The Happy Singleton- Part Two

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Ta-dah! Welcome to all our happily (sometimes, admittedly, less so!) single peeps! All welcome, whether your recently singled or a long-term singleton.

We've got this solo thing sorted (-ish!)

@misty9 do your thang!

How is everyone? Has being single in lockdown been doable?
I've embraced not having a man under my feet/grumpy/irritating

Not bad! I always embrace not having a man under my feet 😂

Have definitely been having lower moods towards this end of lockdown - I really hope things start to lift as I'm fed up of feeling sad more than happy. I'm usually a very positive person but I think the stress has caught up with me.

Off to the vet first thing tomorrow because DNinjaCat is a thug and has hurt her claw :(

But otherwise alright, how are you guys doing?

Hello all. Been single for more than 3 years with zero regrets.

In that time I've managed to get a degree (finished during lockdown) and am glad I didn't have to do that with some grumpy, hairy-arsed bloke under my feet.

Congratulations on your degree, OldeMagick! I'm starting a postgraduate course this September and definitely think it'll be easier to focus on study without all the man noise and distraction.

I've only been single about 6 weeks but I'm not missing the physical presence in my house at all. The space and quiet is wonderful. I'm still pissed off about the circumstances of the breakup and the financial consequences for me, but having my own space is actually really nice.

I hear you! Six and a half years for me and it's bloody lovely

Peaceful, too...

Love the phrase 'hairy arsed' ...
@OldeMagick well done on the degree! sounds like you're embracing single life well.

Checking back in as I managed to accidentally name change 😂

Hello everyone! Just wondering how everyone is coping!?

Hello all! How is everyone doing? @SirChing @BuddhaAtSea? I read through my last posts on this thread, over a year ago now, and was interesting to compare! I'm single again after a relationship of a few months after my last post, in the new job and have bought a new house which I've made into a beautiful home. Life is good :) although I still have my lonely and down days.

Hope all are well

Hi everyone, hope I can join in. I've been single over a year now (I'm 45) and for the very first time in my life I am HAPPY single with absolutely no plans to try to meet anyone. In fact, the thought of it has no appeal whatsoever. When my 17year relationship ended I became quite obsessed with OLD and meeting someone. Had 3 relationships but they all ended due to them being with utter losers (2 of which had drink problems). I finally realised it was way more hassle that its worth.

Hi @anotherdisaster

I've been single for 4 years now. My longest relationship was 18 years and I also tried OLD (a friend signed me up) and I bloody hated it. They were basically a succession of losers, married men and weirdos.

So much happier now that I don't have to walk on eggshells and put up with moody blokes who I then have to clear up after.

@PandorasMailbox I'm starting to think that I only 'thought' I wanted to meet someone because that's what society expects. Now I've embraced it and see the benefits, its really great. Not sure if I'll ever get to a point where I want to meet someone and that is a bit scary.

My mother's in her 80s and thinks I need someone to look after me. What she fails to recognise, is that I inevitably ended up looking after them!

Single since 22 (now 28). Had some brief flings in between but nothing I'd say I was committed to. I get bored of men within a week - sounds awful I know. I don't find them remotely interesting after a couple of dates. They say they like 'independent strong women' but then do anything to squash it and want you to need them. I have never lived with a partner and can't imagine wanting to do so. I hate having to think about someone else when planning my free time. I'm better off single for now as I value my freedom too much.

This is exactly what I find happens too @RainbowChameleon

They try to destroy all the things they say they liked about you in the first place. I won't ever live with a man again.

I really enjoyed lurking on this thread last year. I love being single. I dreamed for so many years about my current situation and I still can’t believe I have my own place, own bed. The things around me which I bought and kept at my parent’s house.

I know so many women who are unhappy in their relationships but don’t trust themselves or their ability to be happy alone.

One of my sisters couldn't stand to be alone and always had to be surrounded by people, so her divorce was particularly hard and her children are grown and have flown the nest.

It's taken a few years, but she now admits she absolutely loves having her own space, her own money and being able to make decisions without having to check with a partner.

I was lurking on this thread last year too, when I was living with my ex, reasonably amicably, until I found my own place. I bought somewhere in April, and its just about ready to move into - and I can't wait!!!!...my ex has been a big help with the practical stuff, decorating, building furniture etc, but I really really can't wait to be in there..my own space and garden to do exactly what I want in.. we do share a dog, and he'll be at both homes, depending on who's working what shifts, but I have absolutely no intention of seeking out a relationship again. I like my own company, I'm maybe a little bit selfish ;)..but at 52 I'm a bit long in the tooth to spend time with other people when really I'm more than happy doing my own thing.

I have to be honest and say I realise at almost 60 I actually am not that keen on relationships/marriage unless you have a really easy going very independent partner with their own interests I find that someone else’s moods and actions and the constant having to do stuff you don’t want to do (think go for an hours drive to get out the house when you would be quite happy to read a book etc) — having been married 25 years and still married (second marriage) it’s taken me a long time to realise what it is that makes me feel happy or drained

@Crikeyalmighty

It’s not too late have the life you want 💐

@Lookingoutside. No I realise that— a few practical reasons I haven’t and can’t go into but I need to stay put for around a year to put me in a better position

@StarbucksQueen. That’s how I feel too. I’ve done the family thing , like my own company etc , so I’m not desparate to be involved again as after 3 long term relationships (2 marriages and one live in) i realise that I tend to feel like the kind housekeeper who gets emotionally dumped on and is responsible for someone else’s happiness/company after a few years.