Hi everyone! Glad you are alive and kicking still. Well maybe @Misty9 won't be kicking much with that knee. Ouch! That needs cleaning out with sterile/cool boiled water, and covering with a dry dressing initially. If it starts seeming a bit infected then GP. Wound care was never my area so not sure if it needs packing or not. I would ring the GP and ask if the practice nurse can call you to give you advise and the right stuff to dress it with. But fucking ouch it looks agony.
That sounds so so rough with your son again. I don't know it they have them in your area, but where I am Barnardos run sessions on behaviour management for kids with ASD. Covering allsorts. Really really excellent courses. I have got a lot out of them to be honest. All free too. Have a look online, that's where I booked into the ones I went on. Have you tried the 123Magic approach to behaviour as well? That can help in some cases. Withholding is such a tricky one isn't it. I feel for you and send you a huge hug and 
Congratulations on the job. Are you going to take it? I Hope so if it's what you want. Was the interview respite in the end? 
Definitely don't watch stuff like Your Home Made Perfect. They will all have had contract cleaners in a professional tidiers etc. Stuff like that is designed to make people feel lacking. Just so they then buy the shit that's then advertised in the commercial break. We all have a roof over our head that is safe. That's enough. Really. All the rest is superficial bollocks.
@cheerup welcome! It's such a relief isn't it to not spend the mental space on a bloke? And just focus on life! Relationships can be such hard work. Good for you for sacking it all off and concentrating on yourself.
@BuddhaAtSea Hi! It sounds like your ex is being an emotional vampire again. You are getting the drained feeling of being in a relationship without even the perks. But then that's what narcissists do isn't it? They drain the focus of their narcissistic supply and ensure the supply by being just nice enough that their target doesn't get rid. And, of course, by making sure they are great in lots of ways. If they weren't, they know you wouldn't keep them around, and then they would have noone to drain. Is there a reason you are letting him do this? What are you getting out of it? From the outside its pretty clear that he has breached your boundaries and is wearing you down. Can you really be arsed with being his supply? Every time he is around you sound drained and more down and mention going to counselling. Surely if he was good for you You would seem positive and energised?
Hi @Eesha hope you are ok mate? You have a PM xx
@yesterdaystotalsteps123 Hi! And welcome. You sound so happy and positive which is brilliant. Hooray for new kittens. It's a thread law that new pets require photos of them (one I have made up just this second but I like it!). It sounds like no contact is doing you the world of good. Is he not seeing the kids or are they old enough to sort their own relationship with him? I know what you mean about missing routine. It's hard isn't it? I think everyone is struggling now. You sound awesome in how you are dealing with it though!
Things here are pretty good actually. I have felt dodgy the past few days but ok now. Have spent lots of time in bed and when up have spent lots of time having socially distanced chats in my sexy neighbours garden with him. I am a bit pissed off because I set him up with a mutual friend and was clear to her that he has had a rough time and deserves someone lovely. She was really exciting about the idea of dating him, telling us both how fit she thinks he is etc. And two days later sods off back to her ex who she supposedly had no feelings for. I was bloody annoyed with her. Really cross. Because I am at the point where i know him so well that I don't fancy him remotely any more but we are bloody good friends. And I hate that she has hurt him. Makes you realise it's not only men who can be arseholes.
Aside from that I have been catching up on the phone with old mates and family, pottering round the house, getting my neighbour to sort my garden out for £50 and loads of cups of tea, keeping in sporadic contact with my old FWB and, have met a seemingly lovely bloke on Tinder.
I have told Mr Lovely though that I like my life as it is, don't want any disruptions to it, and that I will only date someone who substantially adds to my life. Otherwise I would rather be single. He gets it and agrees. He lives about 45 mins away so can't be under my feet all the time anyway.
DD has been with her dad for thr past two weeks and I miss her loads. She is happy as Larry with him although she misses me too, and I am talking to her regularly and he brought her round to see me yesterday, but I can't wait to have her home on Sunday. I miss her so much! Way more than she misses me. Which is great because it means she is perfectly happy with both me and ExH but I still miss her.
On a positive note, we can go for our decree absolute now so I should be divorced in a couple of months. Hooray!!!