Dating Thread 187 - Love in the Time of Corona

[JeSuisPrest]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

I've picked up some god awful flu but don't think it's CV, no cough (yet at least). Self isolating anyway and feel like shit. Hope everyone picks up soon, and your DD gets the meds she needs unambiguous
MrC hasn't been in touch to see how I am managing and it's pissing me off an irrational amount

Good morning and 💐 to all in these trying times. We will get through this if we support each other and keep our eyes on the strangest of prizes - normality!

It’s possible that Mr GN will be wfh at my place Wednesday-Friday, which will be awesome. But chances are it won’t happen, in which case 🤷‍♀️ we will have to wait it out. I feel pretty fatalistic about everything really, a bit numb. What will be will be.

My hayfever is out in force today. Everyone round here is cutting their grass so made a request for my antihistamines. Going to sort out my wardrobe today. I have a habit of buying clothes for a life I don't leed of going to fancy cocktail parties etc. Not going to get rid of them, going to store them away. Need to slim back down into my summer dresses.
Feeling at a loose end as I'm sure most of the UK is

@UtterSocks Yes, he literally lives in the next flat, more importantly when they’re out I can see Rocky, Archie and Cooper. I used to be on the same rugby team as his boyfriend, small world.

@SimonJT Russell Tovey and his hot boyfriend as eye candy!!! Jealous!!

Steve (who made some, er, very ‘personal’ videos a few years ago under the name of ryan stack) and I gave ourselves matching handlebar moustaches last night.

In other news, we had been worried that covid-19 would put a stop to MrNNs citizenship, especially as he is now officially unemployed. Well, as of 10am this morning he is officially a British citizen.

@SimonJT great news about the citizenship, a huge weight off both your minds no doubt.

How is everyone else doing?

Aw that's great news @SimonJT. Hurrah for you and Mr NN!

@Dancerinthemoonlight I feel I might as well bin everything but my pyjamas the way things are going .... so bored!

Glad it's not C19 @menora

@SimonJT great news about Mr NN

Feeling tearful. Mr B and I have agreed not to see each other for the foreseeable. He lives with a parent in a vulnerable group and has to go to work. I'd consider him moving in but my teens wouldn't like that and it's their home and their needs come first. So we will be seeing other virtually for a while. It feels ridiculous to be so upset when we are in the middle of such a crisis. But it's times of crises when we seek out support and comfort from others the most.

Hope everyone is staying well.

notcool bless you. It’s ok to be upset. Not ridiculous at all.

Great news simon

Aw hope DD is ok unambiguous

Sorry to everyone feeling poorly and/or down. I think it will hit us all at some point as we're just not used to being cooped up.

Mr Ad is still here and on the whole it's been lovely to have him. He washes up, cooks some meals, helps clean my cat (even though he hates them) and keeps me company when the DC are at their dad's.

If he goes home while all this is going on then I've told him I probably won't be able to see him until it's over as he lives in a house share so increased rick of transmission

I am a little worried that if we go into lockdown the DC won't be able to see their dad (who they spend 40% of their time with) but am hoping if this happens there will be a few exemptions like there have been on other countries, including children seeing both parents in the case of shared custody.

@SimonJT great news about Mr NN.

@Notcoolmum not ridiculous at all but you seem like you both are pretty solid together and this time will pass quickly.

I think this will be a test of everyone really. I know for me, it makes me feel stronger in myself that dating has definitely taken a back seat and I know I'll be in a better position to date when this all blows over.

@SimonJT that's brilliant news. Flowers to UA's daughter and @Menora - I'm glad it isn't C19 but there are still some horrible bugs out there. @Notcoolmum it's understandable to be upset x

@Dancerinthemoonlight snap! I'm about to walk round the block for some air (I live in a flat). I'm sure my sneezing will cause everyone to give me a wide berth!

@Notcoolmum I think i'll be joining you shortly as Mr Ad feels he should go home on Friday so I've just told him that I won't see him until it's safe. He is more relaxed about the whole thing but I explained that I can't risk him being around 4 other people who are coming and going in the same house and then being around my kids. He is clean but his housemates aren't and there is no way surfaces and things will be kept clean enough to be safe at his house.

Notcoolmum sorry to hear you're feeling upset

SimonJT happy news for Mr NN, that's great

unambiguousbeard hope your daughter gets the meds she needs and gets better soon.

Sunshineandflipflops I was wondering what happens to joint custody during lock down. I don't think I could cope if my daughter had to stay with her dad for weeks and weeks.
She'd be well looked after but I would be very worried.

Eesha I'm hoping this enforced dating break will be good for me. But it's also brought home just how lonely I get without someone, even just a potential iron to chat to.
I've been single for so long now that I wonder if I'll ever meet the right person. It's going to be difficult not to lower my standards and just settle for any one because I don't want to be on my own any more.

Coming back to the dating thread myself just to see how everyone is. I'm still with 'Mr. Dr' who I met last October and we have a LDR. He has been WFH for the past 2 weeks so has had minimal contact with anyone except for supermarket shopping etc. I went to stay with him this weekend and suspect it could be the last for a fair while...I don't know! It all seems daunting, but so be it if we have to go into lockdown.

@Notcoolmum and @sunshineandflipflops I’ve done the same can’t risk bringing it home.

@sunshineandflipflops it will be ok, you and Mr Ad sound like you have a good thing going on so time will pass quickly.

@EchoElephant I know where you are coming from but I think dating will change a lot after this. You might too and maybe need to rethink what you are looking for.

@Eesha Thanks, I know you're right and I am very grateful for technology right now. People had to do worse than this in the war and there was no way of communicating with others back then so I guess we all need to bear that in mind.

It's not like either of us would go looking for anyone else, even if that were an option!

As much as it’s really hard, this is not forever, I know that’s easy for me to say as MrNN is here, but we will all get through this, including the shit parts.

However, in our times of boredom please consider learning BSL. My son is hearing impaired, his aids are good, but in a group he can’t differentiate between sounds very well. It’s also an easy way to talk to someone through a window, or in our case our neighbour has learned some so he can speak to my son from his roof terrace. British sign have an online course available, it usually costs about £70, at the moment you can pay anything whether that’s £0 or £50. Imagine being able to speak a new language at the end of social distancing.

Also, if you need cheering up follow godsofrugby on instagram.

Eesha I hope you're right about dating changing after this.

I'd like to think that it will. In the 5 years I've been doing OLD, I feel like manners and basic respect have almost disappeared.
Everything is about an instant connection and if you don't have the right look or age then you're immediately rejected. There seem to be very few who want to commit to anything long term because there's always the chance that someone better might come along.

I'm not sure how OLD will change. I'd like to try some old fashioned match making. But that's because I'm seem to be really bad at choosing the right match 😂

@SimonJT thank you for that. My mum is profoundly hearing impaired, completely deaf in her right ear and hearing aid in her left ear. I already know a little bsl but that's a good thing to keep me occupied with.

Haven't heard from Mr Army yet today but I know from a friend in Wales in the army that it's manic and stressful in their camp as they try to get prepared for stepping in. I presume it's like that for Mr Army so I'm not worried. He will text me when he can

@SimonJT Just tried to sign up for the BSL course. Looks like it's really popular!
I'm currently in a queue to use the website. Over 5000 users ahead of me .

But I'm browsing through your Insta recommendation while I wait