34hh) and her controlling ex was the same - polo neck jumpers or button up tops . He also went through her tops and made her get rid of anything low cut . Then it was short dresses , then tight dresses , then heels .
He is an abusive controlling bastard 💐

What?? He won't let you go out alone?

Bin him while you can OP. His behaviour is completely unacceptable. You deserve to be able to dress how you like and be proud if your body. This man has no right to treat you like this.

You just can't help some people (if this is real)

Oh my lord, I'm actually speechless! It is NEVER acceptable for a partner to tell you what to wear. EVER. It is never acceptable for him to 'not let' you do things like go shopping alone. This is his issue, not yours. You absolutely should not have a baby with this excuse of a man. I don't care how lovely he is in other respects (if he is) - nothing can excuse this behaviour. There is no option, you have to get rid of him - he's showing his true colours and he will only get worse. PLEASE LTB!!

It's the only thing that causes issues??!!!

Isn't it a big enough thing for you to leave him?

FFS-& you want a baby with a twat who moans about your tits & wants you to hide them??

“This” is not the only thing causing issues. He is causing the issue.
Please recognise that this is not normal. It’s domestic abuse and if you have a child with him it will get worse.
He may be insecure but that doesn’t give him the right to take it out on you. Please read more on the Relationships board and listen to the amazing women on this forum.

Not "letting" you go alone is a massive flag for abuse. Please get rid of him and do the Freedom programme to learn how to avoid this type of man in the future!

Complain about his dick and say you are getting an upgrade.

"You just can't help some people (if this is real)"

Yes.

You read some things & really hope that it's someone pratting about!

He is honestly being ridiculous!

This is sick. LTB.

This is without a doubt, one of the worst examples of emotional abuse I've ever read on Mumsnet.

Women's Aid https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE go on their website and start a live chat with them. Lock yourself in the bathroom if you have to

Not even a mum would say that to her daughter in the only one instance possible in order to advise to cover herself up for safety (if, say, you’d need to walk through an ill famed neighbourhood).
Or maybe to walk into a place of worship.
So basically he doesn’t want to see any skin showing on your chest at all. At home as well as when out in public? Not that it would make any difference.
Nobody has to right to tell you what to wear. You are grown woman who dresses appropriately for the occasion. He knew what you were wearing before today so it’s been on his mind right from the start. He is insecure and controlling and he’s bringing out the worst in you causing you rip up your own clothes in desperation and anger.
Put a stop to this as soon as you can. I can’t see how can this possibly get better. Even if you comply to keep the peace (which you shouldn’t) he’d find something else to demand of you.

You called your ex a toxic bitter man who messes about and confuses your dc and now you have brought this controlling bullying creep into their lives?
And you are thinking about trying for a baby with him? You need to think about the children you already have.

If you can't get rid of him for yourself please do it for your children!
And then work on your self confidence so you don't keep ending up with these awful men.

OP you need to take heed of the people giving you good advice. You are with an abuser. You are suffering from domestic abuse. It doesn't matter that this is the only thing that you argue about. It doesn't matter if he is insecure. You can't help him with that by allowing him to dictate your clothing and only leaving the house under his supervision.

Protect yourself and do what you need to do to leave.

What the actual?

No. Just no. Leave him. Wear whatever you want.