My husband is disgusting

[katybob]

I love my husband to bits but my god is he the most disgusting thing I’ve ever known. We pretty much eat the same foods but his trumps always stink of eggs. He trumps more than I’ve ever witnessed. He pees on the loo seat and doesn’t clean it up and if I say anything he goes all winey and says he’s sorry he’ll try to remember to wipe it. He doesn’t wash plates up properly they always have something on them. He chucks his dirty smokey smelly work tops back on the clean washing them they get confused with the clean and make the clean smell. He walks about naked. We have no curtains at the mo as just moved and he’s pretty much danny devito to look at. He heaves with out fail every morning when he brushes his teeth. If I ask him to clean he makes a big song and dance and then shows me the poo stained loo brush that he uses before he flushes and it’s covered in soggy loo roll. BTw might seem like I’m just bitching. I am my councillor suggested I find an outlet. I have a one year old boy with better manners than my 35 year old husband. What annoys me most. He wasn’t like it when he lived with his parents cus his mum wouldn’t have it. His answer to it now is it’s his house he will do as he pleases. He keeps making me boil. I hate him

I'm not squeamish at all but some of your descriptions nearly made me throw up in my mouth a little. He's absolutely vile. How on earth do you bring yourself to shag him?

Gross

Lazy selfish fucker. What do you love about him.

EWW

Disgusting is one thing, none of us are perfect, but not making an effort is another. He sounds disrespectful.

What's to love about him? He willfully, knowingly acts like a vile pig with no regard whatsoever for how you feel. I wouldn't raise a child with someone so disgusting.

Normally I hate posts which criticise a hubby, but this... ewww!! Has he become complacent and expect he’ll always have you so doesn’t even need to make a basic hygiene effort? You need to be honest and tell him this is serious and potentially relationship ending

I couldn't live with that.

where did you find this dreamboat?

I actually couldn't live with that at all.

I don’t think I could cope.

Why are you in counselling? Is it because of all this?

You know, you can take him to therapy over this issue. It’s affecting your marriage, he’ll be a shocking role model to your kid, and it leaves you being his housekeeper.

I’d be making the appointment in your position. He needs a wake up call. It’s disrespectful and revolting. It’s grow up, or lose you and find out the hard way how it is to live in his own filth. He won’t find anyone- not even paid- to clean up that horror.

Actually made me feel quite sick reading that. I have no idea how you live with him. I'm afraid his total lack of respect for you as his wife, and the thought of another 50/60years living like that, would be the end of it for me.

I'd be tempted to tell his DM what he's like and ask if he was like that with her and she just cleaned up after him or if he cleaned up after himself? That will tell you if he needs to learn to behave like a human or if he's actively choosing to make you live like this.

I'm very easy going and believe in working hard at marriages but unless he changed I'm afraid it would erode the partnership you have. No one should have to live like that. Just awful.

He wasn’t like it when he lived with his parents cus his mum wouldn’t have it. His answer to it now is it’s his house he will do as he pleases. He keeps making me boil. I hate him

^ this says it all OP. Apart from him being dirty and messy by nature, he doesn’t give a shit about how he makes you feel. What a nasty pig, I would tell him to change his ways or divorce him. He should learn to respect you and it’s not only his house. Dickhead.

That's disgusting.

But worse, he doesn't respect you. You shouldn't have to live like that. And imagine the example he'll be setting to your son.

But worse, he doesn't respect you.

This. Not the gross stuff, the lack of respect would kill this for me.

You love him to bits but you hate him? Danny Devito to look at? I can’t tell if this post is lighthearted or if it’s really serious

Does he have a brother? Sounds hot.

Why are you still living with him? 🤢

How can you love someone like that?

Invite your mother in law to stay. She will sort him.

I think your councillor has a point.. finding an outlet.

It's not just his house, it's yoùrs and your DC too.
He's welcome to get his own place though!!
Also, what a great example for your DC!

You have a child with this man?

You're doing women a great justice by keeping him off the market. "You're doing amazing sweetie!"

My husband uses my kids toothrushes... Got caught yesterday. Then complained that he had caught a cold from my daughter having used HER toothbrush....