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The Happy Singleton- Part Two

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mildlymiffed · 01/03/2020 22:47

Ta-dah! Welcome to all our happily (sometimes, admittedly, less so!) single peeps! All welcome, whether your recently singled or a long-term singleton.

We've got this solo thing sorted (-ish!)

@misty9 do your thang!

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LiddyJim · 22/04/2020 23:02

Well guess who has popped back up again like a bad smell. Messaged me from a work number to say thank you to me for something irrelevant he didn’t need to say thank you for. My heart jumped into my chest when I got it which was probably his intention. He is poking me for a reaction because I am not reacting how he expects me to right?

Eesha · 22/04/2020 23:20

@Misty9 I never watch that show but just put it on recently and that man who co presents is so attractive!!!

Misty9 · 22/04/2020 23:39

Even with his tache @Eesha ?! He was looking better this series I noticed, but facial hair really doesn't do it for me 😂

Misty9 · 22/04/2020 23:39

Just ignore him @LiddyJim Flowers

Eesha · 22/04/2020 23:49

@Misty9 I actually thought he was stunning!! He's the best looking man I've seen on tv! Why isn't he on Tinder??

Misty9 · 22/04/2020 23:53

🤣

Hang on, I'm assuming you don't mean Joe lycett...?!

Eesha · 22/04/2020 23:54

@Misty9 NOOO, the tailor guy!

Misty9 · 22/04/2020 23:56

🤣🤣 I thought so, it's okay! Patrick somebody

I find Joe quite annoying...

LiddyJim · 23/04/2020 09:22

Who is this Patrick perhaps he will cheer me up if he’s good looking

I have tried not to let the message play on my mind too much and ignored it

Misty9 · 23/04/2020 21:48

Evening all. A bit of a crappy day today. I've just had zero energy and get up and go. Dd is being super clingy and won't do anything without me, and I couldn't summon up the enthusiasm to do anything. I often feel more lonely when I've got the kids, maybe because there's no one to talk to about how they are? I don't know. I feel like I've got nothing to say to anyone and nothing ever really happens...

Eesha · 24/04/2020 14:40

@Misty9 sorry to hear this, I think everyone is in similar boats really. TBH I was always with my kids 100% so nothing new for me. Can't you plan to have a chat with at least one person in the evening after the kids are asleep? I do that sometimes, at least have one long text chat or call to remind me about human interraction!

Hope everyone is enjoying the sun. We are going on regular walks and I just fired up our fancy barbeque that my ex got so stressed about if it didn't go to plan (then drank). You know what, it was so easy!!! I could get used to this.....

SirChing · 25/04/2020 02:21

Hi everyone. I haven't posted for a couple of days. Had a sun induced migraine which was fun! Now just feeling blah. DD has gone to ex today for a fortnight so will miss her loads. Going to take the opportunity to really clean and sort the house out I think, and catch up on some outstanding paperwork.

Missing not being able to see FWB but it's just not possible or worth the risk. Don't have many plans for the weekend. Sexy neighbour is servicing my car for me and replacing my knackered fence for me, to avoid him going bonkers with boredom. I shall probably sit and drink beer in the garden and watch him work!

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend planned?

Eesha · 25/04/2020 05:13

@SirChing Flowers about the migraine. Hope you feel ok soon. Sitting around, watching a pretend Diet Coke man doesn't sound too bad to me! Or decluttering!!! I feel like I'm living in a bombsite with my kids personally. Sorry you still can't see FWB, could you not do a socially distanced walk of some kind?

I think we will be chilling in the garden even more, whilst I down my required 3L of water. Hope everyone else is keeping their spirits up during this strange time.

Misty9 · 25/04/2020 09:51

Sorry to hear about the migraine @SirChing I had one too this week although thankfully it wasn't a doozie. @Eesha I'm usually too knackered by the end of the day when I've got the kids (and sick of the sound of my own voice!) so don't tend to call others. My friends are all married so have their own stresses of never getting a break from their dc. We always mention doing video calls and pub quizzes etc but nothing much happens.

Things with ds are pretty horrible today. We get into a horrible place where we just say hurtful things to each other Sad so I'm hiding in my room as they seem to be playing at lot better without me there.

Is it the weekend?! I've lost track of the days. Nothing exciting planned and will be doing work tomorrow when the kids have gone. I feel restless and keep thinking I'm hungry, but no food satisfies me.

Rainydayss · 25/04/2020 18:20

Hope all these migraines go soon, hayfever and tension perhaps?
Been for my daily walk which I love but then felt sad as I walked past people's gardens full of couples and families, kind of wish that was me. Trying to keep positive when I'm alone and DD is at her dads and be thankful I'm not in a bad relationship, I guess what I see in happy families is only a snapshot of their actual lives

SirChing · 26/04/2020 01:10

Hi all! Migraine had finally gone, thank God! Sadly, it had me laid up with it all day so didn't get to watch sexy do my fence. I had left my back door open for the cat to wander in and out though, and he left some beer and some Pepsi in my kitchen for me, bless him. No-one can get into my back garden without going through lots of others first, including his, so I felt pretty safe still. He said he knew I would be asleep so just wanted to leave me.

