I do not how to react to my British colleague courtship

[superstar5219]

Hi ladies (and gents)
Was brought to this site as I’ve been living in the UK for not so long and I have a British colleague at work interested in me.
Issue is this is the first time a British guy shows such a deep interest in me, good thing is I like him, he's posh, I guess a middle class man, middle 30's, lots of matches between both of us, BUT…..and I don’t know how to react to his courtship.
I know he is interested in me as plenty of websites say his hints/behaviours are the typical British man hints/behavior to let you know they are interested in a woman...He's constantly following me around, keeping eye contact, arranged with me private conversations in the kitchen of our workplace.
However, I come from a latin country, where men are too intrusive, quite direct and straightforward since the very beginning of the courtship process, this means they lead and women's opinion are barely taken in account during the courtship.
So, what should I do? I feel petrified as he's extremely handsome and I don't know what to do or what to say in front of him as he is obviously waiting for my reaction to his approach/courtship.
I sent him some skype messages telling him I wanted to speak to him to break the ice after so many eye contacts and him following me around, he agreed to have chats in the kitchen (as I previously said) then the next week I sent him an email asking for a time but he didn't reply, he just kept the eye contact with me.
Why didn't he reply? He keeps avoiding replays to my emails but sends me subtle invitations to speak to him in the kitchen.
Need to say he's extremely shy too, got red/blush last Friday when I went to his desk asking for help for job task as he has more experience and more years in the company.
What should I do? How should I react to his approach?

Tbh he sounds like a cock !

Next time he fixes those eyes full of intensity on you , smile at him and say that’s creepy mate knock it off and carry on doin your work
Which is what your actually being paid for not day dreaming all day about possibilities with the guy almost opp you

@CatAndHisKit
I hope so too.
XD

@MyBubble
Quite offensive your comment and I never reply to this type of comments, but yours requires a clarification.
I don't day dream, I know how important is to work hard considering I am in my probationary period.
Because of this I barely concentrate on him but on my job. He's not my priority number one currently, but my job.
He is the one that may have more free time than me for the staring, following, flirting, etc as he is been there for ages so he's used to his job/daily tasks.
Hope this clarifies it.
Have a good night.

I do hope you go out with this man, OP, at least a few times! He may or may not be worth it, but at least you'll know. My DH was very unconfident when we first met, but luckily we had mutual friends who encouraged us, and we've now been happily together for many years. Sometimes it's worth persevering, sometimes not, but if you don't give it a try you'll never find out.
Best of luck, either way

OP your writing style...it's quite unusual. Out of curiosity is English your second language? Did you read a lot of classics? Do you talk like this in real life as well? I am honestly not criticising it but want to know how come you use the language like this.

biwin may I answer on behalf of the OP and suggest you read her opening post!

@biwinoone she is south american

OP, a lot of people on here have had bad experiences and seem to tar all men with the same brush. In other threads you’ll see them try and convince people that their partners are having affairs etc.

Just something to bear in mind that some people are very negative and don’t want others to be happy.

@Thinkingabout1t
Thanks! He's been off work this last week so let's see what happens next week....but as the coronavirus made our employer to allows to work from home some days of the week I probably won't be able to see him often for a while =(

@PP12345

No worries, after three decades of life I have already learnt to ignore/discard what doesn't add anything positive to my life.
I am not longer a teenager, phew! Otherwise, I would be disheartened by some comments here ;)

Sounds creepy to me!

Any news, OP? I hope it’s all going well for you.

I have encounteted many MANY guys who are taken, no intention of anything with you but they just enjoy the attention and flirting. Its asafe thrill. Even the shyest guy would jump on talking to you online.hes just a flirt.

@Thinkingabout1t
Hi! Can I send you a private message?

@CatAndHisKit
Hi! Can I send you a private message?

@1forAll74
Hi! Can I send you a private message?

Hi did you ever get together?

Oooh do update us x

@Lotsalotsagiggles
Hahha! You are so cute! I would do it publicly but because of the backlash I received with my original post I am now discouraged to do it again publicly ;)
(It's just amazing-happy news, btw)

DMMe! Could do with some good news

Hi OP,

I'm glad to hear you have some happy news. I had this thread on my watch list!
Ignore the nasty comments, they were all so unnecessary.

Oh I would love to hear what the happy ending is. How exciting

Woo hoo! I'd also like to know how it went, please send me a PM.

Is your news that you somehow managed to pass your probationary period despite spending 90% of your time obsessing over the Sensual Attributes of the British Lothario in the kitchen?

Superstar5219, I've just read all through this thread because I didn't notice the original dates but very pleased to find at the end that you have happy news. You come across as a very warm and positive person. PS, I quite like the word 'courtship' - it was the standard one in the past. Lots of older British couples refer to when they were 'courting'. There are limitations to English when talking about relationships. Ask any 50 something who has to refer to their boyfriend/girlfriend when neither is married and the relationship has not reached the stage when they are partners.