Dating Thread 187 - Love in the Time of Corona

[JeSuisPrest]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Also I’ve no cat litter but I am giving up on finding that all together

Fresh produce is easy to get here, lots of farms sell direct so eggs, milk, cheese and meat are ok. I have a fussy dd who has a very limited diet, she’s going to have to eat a few things she won’t like because I can buy much bread (about all she eats).

Mr ski is now sending me dirty messages, I think he’s getting desperate and keeps asking me if I can meet him somehow 😐

Hello! Well, glad to see the new thread...AND the new thread title!

I guess things are going to be pretty quiet round here for a while....I'm sitting here chatting to Mr Sparky and Mr Shipwreck...one by text, and one by Kik....Mr Shipwreck, has taken the opportunity of this enforced leisure to write and send me a really quite lovely tune he's composed; he said he was thinking of me when he wrote it....(goes a little smushy).

Morning all, posted before under a different name but didn't say much so nothing to recall. Happy Mothers Day to all, hope you manage a nice day in these strange times.
Have been distancing for a week now and it's getting a little easier as new routine sets in. With a young dc who doesn't understand it's a bit challenging at times though!
Obviously not actively dating just now, have a "bf" of 8 months met OLD anyway, but wouldn't want to meet anyone new. A bit torn as to whether or not I should still see him (will call Mr Charming/C) like many of you.. Wouldn't be til tomorrow so will mull it over today.

Hello, I was dating mr submarine ... but due to cv have paused, lots of messages. We weren't exclusive but I certainly won't be meeting anyone new, maybe this forced slowdown may actually help a potential relationship?

An iron that I dated for 3 months last year has been in touch....almost forgot how much I liked him, we split due to distance which is irrelevant at the moment!

Stay safe ....

Checking in so I don't have to keep clicking on the link on the last one!
Hope everyone is doing okay and feeling well.
Today's social distancing activity involves emptying a storage cupboard by my room in an attempt to declutter and use this time at home doing something useful - wish me luck!

You can be contagious 4-5 days before any symptoms so it’s just not worth seeing anyone who isn’t in your home or if you have an essential job. Or if you and they stay in 2 weeks you are both clear and can see each other as much as you want. I’m not seeing mr g and he’s not even seeing his kids as their younger sibling has a health condition. It is horrid and hard but everyone is in the same position and the more people stay in the quicker it’s over.

I am ill. I am not sure if I have CV yet though

Happy Mothers Day

@Menora look after yourself, hope you've got friends/family who can drop some shopping off to you, I know you said you were low on some stuff.
@unambiguousbeard how's your daughter?

Ant it is worse as I went to the NHS shopping morning at Tesco and when I got back I started to feel ill

I ache and my chest feels rough

@menora hope you are ok x

You can't help that @Menora I went shopping on Monday and I didnt feel poorly till Tues night, and as Jane said CV is contagious upto 5 days before any symptoms show. Hope you got enough shopping in 👍

I wish I hadn’t had to go bloody shopping! I can’t get anything online

Mr M actually has done some shopping for me and is dropping it off later tonight. I just picked up a few things I needed and combined I think it will last us 2 weeks. The DD’s can’t bloody cook which is going to be a test

I’m asthmatic so I am preparing for perhaps this being bad, I knew I was likely to catch this. I’ve told DD1 that all my bills are on DD and just take my card for food if I end up in hospital and my friends will help them out with anything else.

Ex has asked DD to babysit for them next week to help them out
I think she shouldn’t go now and this is going to cause a real problem

Think that's down to your ex to make the sensible decision, it's just common sense!

And I dont know if I've got CV but I'm a bit short of breath and chest feels tight, so look after yourself 😉

Hi everyone

Checking in. Still pretty heartbroken over Big but I keep finding out more stuff he was up to. I just can’t believe after 14 months he hasn’t made any effort to try and contact me and apologise.He did message me before I blocked him but it was so cold!

I have new irons and I am virtual dating. Phone calls and hopefully skype. I will call them; Mr Painter, Mr Pirate, Mr YM and Mr Cress. We will see. The worlds all upside down so it’s a nice distraction. I won’t be meeting anyone until this has passed.