So I now have a fixed fence and a serviced car. FWB may be coming over next weekend for a bit. He wants to stay over but I can't risk passing anything onto my mum if I caught covid. He understands and will do whatever I want. He is just missing me too.

Sorry to hear that others have had migraines too. I think it's air pressure or something. It's not good!

Sorry to hear about the problems with your DS @Misty9 would a change of scenery for you all help when things get like that?

@Eesha I should be raring to go on the decluttering but can't be arsed!

@Rainydayss yep, you never know what is going on behind closed doors. Half of those families will be miserable in some way. Otherwise half of marriages wouldn't end in divorce.

Has anyone else found that being single really makes you focus on building new friendships? I talk to and am friendly with so many more people than I was before. I have loads more to do with my neighbours and talk to acquaintances who have turned into friends. And very often not the ones I would expect. I feel very looked after where I live now which is a lovely feeling.

Hope you are all ok? Oh, and I have gone from being a blonde to a brunette and feel as foxy as hell. I can recommend it!

Eesha · 26/04/2020 06:53

@SirChing YAY that you are feeling better. And that FWB might be able to pop round. I think if I were closer to people, I'd definitely be heading over and at least having a socially distanced chat. You'll feel much more smiley you see him.

I completely agree about building new friendships when single, I was like that at a local church playgroup as became close friends with the vicar (not something I'd ever have expected to do!)

Another day in the garden today but shouldn't complain as will be miserable if/when the weather turns. Hoping we get back to some sense of normality soon. Otherwise my brain is more full of what to eat/cook but then how to lose weight and be fabulous again. Have thinking about cutting my head off.

SirChing · 26/04/2020 16:11

Oh God, please help guys. Sexy neighbour had his new girlfriend round today. And I REALLY didn't like it. I felt jealous as fuck and just wanted to cry. What the hell is wrong with me? We get on so well and he is really lovely. I think maybe part of me was holding out for something happening. I feel totally gutted for some reason. Help!!!

Eesha · 26/04/2020 17:22

@SirChing i think, regardless of what you've said, you have got yourself emotionally attached to him! You possibly need to take a step back to protect yourself.

SirChing · 27/04/2020 00:53

I think I did @Eesha, and I didn't bloody even notice! Too busy mooning over FWB. Ah well, shit happens........and he has a smooth chest (Bleurgh!)

Eesha · 27/04/2020 06:52

@SirChing at least you know a bit more now that he has that effect on you. Plus he sounded lovely by the sounds of it. Let his girlfriend do loads of nice things for him, and you work out how to see FWB (socially distanced obv)

How's everyone today? Looks like the weather is turning so no more lounging in the garden. We had a great day yesterday as spent a few hours in the park. I explained to my toddlers that I would give them three lollies each if they could catch me a crow. Cue 45min of these little people chasing birds over the fields.

SirChing · 27/04/2020 21:57

@Eesha Your toddlers sound adorable! That's so cute. Until the day they drag a half dead one they HAVE managed to catch back to you 😂 Glad you had a great day yesterday. It was cold today!

It was definitely just a crush on neighbour. I am recovered today and have seen him and all is well. In fact he got the middle finger from me. So all is back to normal Grin

In fairness, I would still do exactly the same for him whether he has a new girlfriend or not. He's a bloody good mate after all this time so I would help him out no matter what. We get on so brilliantly and I asked him if that bothered his lass. He said not and introduced me to her. He said he has told her what he and I are like together and she is fine (good, because I write erotica on the side and he is my test subject. He is like white van man. Appeal to him and it appeals to every one.) So all is good.

Turns out that my GP is right when she tipped me the nod that cannabis helps fibro. She didn't tell me that I would spend the entire evening laughing like a loon with my ex who popped round for a bit. I then got very very hungry and today had such a headache! Fibro was sorted though! 👍

Misty9 · 27/04/2020 22:59

Oh @SirChing you sound like such a laugh and a lovely person. I love a bit of erotica and I'd love to hang out with you in real life. To be fair, I'd love to hang out with anyone in real life right now... 😂 Glad you've gotten over the crush (for now Wink) wasn't it smooth chest and beer belly that were putting you off?

Sorry I'm not posting much at the moment. I'm really struggling (see my thread in parenting if you want) and I just really want someone to look after me for a bit. But I have to go on looking after everyone else. As do many of us I know. I'm getting some short term respite thanks to exh, but am looking into how to sort things in the medium term. I'm so tired of finding things difficult though Sad

SirChing · 27/04/2020 23:08

@Misty9 aw Misty, that sounds so rough at the moment. You poor thing. Its so hard when they are ND isn't it? You would always be welcome to hang round with me! Can't guarantee you wouldn't be slightly stoned after it though 😂

SirChing · 27/04/2020 23:12

Oh God, the smoothness! Told him he had given me the ick with it. He reckons he shaved it and is hairy everywhere except his shaved head. I plead no knowledge about that. But I also realised he has a slightly camp voice. I could hear my flaps locking themselves at the realisation. They already slammed shut with the smooth! 😱