My husband is disgusting

[katybob]

I love my husband to bits but my god is he the most disgusting thing I’ve ever known. We pretty much eat the same foods but his trumps always stink of eggs. He trumps more than I’ve ever witnessed. He pees on the loo seat and doesn’t clean it up and if I say anything he goes all winey and says he’s sorry he’ll try to remember to wipe it. He doesn’t wash plates up properly they always have something on them. He chucks his dirty smokey smelly work tops back on the clean washing them they get confused with the clean and make the clean smell. He walks about naked. We have no curtains at the mo as just moved and he’s pretty much danny devito to look at. He heaves with out fail every morning when he brushes his teeth. If I ask him to clean he makes a big song and dance and then shows me the poo stained loo brush that he uses before he flushes and it’s covered in soggy loo roll. BTw might seem like I’m just bitching. I am my councillor suggested I find an outlet. I have a one year old boy with better manners than my 35 year old husband. What annoys me most. He wasn’t like it when he lived with his parents cus his mum wouldn’t have it. His answer to it now is it’s his house he will do as he pleases. He keeps making me boil. I hate him

I agreed with @Tigerty that if there are consequences to his actions he should change. If you just sort all his problems with a moan it gives him power over you and apart from having to listen to you, no consequences for him.

Re manky plates, I’d be buying a dishwasher.

Re washing I’d stop doing it the next time he chucks his too in there. Let him fix the situation.

He doesn’t care enough how you feel. He doesn’t respect you. You need to find a time to talk when dc are not around and go radio on him. He thinks that you won’t divorce him. He thinks that nothing will change and he can do as he likes. It’s up to you to decide how much it annoys you.

I left an egg farter with smelly feet and can’t say I miss any of that one bit!!

LTB

He has absolute ZERO respect for you...but hey.....you love him to bits so what's the issue

And how did he go from ‘Babymaking love machine’ to just effin’ gross?

He got the OP hooked, so now he can drop the pretence of being decent.

Divorce him. He's not going to get better and it's not your job to try to fix him.

Can you go and stay with someone? Your parents? Action from you is the only thing that's going to show him you're serious. The rest is just nagging he thinks he can put up with so he can carry on.

Stop doing his washing/cooking/picking up after him.

I'd issue an ultimatum. He changes or he's/your out. No one should have to live like that it's so depressing.

I feel a bit sick now. I am a single mum of two boys and I'm bringing them up to respect themselves, their surroundings and be clean and tidy - going well so far! dreading the teenage years though tbh

Ltb

He is beyond vile. I couldn't sit in the same room let alone sleep in the same bed. (and as for anything else...[envious] )

What's to love? There can't possibly be any attraction and he's treating you so badly.

Do you want your child to grow up copying that?

Leave him.

What is your housing/job situation? Make plans

That should have been

Poor you he’s horrendous.
He likes it the way it is.
His hygiene is atrocious- he’s dirty.
I’d move out if I could.
I would not be having sex with this pig!!

Sorry I found this thread hilarious!!!!! My Husband can be a bit uncouth at times so I feel your pain! But don't be so serious have a laugh and tell him your gonna have an affair lol I tell my Husband this and he cracks up laughing and never takes life seriously.

My Husband can be a bit uncouth at times so I feel your pain!

If you’re husband is doing similar to the OP’s, he’s not just uncouth, his behaviour is absolutely disgusting.

What @DuckbilledSplatterPuff said.

And be very aware that THIS...:
I have threatened divorce three times now and he changes for about a week and then slowly things slip again
... will be your life if you stay with this disrespectful pig.

Personally, while I like the idea of taking photos of all his vile acts, I cannot see him ever turning into a decent, loving, considerate and appreciative husband.

Sort out childcare and get a job. Arrange your ducks and send him on his way, to live in a pigsty if that's what he wants.

LTB

He's get his knob out and say "he's lonely".

Urrrrrrghhhhh (not envy)

You threaten divorce but don't follow through. That's the problem.
You need to get a job, then get a divorce and send the slob back to his mummy.

Does he like social media? Ask him if he’d like everything he does documented on Facebook / Instagram etc ? If not, why not.

Yuk!

Please don’t LTB and put him back on the market.
Gross.

If you don’t want your son growing up the same leave. He has no respect for you and it’s resulted in your health deteriorating. You might love him but if he loved you he would not treat you like this. The threat of divorce and your health taking a down turn are not enough for him to grow up so what will be?

Jesus christ. You get once shot at life, make it count.

Melt chocolate and smear it on the loo seat just before he's due a poo.

Serve his meal on a dirty plate.
Sleep in a separate room and tell him this is how it will be until he ups his game.
A bit of clutter is fine but there's no excuse for being dirty.
If he says it's his home remind him it's your home too.
Threatening to divorce him is a waste of time if you don't mean it.

He wanders about naked with no curtains does he realise that with lights on the whole neighbourhood can see him parading about with his knob out?
Perhaps turn the heating down?

He's pretty much Danny devito to look at

Made me spit my tea out. Literally. That's hilarious!

What is with heaving when cleaning teeth? I've lived with and stayed on holiday with lots of people and I thought my DP was the only one who did this. Relieved I am not alone!
I remind him he's being watched by his children and they'll soon copy him and start harming their throats.
Surely it can't be good for anyone? Least of all the person listening to it from the ensuite!

Wow Im in the minority here then. He can't help how his darts smell can he? Maybe he could use some foot cream to sort out the feet though. If it bothers you he should be making an effort , it doesn't particularly bother me but my parents were quite disgusting hippies lol.