Dating Thread 187 - Love in the Time of Corona

[JeSuisPrest]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Menora and Ant330 hope you both feel better soon.

Stuckinarut79 sorry to hear your ex is been a dick and not helping more. I understand what you mean about being vulnerable. I don't think I've ever felt so alone as I do now.

shitwithsugaron your new iron sounds great. Hope you can get to see each other again soon.

I deleted all the apps a couple of weeks ago because I didn't want to be going on dates with new people.

Now I'm wondering if I was a bit hasty and I should've just tried to keep some chats going. Apart from the odd text from a friend, I have almost zero social interaction at the moment - either RL or virtual.
I'll have forgotten what it's like to talk to another person soon.

Are people keeping their dating profiles active with online chats or just not bothering for now?

@EchoElephant you can always PM me if you want a chat x. I am very sociable and this is killing me. I am spamming friends I haven’t seen for years 😂

@UtterSocks thank you! Feel free to PM me as well
Although you may regret making that offer when I bore you with my daily cleaning routine or whatever else I'm doing to keep myself amused.

Anyone can feel free to pm me aswell for a chat.
Looks like this will be going on for awhile yet. Just the other day I was making plans with Mr Army for my birthday in 6 weeks (have him early notice to be free) and now I'm probably not going to be seeing him let alone going out anywhere.
We hadn't had the exclusive chat yet - I was waiting until around 4-6 dates in to take it slowly even though I'm not talking to anyone else. It completed seems like the wrong time now to be having the conversation

I have had a few messages on POF today but can’t see the point in replying, not as though we can go on a date .

Mr ski is annoying me, he keeps trying to persuade me to see him, so far today he’s asked if I can go over, meet in secret and has suggested I go over for dinner next week and bring my kids with me. I don’t think he really understands this social distancing thing.

Don't all start PMing each other and desert the thread though!

@Ant330 glad you're feeling a bit better. I'm starting to wonder if DD actually has tonsillitis. She's really ill and I thought kids were not supposed to get it badly. Plus she's got a huge strawberry/white tongue and her breath is horrendous. No bloody idea. But I have to assume it's the virus. And how would I get antibiotics anyway?

Mr U has really pissed me off. I told him yesterday dd was ill and he hadn't messaged to ask how we are. He's worried about his business. But has posted onSM that he's all over town. Fucking idiot.

Mr football gone quiet. Mr baggage popped back up. Moved to what's app from insta. I might have a nose on FAB in a week or so. I do like sexting and if I'm not going to meet them it's fine. Doesn't matter what they're like in RL. And can't date.

@Dancerinthemoonlight yeah it's a terrible time to start a relationship.

@EchoElephant I hear you re the loneliness. I'm glued to WhatsApp and my friends on there. But it's only day 3.

@Dancerinthemoonlight If you’ve for something to say to him I’d say it.

I’ve had a chat with mr g. We both will be working more hours and I have my daughter to teach too. He can’t really see his kids and his spare time he’ll be contacting them. So we might have more patchy contact but over the next weeks and months but we’ll pick up when everything is over. We aren’t each other’s priority which is fine as we have to put our jobs, kids, family etc first. It’s horrid for everyone

Is years and years going to increase my anxiety or a good watch? @SimonJT @UtterSocks

I'm very tempted to send him a text asking him but then if it's not the answer I want then I know I'm going to be upset. At the same time that would apply now Vs later. I want to firmly plant my bum on the smitten bench as I really like him and he is so different to anyone I have dated but I'm scared he won't feel the same way

Kind of sent a cop out message saying that there is so much in the news about covid-19 and nothing about the earthquake in Croatia. That it's going to be a trying time for people in relationships and dating (not sure what to classify us as but I know what I'd like to) so sort of a clarifying message but at the same time leaving it light

@Dancerinthemoonlight I hope you get the answer you want.

I take a break from this thread for 2 weeks, and the whole world changes!! I hope everyone is well, and staying relatively cheerful. The whole world is changing, and it's pretty crazy and scary.

I went away for a couple of days which helped clear my head, and although I still think about Miss Confusing every day, I think I'm much closer to being over her. I sneaked a look at her Instagram recently and she's abroad at the moment in a country where she used to live - I'm not sure whether she has moved for good, or was just on holiday rising old friends and is now stuck there but I think that has made it easier to accept.

