My husband is disgusting

[katybob]

I love my husband to bits but my god is he the most disgusting thing I’ve ever known. We pretty much eat the same foods but his trumps always stink of eggs. He trumps more than I’ve ever witnessed. He pees on the loo seat and doesn’t clean it up and if I say anything he goes all winey and says he’s sorry he’ll try to remember to wipe it. He doesn’t wash plates up properly they always have something on them. He chucks his dirty smokey smelly work tops back on the clean washing them they get confused with the clean and make the clean smell. He walks about naked. We have no curtains at the mo as just moved and he’s pretty much danny devito to look at. He heaves with out fail every morning when he brushes his teeth. If I ask him to clean he makes a big song and dance and then shows me the poo stained loo brush that he uses before he flushes and it’s covered in soggy loo roll. BTw might seem like I’m just bitching. I am my councillor suggested I find an outlet. I have a one year old boy with better manners than my 35 year old husband. What annoys me most. He wasn’t like it when he lived with his parents cus his mum wouldn’t have it. His answer to it now is it’s his house he will do as he pleases. He keeps making me boil. I hate him

He knows not to leave piss on the toilet
...He still does it and is happy for you to deal with it

He knows how to use a loo brush
...He still does it wrong and is happy for you to see the results or do it for him

He knows smelly clothes smell
...He is still happy to make your clothes smell and for you to then sort out the issue

He knows you will accept this behaviour
...So he continues to do it

There is laziness and complacency and there is wilful selfishness and wielding power over someone e.g. well it's my house so...

Please prove him wrong (in his belief you're a doormat who will put up with all this) and end this excuse of a relationship.

You will waste your life cleaning up after this man and shagging someone you find physically repulsive. Isn't life too short for that?

Seriously, seriously. Do you want to spend the rest of your life in this relationship if he doesn't change? Because he WON'T.

The amount of posters on here with the "he is a good man, he just (insert horribly selfish arsehole behaviour here)"

Good men don't treat their partner with the disdain he treats you. He's happy for you to clean up his piss and shit and general filth because he can't be arsed and is so arrogant he doesn't think you'll leave.

God I feel pissed off and I'm not even involved!

It's a huge turn off. Tell him that. He is making himself disgusting to you and you aren't attracted to such a dirty slob. Either he bucks up or actually end it. Threatening it is pointless if he knows you won't follow through.

Christ when I read the OP i thought you where married to my BIL but the ages are wrong, He is exactly like this his wife does complain but not much. She is 30 quite fit and really pretty he is 12 years older 12 stone heavier no teeth (or dentures) smells is very messy, smokes (she doesn't) and he lies and I mean whoppers you cant believe a word that comes out of his mouth. But she seems to love him, they say love is blind and in this case that must be true.

Oh my god....I actually feel nauseous

He is a disgusting animal. You're not unreasonable here....far from it.

@HelloBolloxMyOldFriend

He doesn’t really any control on his farts smell.
But posting on the toilet and not cleaning? Washing plates and leaving stuff on? Along side the ‘it’s my home so I can do whatever I want’. I would take that as a big finger up at me and a way to tell me to fuck off.

So so disrespectful and certainly NOT the way someone would treat a person they LOVE (or are supposed to).

And I dint think yiu have become ‘more Sensitive’ with having children (that’s what HE says doesn’t he?) It’s more about you not having the reserves anymore to be his skivvy and him not stepping up to be a father and a responsible adult

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I see @katybob has done a runner

He wasn’t like it when he lived with his parents cus his mum wouldn’t have it.

So he moved straight from Mummy's? That was your first mistake.

My last ex is an ex for precisely these reasons

You say you’ve threatened divorce three times. But you’ve never followed through. He knows he has you where he wants you. Either start divorce proceedings or put up with his absolutely vile, disgusting habits.

I couldn’t live with such a pig of a man, I think I’d put a pillow over his face whilst he slept.

Show him this thread, he’s getting absolutely no sympathy for being such a dirty boy, who does he think he’s impressing?

Honestly, I’d tell him I’m leaving and taking the children because I don’t want the dc growing up thinking being a pig is ok.
Then leave for a while. Hopefully it will shake him. When you return to the new and improved Danny Devito, tell him he doesn’t get a next time because next time you leave you’re not coming back to live with a thoughtless, selfish slob. Mean it!

