Dp constantly moans about my boobs

[Mumofthree1984]

Sorry for the rant but I'm so so so pissed off. Dp constantly moans about my boobs, yes they are quite big a 38 DD/E he hated me wearing balcony bras so I took him with me to get fitted in M&S into full cup bras (his choice) a pack of two padded and 2 lacey, he was ok with these at the time. My black padded one has somehow gone missing, I'm. Sure it's in the house somewhere but with 5 of us living here probably got mixed up somewhere. Any way he hates me wearing low cut tops, when I say low cut they aren't the type that my tits are literally hanging out, in fact u can't even see my cleavage just my chest. He says it's if I. Lean forward u can see done some of them. This is becoming very very very draining. I even ripped a bra off in an argument well actually 2 now, we were going up to the cemetary to visit my dads grave, all ready to leave and he starts, we'll that tops a bit revealing, i was so angry, it's not even showing anything! I ripped the top. Off anf the bra, so. Now I'm. Down to 1 bra yes 1, i refuse to buy anymore, I can't afford it, i said why don't we just cut my boobs off, that's the last option we have. I'm not wearing turtle necks all year, so. Now I'm sat in my pyjamas really annoyed whilst he is in my room. Going through all my tops! I've had enough seriously enough

And all the dead cat thing did was give him a chance to be a public hero.
Sadly it wasn't about helping you at all.

Bloody hell he should be loving your boobs and complimenting them, not shaming you. You can hardly wear high necks all the time! You need to wake up op this isn’t acceptable

He's an abusive prick. He's not a lovely bloke. He's showing you exactly who he is and you're ignoring it because he gets on with your family and helped you move a dead cat?

Is this someone you would want to raise your children? Telling daughters to cover up because he didn't want men looking at them, and teaching sons that this is an acceptable way to treat a woman?

This isn't ok Op, and it's not a small issue. It's a giant red flashing light. You're worth more than this.

I'd go and sit in the garden with my tits out and tell him to pack his bag and fuck off.

@LovingLola I am worried it will be more serious than what bras the OPs daughters wear . @Mumofthree1984 this dickhead is creepy. You live with three young daughters who will grow up to be teenagers and young women with breasts, bottoms, attractive bodies. Scares the hell out of me that you can't see the danger you could all be in.

I have a very bad feeling about this guy...

He’s is controlling and abusive . He knew you were going to the cemetery to see your Dad , but even that wasn’t enough for him to keep his opinions to himself . No he’s rather you were upset , just as long as he got his point across . God , people like that suck !!!
When he met you he knew that they were part of the package , so what the fuck is his problem
He’s insecure , yeah , and that’s your problem because .... oh wait ,that’s right , it’s not yours at all is it , it’s all him .
He needs to get a grip , and you need to be watching him in your rear view mirror .
Stay , and being controlled will be an everyday part of your life . Get married , have kids ,and You can times that by 100. .

First LTB from me! He is controlling and creepy. No excuse for this

As an aside @Mumofthree1984 I think cemetery's are closed. Certainly our local one is, so you might want to check before you go.

This is controlling and abusive behaviour. I'd try and leave or get him to leave ASAP

Mumofthree1984, anyone can act in a way where it looks like they have empathy.....psychopaths (i'm not saying that he is one) are actually fascinated by normal peoples emotions because they don't feel them, they study them and then act them out when they think they should!

I'm convinced my ex had Narcissistic personality disorder, he had no empathy when he was hurting people....if all else failed and he was trying to win me back he was great at acting like he had some empathy, but it wasn't actually real, it was a way of getting me to like him again and think he was a good person to suck me back in.

It's extremely common that very abusive men are incredibly charming to others and seem like nice guys, and everyone would be shocked if they knew the truth.

Now maybe your partner doesn't have any kind of personality disorder or anything like that and i'm not saying that he does, just pointing out that you can't point out isolated incidents where he showed empathy and use them as proof of anything when their other actions show that they are also capable of treating people very badly. It is not right at all what he's doing, and if you put up with that long term it can cause you a lot of emotional trauma later in life and in future relationships.

They treat you badly, apologise and blame it on their own issues, you feel sorry for them, and pity and think they can't help it but that they're trying to sort it out so they're a good guy deep down. No one ever changes that way.
Then things will be all good again. You will go out of your way to make sure your boobs are hidden again because you don't want to make it difficult for the poor mite when he's trying and he's 'sorry. and then the same stuff starts again when you buy a new top or a new bra or he doesn't like what you choose to wear on a certain day.

If he was genuinely sorry he'd be looking into some kind of therapy to control his responses when he feels that way so he can stop being controlling or posessive.

This is abuse, pure and simple.

I'm a 36g when I was pregnant a breast feeding I went up to a H. You've got big boobs he needs to get over it. That's so controlling.

Havent read full thread yet... but just wanted to say this is how it starts.
"but hes a nice guy, hes just stressed" "it just wasnt him" "everything else is ok" "I know he didn't mean it it wont happen again"

Starts with mild possesivness and jealousy masked as their "love" for you.

Ends in no friends left, isolated, and if your as lucky as me... numerous broken bones....

So many red flags I cant even tell you. But until you see them yourself. It doesnt matter what anyone else says....

Just because he's better than your ex doesn't mean he's any good.

You know what, even apart from the boob issue, it sounds like the last thing you need right now is another baby. You're stressed, tired, skint, juggling work and childcare. Why would you add to this even with a great partner, which this guy clearly isn't. You already have a 4th infant.. Him. Pathetic insecure man child who bullies a woman since presumably no-one else let's him. I know its easy for us to say LTB but you left your ex, dealt with that. You can do this.

Nobody owes us updates on this thread of course but from the silence I'm assuming you've stayed with this man and are continuing to believe you want a baby together?

I usually go topless at the beach. I remember years back, going away for a weekend with a then boyfriend, who started creating when l took my bra off in the sunshine. Goodness me, people could see!

We didn’t go away again! Or anything else.

The scenarios are similar.

Op, moving dead cats aside, it is NOT acceptable for him to treat you like that. You can wear whatever fucking bra you want...you know that, right?

He was sorting through your clothes?! He is an abusive controlling prick who you need to get rid off. It will be hard but you will be able to live your life to the full once he is gone. Wear what you want when you want. Celebrate your body and don't let an absolute creep like that control who you are. I'm so angry for you!