I've seen Miss Haircut a couple more times, and am liking her more the more time I spend with her - although not sure what will happen now as she's a key worker, and likely to be very busy in the coming weeks/months, even with out the social distancing rules. It's tough as she isn't particular chatty on WhatsApp at the best of times, so it's going to be quite hard keeping things going if we don't get to see each other for the foreseeable future.

i haven't deleted the apps yet, but I don't really have much enthusiasm for going on there at the moment as I want to see where things go with Miss H.

My parents are both vulnerable, my dad especially so as he is in a care home, so I've been keeping myself away from them. Luckily I can work from home, so have been doing that for the last week and only popping outside to get food from the local shops.

I've been coughing and sneezing too since the start of the week, so have been feeling a bit rubbish, but no fever or aches so I think it's just a cold but as I suffer from asthma it has been a bit worrying.

Looking at the positives though - my kitchen is the tidiest and cleanest it's been in many years!

@Jane1978xx thank you. I hope I do aswell. I know I won't hear until the morning/some time tomorrow as he will be asleep by now and work will probably be fill on tomorrow.
Im going to try not to text until I hear from him. It's hard though. I know that I don't want to see or talk to anyone apart from him, stopped talking to all other irons and cancelled my date with Mr Smile a few weeks ago.
He said that he was really glad I came on Friday night and we have both perviously said that we are happy and excited to see where this goes. So hopefully it will be a positive answer.
To me a positive answer would be that we are exclusively dating, somewhere between dating and a relationship or a relationship. Essentially more than a fwb and that he isn't seeing anyone else

@dancerinthemoonlight I don’t think most people can physically see anyone else at the moment so the best answer might be he Wants to carry on when you can see each other again.

@jane1978xx that might be the best answer at the moment. When I left on Friday he said he'd let me know when he was free so we could see each other.
I suppose I just hope that he isn't talking to anyone else but there isn't anything I can do if he is.
I feel a bit silly of sending the message now but it's been over an hour since I sent it so I can't delete it. Think it might be a sleepless night tonight. It might be awhile before he texts me but he always messages me back.

@Menora and @Ant330 I hope you both feel better soon And @unambiguousbeard I really hope your daughter starts to feel better soon.

@Stuckinarut79 it really is a time where you'd hope everyone (including exes) would pull together, I hope you're ok.

I live alone and worry about something happening to me I'm on my local FB group and there does seem to be some amazing rallying round.

It looks to be a beautiful day here in London - the birds are singing their little hearts out 🐦

@Stuckinarut79 It is a good watch, as much as some bits may be a bit close to home, it does have some funny bits in as well. Some bits however are quite harrowing. My fit neighbour is in it as well, as Danny.

It’s very odd not going to work today or rushing to get MiniSJT ready for school.
I have made todays timetable I have scheduled in a “leave Dad alone” slot, which I’m most looking forward to. We’re starting with Joe Wicks PE at 9.

I’m on day 9 of wearing nothing but pants, it’s worked wonders for doing laundry. It’s really sunny here and not windy for once so I’m sat on the balcony with the cat. No one else will wake up until about 8:30.

@SimonJT I loved Years and Years!!!! Brilliant show though I can't imagine rewatching now in these times. Russell Tovey.....swoon....he needs to be my gay best friend

So it turns out that DD has something else. Symptoms have become very obvious and we have a gp phone appointment as she needs meds for it. I won't say what as it's unusual and might be outing. Not sure if I'm relieved or not! But explains why she's so bloody ill.

@BatshitCrazyWoman I'm really not far away if you need anything.

I’m sorry she is still ill @unambiguousbeard, but now they know what it is hopefully she will be feeling better soon.

@Stuckinarut79 definitely watch Years and Years. And @SimonJT can you see Russell Tovey from your balcony? Very jealous!

@unambiguousbeard my son has mumps. Am so upset he’s stuck at University without me. I want to get him before lockdown but he is still contagious. Am anxious as fuck.

@Dancerinthemoonlight hope you get the answer you want. Am in a similar position with Mr Beard really. Oh well, it’s not like I can see him for a bit... Got to start work now and my head isn’t in it 😟.

Stay safe everyone

I hope your daughter is ok UB!

I had a GP phone appt - chest infection (with asthma irritation) not CV
I don’t have many CV symptoms but it’s bad timing for sure