Dating Thread 186 - Heading into Spring with thicker skin and a new outlook on dating

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating. 2. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@Ant330 that's interesting re the digestive stuff. Do you have a cough? Dd doesn't but I think that comes later. I have seasonal asthma and am currently a bit tight chested.

Everyone else, try and hang in there. So much is going to have to change. We all know OLD has reached its sell by date, its changed since I started 2 years ago. Maybe this will refresh it or change it? Everyone will feel different when this has calmed down, it's going to be a horrible ride but good may come of it. And we can keep
Posting even though we can't keep dating.... xxxx

Morning all, I think a sense of humour and trying to find the little positives will be essential in getting through this thing. I've taught my 9yo how to make me tea and coffee in exchange for signing up to Disney Plus - hopefully I'm going to say that was £50 well spent when it launches next week. She's a real homebird anyway and more than happy watching TV, reading, crafting, playing with her toys. I'm so grateful we have a bit of a garden for fresh air and that I'm not cooped up in the house with wanker ex 24/7.

I can work from home and we're going to join Joe Wicks at 9am every morning for his kids PE lesson to try and get us into a bit of a routine. I woke up not knowing what day it was this morning.

At the moment, it's like that week between Christmas and New Year, too much TV, eating out of boredom and drinking in the evening because we don't have to get up for work in the morning...

Morning everyone. Just got back from Mr Army. Had a lovely night last night, snuggling and watching a film before amazing sex and cuddling while asleep. Post sex hormones are fine this morning, probably helped by waking up next to him.
It might be a while before I see him again, all depends on if and when the army get called in to help. We are just going to ride out the storm and see each other when we can.

Morning @Dancerinthemoonlight glad u had a good time 😊 nothin like feelin close to someone, do you or him have any DC? X

Well, I can't see how we are going to see our irons any time soon, so I'm going to have to think about sexting. I don't have a clue how.

@dollface19 neither of us have children. He is in the army hence his name and is part of the 20,000 on standby. We see each other when we can at the moment and it works. I'd like to see him more but I take what I can get with him

Ah ok 👌🏻 I am still umming and arring about my situation which mrS he wants to come round but maybe we can just go for a walk now distancing ourselves in a remote country park, somewhere ! Xx

hi I hope everyone is doing well.

is anyone not that bothered about missing sex, it's more the company,snuggling that is depressing me. not that I got that much before but seems like it will be non existent and so far out of reach just now. fwb is up for sexting, but tbh I'd rather have company and real sex lol

I have 3 irons &fwb. mr breakdown, I'm not too sure on, haven't met him so that prob wont go anywhere now. mr local and mr chef I've met. both seem nice. my messages from this morning to mr chef are currently sitting as undelivered on WA altho I can see his last seen (last night) and pic 🤔. trying not to over invest esp given the social distancing but I have trouble with that. would a walk in the park with them be ok or something?

@Dancerinthemoonlight, so glad to hear that you and Mr Army had a lovely night.
@dollface19, I am not sure any of us can advise you fully about what you should do. Like with anything some will believe strongly that we should be avoiding anything but absolutely essential contact. I think being in his company in the fresh air sounds like a compromise to seeing him but not being intimate. I am in 2 minds myself about how much isolating to do. I will live with my 2 DDs who up until yesterday were at school and college. I saw Mr Photography earlier in the week and he's asked about seeing me early next week. Not sure myself whether that's sensible. My long-term FWB Mr Cocky has been really poorly. Difficult to know if it's CV or flu. Fortunately I haven't been in his company for about 3 weeks now so any germs didn't come my way thank goodness. But I am worried about him and knowing someone who is struggling with symptoms that might be CV has made me feel extra concerned - not that we shouldn't be anyway.
I intend to get out for walks with my DDs, drive to places and walk there, take some food with us.
Tinder seems busy. I have had a fair few guys reaching out to chat and irons that I have already made contact with seem to be wanting /needing contact. It might be all we have in the not too distant future.
Hope everyone is feeling okay.

@crazycatlady20 it's weird as mrS came round Thursday night wants to see me so much but Has had contact with people as he has been to the shop n work yesterday so I'm thinking of not having him over tomorrow night as it was planned but then again I've been in contact with people in shops and chemists I've had to go too aswell so 🤷🏼‍♀️ but a walk would be fine I might even take the wine and some sandwiches! 🤣

just remembered I also have an iron (if I can call him that) on the rigs. chat kinda died off when he went away as hes just working and sleeping. but we were supposed to be meeting when back. he is of the view it's just the flu. at least I know he wont have it lol. altho may well pick it up on his travels home.

sorry for spamming but how do you deal with talking to more than one person when u have met them both. I feel kind of bad.

I'm still seeing my bf but we are limiting contact with others etc. I keep wondering if it's the wrong thing to do 🤷🏻‍♀️ we have both had worrying news about one of our parents and seeing each other is important to each other for the love and support we give.

@Notcoolmum i suppose only you know what you want/can manage without? We know of someone who was older and passed away with this, so I think in my case, I'd be really careful. My new iron is keen to meet regardless but I'll be waiting till it all blows over.

@unambiguousbeard no I dont have a cough, so could have any old bug tbh. But on another forum I use posters have described same symptoms as mine, again undiagnosed, but apparently a dr has been tested positive for covid with no cough but bad stomach. Honestly dont know but taken the view it's not worth exposing others just in case.

@Eesha we have been seeing each other 9 months. He's very careful with his contacts etc as he lives with his mum who counts as vulnerable. And also because he cares about me and my kids. We are a part of each other's lives. So I think we are being sensible. But as a worrier I then tend to drift into panic mode. If we lived together we'd be seeing the same people and then each other... my brain is doing circuits on this...

So sorry to hear you know someone who has died as a result of c19. 💐

@crazycatlady20, just chat to them as individuals and see what happens. I find usually the 'iron test' excuse the pun is when my phone beeps who am I hoping that message will be from. And you may find that chat and connection deepens with one rather than another. We are in uncharted territory here. Chat might be all we have for the foreseeable.
@Notcoolmum, I think you do what is right for you and your bf. It sounds like that contact is important to both of you at the moment.

@Notcoolmum that must be tough but surely if he has a vulnerable at risk parent, he should be extra careful and self isolating?

The person is sort of a couple of degrees separation away but was adamant they wanted to continue as normal and go to pubs etc, then got diagnosed and died. Brought it home to us really.

@eesha I wouldn't meet anyone new right now. Maybe video chat?

@Onesmallstep67 thanks. I will assess as the situation changes but it does feel the right thing for now, whilst taking extra caution with our contacts and hygiene.

@Eesha he's having to go to work so he's not able to self isolate. He and his mum have agreed what works for them but again I expect them to review it and may need to change. It's all very worrying. We are on the same trajectory as italy and I am taking it all very seriously.

What about going for a walk that's what I'm goin to do when dd at her dads tomorrow afternoon pack sandwiches blanket tea coffee wine etc no contact but just two of u sitting far enough apart or going for a long walk is the most sensible now I believe. It is hard as I wouldn't meet anyone new at all as I wouldn't trust them but I do know this man very well so we see how it all develops. But you have to do what's right for you xx

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