Look after yourself menora and all of the dating gang 😘

This too shall pass.

Aw @Marlboroandmalbec34 Mr S was the same. His last text to me was icy. And like an idiot I find myself wondering how he is now as his illness was immune related. He lives in a shared house. I assume he will have gone back to his wife. Not that it has anything to do with me. But my feelings were genuine and it's hard to switch off all concern. For us at least!!

Oh dear @menora. So you and the kids will be self isolating now for 2 weeks. Hope there is someone to check up on you and get provisions you need.

Hope you are ok too @ant330

That’s exactly the same notcool big has an underlying condition. He will be very isolated at the minute and even though he is an absolute fucking dick I’m worried for him. He probably isn’t giving me a 2nd thought though!

Hope you’re ok ant

I hope you’re okay @Marlboroandmalbec34

A friend has returned home so he dropped some shopping at the door earlier, actual non-takeaway food! He also found cat litter, what a hero.

In even better news my new gym equipment has arrived, this will make me a much nicer person to live with.

Has anyone else twigged that we are in an actual episode of years and years?

Yes I'm fine thanks. If it wasnt for the self isolating I'd be carrying on as normal just feeling a bit under the weather.
Just sad today that I can't go down to my mum's garden at the crematorium with some flowers. But I might go without any later this afternoon and if the car park is reasonably empty I'll go in.

Hi @SimonJT yes, I have been thinking of Years and Years! And the way when I watched it I marveled at how the characters carried on as normal, making jokes and having affairs as they sleep walked into a nightmare. But I guess that's human behaviour....

@Menora and @Ant330 hope you are both ok. Keep safe and try to eat healthy food. I've had no trouble with shopping, have even got stuff for a neighbour but there is no online delivery available where I live for weeks so have to go out and witnessed someone having a full on panic attack in my local shop yesterday, shaking and crying

Am also super stressed as my son is at University still and has mumps (and yes he was vaccinated but loads of them have it). So he can't come home and I am terrified we will go into lockdown and he will be stranded. He sent me the loveliest Mother's Day message though and has ordered me a punchbag which I really wanted. I also have a pull up bar and have ordered a Les Mills smartbar, and subscribed to Les Mills on Demand, plus my gym is doing workout videos for us. So I can at least keep fit.

Mr Science is on hold for now with this coronavirus stuff. I did see Mr Beard at his flat on Friday, probably for the last time in ages, and I started to get the feels for him big time. Which makes me really sad, as I think it's too early days for us to ride this out and he has a lot of other stuff to worry about. This utterly sucks. Am thinking of getting a puppy!

Oh and @unambiguousbeard I hope your DD is ok xxx

Thanks for the new thread, I’m really struggling, the dcs have been at stbxh all weekend, so I’ve worked myself into a panic trying to work out what to do, my eldest can still go to her special needs school, but advice is only if she has to, my worry is what happens when I get sick (assuming this is inevitable, though hoping not too bad) if it’s anywhere near as bad as flu I won’t be able to look after the kids on my own, stbxh life’s with elderly parents so can’t collect children who’ll be contagious, I’ve been texting him asking him what his plan is and getting silence!! Sorry to rant but I’m a bit scared. I hurt my foot, I couldn’t walk at all Friday morning, rang the stbxh to hell get dds to school, which he did but that’s all rocked up and left, I got a phone all from my eldest a school to check I was ok as she’s gone in and told them she was worried about me not being able to get myself a drink or food, how can this occur to a 8 year old and not a 48 year old man, but then we’re separated and obviously it’s not his concern if I have a glass of water in reach or not! Foots much better now but just shown me how vulnerable I am, and I hate it!!

Hit FAB for distraction have an assortment of irons, it’s working to keep the panic down, I wouldn’t give most of them the time of day most of the time but it’s actually proving an Interesting interaction, I’ve had a cheesecake recipe, too much underwear suggestions, actually a lot interesting chats about lingerie! One who’s love bombing but so obviously a catfish!! More entertaining than anything I can find on Netflix!!