Dating Thread 187 - Love in the Time of Corona

[JeSuisPrest]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

I am really missing Mr M
He is apparently also ill and completely AWOL and I had relied too much on us still being in contact
I think me being ill and isolated is making me feel worse

@Menora Personally I would remove Mr M. You are relying on someone there, for whatever reason - friendship/support/poss relationship who is not reliable.

@EchoElephant Enjoy

simon I was looking at sign language today I think it’s free for under 18s. My kids are tiny 2 and 4 but I wondered if my 4 year old (and I) could learn it

Warning this is going to be a rant. So feel free to ignore me, I just need to get it all out.

Had a voicemail from my cheating bastard of an ex so I called him. He wants me to stop seeing Mr Army. He doesn't know his name I just told him that I have started seeing someone. He interrogated me as to what I have been doing for the past year. Where the fuck does he get off thinking he can integrate me and tell me not to see someone. Apparently he wants me back. That what I have been told about him is lies and he was just on a bad place last year. I don't believe any of it. I'm not the same person I was when I was with him apparently. No because I grew up, I got stronger. I stopped believing his crap.

I'm finally in a good place in life and he wants to come along and try to ruin it. If only we weren't in social distancing because I could really use a girls night and a glass of wine. I have neither unfortunately

dancer well done, you’ve seen straight through him and his crap! Not sure why you’re even still in touch with him though...

@tigerdater he left me a voicemail asking me to call him to see if I was okay with all the covid-19 going around. Just a load of crap to tell me he went through a lot last year and wants me back.
Too little too late.
It seems like some men dont like it when a woman is strong, knows what she deserves and stands up for herself

@Marlboroandmalbec34 You could, I started when MiniSJT arrived at about 20 months, we’re both not too shabby at it now.

So we’re in full lockdown, I’m not surprised, it was needed two weeks ago really. Our little building has a small courtyard, tonight people have been taking turns to perform down there so we can all watch.

Hopefully this lock down will stave off the ever increase in infection. They are reporting in Italy that there seems to have been a drop in cases and they have been in lock down for 2 weeks.

I hope everyone with partners, irons/dates who they aren't exclusive with will keep in contact with them and are able to see each other as soon as it is all over.

It's the wrong time to ask Mr Army about being exclusive. He has had a stressful day and he is going to be busy until this is all over. I just have to hope like so many of you that the contact stays regular and that he wants to see me again/pick up where we left off when it is all over

But it's not really full lock down is it? It's really unclear as usual. Too many possibilities with it. How will they police it? There aren't enough bloody police anymore. At least I can still have a run.

Oh dear, just heard the news about the lockdown and it's left me feeling pretty bleak. I have no idea if the DC can/will/should go to XP this coming weekend...I know that I have slightly precarious mental health, and all the coping strategies that I have so painstakingly put in place are being ripped away one by one. Looks like I may get no break from the kids- at all, whatsoever, no proper exercise (DS2 is 4 and can't walk much more than a mile or two), potentially won't be able to go to the allotment, and at the moment I haven't got a van, because I took it into the local town today to get its MOT work done, and we caught the bus back.

Let alone not being able to see Mr Shipwreck for the forseeable. Mr Sparky messaged this morning suggesting a nice, socially-distanced walk in the park, but obviously that's off the cards, too.

I've no idea if I can work. I can't work from home but my work isn't essential.
I'm self employed so no work means no money.

Hi all. I'm male, 28, not very successful on OLD over the years in terms of matches or message responses. On match apps (bumble, tinder) I'm lucky to get maybe 3 matches a month, usually zero replies to any messages. On POF I send out lots of messages but rarely get responses and even when I do the chat typically dies (me having sent the last message, including some questions)

Also have the habit of just going for the first person who seems interested in me (which takes months) without actually weighing up if they're right for me or ignoring warning signs. That approach has affected my past relationships.

I guess with the current situation and the fact I'm not going to be meeting anyone for a date anytime soon, it might be best to take stock of my profile and how I message people online.

Objectively I am not very good looking in the face/hair. I have a slim/athletic build and was training with weights at the gym regularly until the shutdown. However I do drive, I have my own place, I am well paid and I am sane. I have a DS aged 5 who I see regularly, so I mention that in my profile on some apps (unsure of best approach)

Would anyone be happy to review my profiles via PM? I suppose ideally of similar age to me

Also any recommendations with regards to photos? Mine aren't the best and include selfies and group ones where my prominence varies. I've been tempted to spend a fortunr on a fancy new iPhone or Samsunf with good portrait mode just so I can get some nicer ones!

Well well, I think there’s a corona time romance brewing here. It might just add a little cheer. We have been talking non stop for 2 days. And it will probably have to stay that way for quite sometime. Let’s see what he’s made of..😁

@crackofdoom I had two very upset kids and very upset ex husband last night because of this then this morning a friend sent the following to me so I think we’re ok...

I can’t believe they didn’t add the clause straight away, but then I realised that Boris is unlikely to give a shit about his children.

I'd imagine the online dating scene will increase due to extra time at home, lots of sexting, dick pics and aimless chats.

Glad they have clarified re shared care. My BF not sure what to do as he has his DC EOW but lives with a vulnerable parent. I'd offered to have them here but that's not ok anymore under the rules. He'd planned to take him out for the day if he couldn't bring him home. Again not permitted now. So it looks like they won't see each other until we are out of lockdown.

I went to get my 18 year old from their partner's last night as wasn't sure if I'd be able to get them today. They are currently very upset.

Yes @SimonJT, I think you’re right. He doesn’t really live in the real world does BJ.

Also re BSL-a close friend of mine is profoundly deaf and feels more isolated than most at the best of times so she is really struggling at the moment with lack of social (ie face to face) contact so I’m going to try and learn too.

Sunshineandflipflops thank you for sharing that info. I can now sort out some arrangements for my daughter.

Hi

Does that mean kids from separated parents can see the other parent ? Didn’t seem very clear although I am currently bed bound with this awful virus now I wouldn’t wish it on anyone I am a single parent with no family or friends locally and can’t leave the house for at least 14 days. On the plus on tinder and there are some concerned irons on there I guess people will get bored but I don’t usually like a big build up but I guess we have little choice .

@shitwithsugaron I know that but was thinking once we are over isolation if me my daughter and her dad are all well etc ?

Sorry should have said DD and EXH