Dating Thread 186 - Heading into Spring with thicker skin and a new outlook on dating

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating. 2. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@sunshineandflipflops oh yes he can only stay if he's life enhancing. Hope he cheers up! And your ex sounds decent (other than his affair)

Yeah I'm alright @TigerDater thanks for asking. Still got the temp, headache and achey body. Had kind of decided that I've probably just got another bug as I don't have the cough that most have. But then read this morning that 48.5% of patients in Wuhan presented with a digestive complaint, which might explain my dodgy stomach.
Worryingly "patients with digestive symptoms had a worse clinical outcome and higher mortality". Think I'm going to just stop reading tbh, don't know what to believe and it's all bloody depressing!
But anyway, apart from the above I feel ok

Oh and @TooOldForThis67 yes your ex is being bloody unreasonable, the guidance is there for a reason, why does he think he's an exception?

@TooOldForThis67 a man has been arrested on the IoM for not self isolating after arriving on the island and has been carted off to a quarantine zone. Laws may be different there but perhaps if you just leave off where it happened

In Italy people can be charged with murder if they aren't self isolating and someone dies as a result.

notcool - that's shocking and scary!
ant - might have to resort to that!

Dd with her dad last night so my guy came over for a few drinks and we kissed and he ended up staying over but just kissed and cuddled. I just feel absolutely stupid as I have been seeing him for a while and I really like him but I feel stupid for kissing him!

@Notcoolmum Yeah, he is a decent guy (other than the whole affair thing), which make it all more difficult in a way. Not that I'd want him to be nasty or anything and I count myself lucky in the ex department when I head some stories on here but if he could have just kept it in his pants, we had an otherwise happy marriage. Ah well, at least the kids benefit from us being on good terms.

Mr Ad seems to have cheered up a bit since this morning so he can stay a bit longer

@Ant330 I hoe your're feeling better soon.

*hope

Just been on a run with the 14y/o keeping me company on her bike to combat the cabin fever. Really enjoyed it and it’s always surprising how some fresh air makes things a bit better.
For those who are going to struggle keeping up with their hobbies while all this is going on, maybe a good time to dig a pair of trainers out and give to couch to 5k app a go! No close contact with anyone else and it’s free!

Thanks for the well wishes sunshine and yes I agree about the fresh air, walking the dog is the only break I get from self isolation. Fortunately I live next to a big park so I can go out and avoid contact with anybody with the dog, it's just so nice to get out of the house!

dollface what’s wrong with kissing?
eesha I hope you’re feeling better.

@TigerDater thanks for asking. Feeling better and secretly hoping this starvation thing (due to my bug) gives me a new sexy figure!

Teeny bit irritated with FWB as he doesn't seem at all bothered about me. He is usually pretty self involved I admit but I've been looking after two sick toddlers plus have had the same bug myself and he doesn't seem too fussed. When he was ill, I was always checking in and even got a deliveroo sent to him! It just seems ironic that Mr Young (iron whose wife was cheating with her boss and who I felt was still quite distraught) messaged me asking me how it was all going and whether I was ok/well yet my long term FWB doesn't.

@Eesha your FWB isn't a friend if that's how he behaves.

Getting ready to go and see Mr Army. Neither of us are showing any signs or symptoms so should be safe. Might be the last time I see him for a while as he is part of the 20,000 soldiers on hold

eesha that is disappointing but I know it’s not the first time you’ve been disappointed in him. Maybe you need to hold back from being too caring of him - just mirror his behaviour/attitude going forward. I think that’s fine for a FWB.

dancer I hope you have a lovely evening

@tigerdater thank you. He is getting a take away and drinks in. Probably going to watch a film and hopefully some amazing sex

Hi Ladies and gents. Long time lurker ... first time poster! Been reading these threads for a while and on OLD for a couple of months. Have to say it's been a massive learning curve and increasingly frustrating!

To those still going out and about cv us contagious 3-4 dats before any symptoms

@TigerDater you're right, he just coasts along but never gives me what I want in a person. There lies the reason we are just FWB and nothing more.

I had a nice long phone chat with Mr Young who was actually very lovely. He wants to meet, but I'm thinking post the end of the virus thing. He seems to think sooner.

How are we all doing? I hope everyone is well and not too bored/frustrated.

We are now officially on day seven of isolation, this time next Saturday we can open the front door and go for a walk!!!

We’re out of food so we’re only eating takeaways, with three people to feed, two of us being dairy free, me being diabetic and allergic to kiwi (and anything in the latex family), it has been awkward and expensive. I’ve spent about £300 on food since Wednesday. I reserve Ocado slots by putting beer in the basket, as Ocado stopped people changing their orders we do now have about £50 of beer which is nice.

Might have to sell MiniSJT, anyone want to make an offer? Fully house trained, can separate dark and light laundry, bilingual, ticks the PC box if you need to increase the number of asians at your work place.

Good morning @SimonJT I have a little one and it's just me so I'm goin to go to go stir crazy eventually but at least we can get some fresh air right now. I feel your pain! How is it going ?

Also question for everyone: MrS is my guy he's lovely, kind caring(so far) I've known him 10 years as a friend of a friend and recently been dating 2 months, but with life and this now only met up 3 times, The other night we went for a drink only a few to a very quiet local place, taking precautions etc and there was only like 6 people in there. After a lot to drink he came back over to mine and ending up staying we didn't have sex though🙃

My question is: before all this goes into lock down do you think it would be ok for him to come over ? As long as he isn't going anywhere else he has just been to work(driver) and home but will be off now and looked after his dd who is 2 for a day. We both have no symptoms and before lockdown happens and we can't even leave our homes full STOP. I really like this guy and he wants it to go somewhere but obviously I'm trying to follow guidelines and avoid risks. Anyone having there bf or fwb over ?? Thanks 🙏🏻 xxx

simon you and your sense of humour are an inspiration 😂. If I was in London I would happily drop food parcels - including beer - round to you. Stay safe and well.

SimonJT that made me laugh. Good to see you haven't lost your sense of humour.

Fortunately I'm still able to work. My biggest issue is persuading my older clients not to give me tea and biscuits! They feel it's rude not to offer.
Otherwise life is a bit lonely. I don't have anyone to give me a hug and a cuddle at the end of the day.
I almost miss the crazies on POF

@SimonJT so was he not ill in the end?

My youngest has come down with it. Sore throat headache fever. She's also been sick but I think that's the fever. I've not really seen her this ill in years. So I've let loads of people know and the only one who hasn't replied? Her dad. Had a horrible dream last night where we got back together. The worst thing about it was it wasn't horrible! My subconscious is clearly struggling with the idea of him possibly moving back in. He lives round the corner so I'm considering if it's possibly for the childfree adult to drive to his on our off days. I have an exam next week. I really wish uni had just bloody stopped as I can't study but can't relax.

I was supposed to see Mr U on Thursday but I called it off. I can't face sex. We were then going to meet tonight to do some admin and he told me no sex. He's put some boundaries in! He said we only have sex when I want to and I always accuse him of just wanting to see me for sex. So he's accusing me of that. And we won't have sex fir a while. I'm kind of delighted by that. Shows he's thinking.

Obviously there'll be no sex now anyway but I said I'll FaceTime him. I think I'm moreorless over him.

@supercali77 I hear you re the sexting. Mr Football and I reached a point in our chat when it could have gone that way but I stopped it. But I'm considering letting it drift that way next time we message as why the fuck not?