He sounds disgusting.

I'm ever daily grateful to the universe that I am a lesbian.

@MauriceandAlec I'm so glad I live alone.

Shit I thought danny devito was some sort of cockney rhyming slang and have been trying to figure it out.

Never show someone the thread, ffs, dreadful advice. The person would immediately get defensive and say what ‘feminist bitches’ etc we are, for not tolerating his abusive behaviour. He knows exactly what he’s doing, he’s is choosing to act like a broken sewer, spraying his filth round the place, he says he can ‘do what he likes’, so it’s up to OP to continue to facilitate this literal shitshow, or get some standards and remove her kid from this stinking cesspit.

Well op. Are we dating the same guy??

You do right pulling him up on it and keep on doing it. My partner is similar in ways such as not cleaning up after going to the loo. Another one is leaving the coffee pods in the sink when the bin is within arms reach.

It’s not a ‘I’ll try to remember’ type of scenario. Your not asking him to think back to 1987 and tell you what was the charts number 1 hit of the year. It’s basic hygiene, cleanliness and the bottoms line is respect for the others he shares a house with.

My advice - let the house go to wreck and ruin and when he’s complaining he has no clean work tops - well he doesn’t seem to mind other people walking round in smelly clothes so he can do it too?

Hard not having what you do appreciated isn’t it. My partner came home today claiming he was ill (which meant he would like me to look after our son/make tea and clean up and ask fetch him and treat or drink he desired). He walked into the kitchen which was a mess from last night complete with 6!! Coffee pods in the sink. All left for him to sort out because I’m sick of asking and my body physically won’t move to clean up after him when I’ve told him 100000000000 times.

Don’t be a mug. Tell him he can buck his ideas up or pay for a thrice weekly cleaner.

Are we married to the same man OP ? Mine dues pretty much most of the same - he also leaves lumps of skiddies in the loo (sliding down the side of the pan) then says he will wash them off with his pee when he next goes. Eats his own bogies and sweat, sniffs his arse and balls using his fingers, eats his own toenail clippings and quite often his hands smell of dick cheese where hes been playing with his uncleaned dick

Dear God, how and why do you live with someone like this, Giff and Heartburn? Why would you put up with a disgusting home because of some total pig?

Oh come on!!

I actually want to be sick now!

I actually wonder what goes through people's minds that they put up with people like this!

What is wrong with you? ( and please don't say you love them, and they're wonderful with their children)

my councillor suggested I find an outlet.

Your counsellor sees his passive aggression a mile off.

For 'Outlet' read: 'door'. As in find the door and one of you must leave through it.

His mum is a Total clean freak he had to clean his own bathroom every morning after using it and wash up straight away. And I have spoken about how he is infront of her and her attitude is he works a lot of hours I wouldn’t expect him to do that any way
He wasn’t like it when he lived with his parents cus his mum wouldn’t have it

He's a manchild and only responds to Mummy/matron. I'd suggest kennelling but the animals would file a complaint. The irony is she's raised a pig.

I actually came on to rant about my prick of an OH but came across this thread. I was shocked reading this i genuinely thought OH must be having an affair.

My OH just fucks me off with his everything tbh, everything you've mentioned plus leaving his yellow phlem in the sink, his dirty hairs EVERYWHERES bed, bath even in food somtimes
He makes me sick. His stinky socks and gym crap stinks out the bathroom I never put his clothes with mine and LOs or in the same basket. I but an empty disinfectant wash on after his is done. Just a fat selfish ungrateful lard.

We've just has an argument before he left for work, hes so fucking predictable so i blocked him on my phone because i know what hes about to say. Low and behold...hes just left me a vm saying take care of your own kid because I aint coming back in the morning. The child is his, I work too so he threatens me with this as he know we have no one to keep LO while were at work. I deep down wish that he'd died so I wouldn't have to deal with his nonsense or him ever be in my life He makes my life difficult. Sorry I've babbled I don't mean to take over the thread

No words...just real sorrow at what some women are putting up with........

Blimey, no words except why tolerate any of this?

But @heartburn888 @giffgaff99 @mi12 I don't understand how you see all this so clearly but are still with these people?! Surely you're so utterly repulsed by their disgusting, disrespectful behaviour that you would rather be single than spend another day in their company!