The Happy Singleton- Part Two

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Ta-dah! Welcome to all our happily (sometimes, admittedly, less so!) single peeps! All welcome, whether your recently singled or a long-term singleton.

We've got this solo thing sorted (-ish!)

@misty9 do your thang!

flaps locking themselves 🤣 do you use that one in your writing? 😂

Thanks, it is pretty shit at the moment. I've got to find the headspace to do an assessment tomorrow evening and a job interview on Thursday.. 😱 Stoned sounds a good strategy! Glad it helped your fibro

Hahahahaha @Misty9 nope, I don't use that funnily enough 😂 I would attach some erotica for you but it's absolute filth so I can't 😂

Ooh you're welcome to pm it 😉 😂

Oh God Misty, good look with the assessment and the interview. Could you view them as respite from run of the mill stresses? Then they are almost enjoyable! Or I can send one of these joints (joke MNHQ, put the phone to the police down....or your dealer....whichever it was!)?

Ok, I shall PM it but it's long and very very dirty!

thanks!

A job interview as respite... It probably is preferable at the moment!

See, respite

@SirChing Oooo erotic fiction?! Do you get paid for it? You are a brilliant writer anyway so not surprised you do this too! I do hear a lot of positive things about cannabis. My now defunct FWB bloke used it for ADHD regularly and said it really helped him. I'm glad it's working with you and you managed to see your lovely FWB.

I can't sleep people. Overthinking is my bane even though nothing to really be concerned about. I think I miss the adult interraction and fun stuff to look forward to. All im doing is cleaning up after my kids and batch cooking. My kids think my hair is naturally white now because I haven't dyed it for months now. I used to love dressing up and heading out for a night out every few weeks. I think I'm going to have to take my own advice and have more phone chats tomorrow to remind me about people my own age.

OMG I’ve just seen this thread! Can I join?. I’ve been single now for 8 months, I have a 3 year old, a 22 month old and an 8 month old so life is crazy but I’m genuinely loving not having to answer to a horrible man!

Welcome @averytiredmom! Gosh you have loads on your plate, I became single with 15month twins and I felt that was a lot but completely agree, life is so much better not answering to a horrible man.

@Eesha it has been really hard having 3 so close together, especially now with lockdown but I am trying to keep positive. Even this is better than being where I used to be!.

Hi everyone! Hope all are well?

@Eesha no, I don't get paid for it. I just upload to a few forums. And that's a lovely compliment, thank you so much! I shall PM you the filth if you like? And anyone else who wants it. Disclaimer: it is dirty and perverted with a distinct BDSM angle.

Is FWB definitely defunct? What happened? And have you heard from Mr Frenchy? What about Me Hot? Sounds like your brain is struggling with lack of adult contact. It's never an equal conversation with kids I suppose, you need adults for that. Get on the blower!

Welcome @averytiredmom! Three under three? Bloody hell you are superwoman! I would have had to sell at least one by this point! At least you haven't got an awful bloke being a hindrance, which is a good thing. Its not only them being useless, it's the mental energy that seething over the uselessness takes! Bloody men!

@SirChing it has been hard😂 especially having a 2 year old, a 1 year old and a newborn. My eldest helps out a bit though (as much as a 3 year old can). I have considered selling one😂. And you’re sooo right about mental energy. Even though physically I’m doing more than I did mentally I feel so much better

@averytiredmom well, I only have the one and have contemplated selling her. Sadly, you can't sell livestock on eBay. So looks like I will be keeping her! I bet you and your kids are going to be such a happy little crew together. They won't remember any different and will always know you as the happy mummy who did everything for them. At least your ex has pushed off before he could take any credit for them. Same with @Eesha.

@SirChing great to see you are feeling a teeny bit better, your writing is amazing!

My love life in a nutshell to bore you all :

FWB : I started doubting he hadn't been with anyone else during the year we had been seeing each other. He barked at me saying not this again, that there was a pandemic on. I'm sure he was exclusive but his reaction irritated me and we haven't spoken for a week now (previously daily).

Mr HotandYoung ghosted me a week ago then popped up yesterday as though nothing had happened. I explained clearly what I thought, how he was rude etc. He said I was overreacting but that he was sorry. I deleted.

Mr Frenchy : well I'm besotted irrationally. Every day he sends me messages in German or French, very sweet. We have had a couple of 3hr calls. I'm just trying to be cool and not overinvest in case he's a psycho (after reading another thread about a man leading a double life!) or in case I get ghosted! But in my mind, he's different to anyone I've known and I really hope we get to go on one date at least!!!

@SirChing I don’t think I’d be able to choose which one to sell, even though DS3 is teething and I would maybe rent him out for a bit so I get a break. And thank you what a lovely way to think of it.

@Eesha mr frenchy sound great!

@averytiredmom yes hes great but I'm expecting either:

1. Ghosting
2. Secretly married
3. Serial killer

I'm not very lucky in love so am just hoping for a date!

I hope it goes well for you!

@Eesha I'm loving your options there - men don't inspire much faith do they?! I'd agree with you btw, the pool of single decent men out there seems to be vanishingly small.

Welcome @averytiredmom wow, three really little ones! I take my hat off to you. Renting out the kids... Now there's an idea! I think I'd have to pay the renter though

Feeling calmer today and having a mental break from it all. I'm getting addicted to the series Normal People just streaming on bbc3. It was a beautifully written book and the TV prog is doing it justice so far. Makes me feel a bit sad though as the main character reminds me of myself...

@SirChing have you checked out that recommendation I mentioned yet? I loved your writing. Right up my street.

@Misty9 I haven’t dated since leaving my ex. It’s quite difficult with the DC. But I have heard some absolute horror stories about single men. It’s sort of putting me off ever dating again! And thank you I’d definitely pay just for someone to give me half an hours break.

@Eesha OR Mr Frenchy is bored shitless by dating vacuous women and wants someone who has a brain in her head, is sexy as hell and has something to say for herself? He sounds bloody great! Go for it!

You sound well rid of the other two. Mr FWB was clearly deflecting and Mr Hot seems to have been a player. And who can be arsed with that?

@Misty9 oooh Normal people sounds good, I shall have do have a watch of it. I DID look up that writer you told me about. Haven't downloaded any of her stuff yet as have been too busy coming down (still!) from the weekend! Hope you are ok?

@averytiredmom well, you want a break and would pay for it, and dont want a bloke.......so, hire a make escort and use him for an hour's babysitting? Tell him you would find that orgasmic!

@SirChing that’s the best idea I’ve ever heard!!

@SirChing that’s the best idea I’ve ever heard!!

@averytiredmom

Is there anyone alive? If this thread gets any quieter it will turn into a seance!

Hope you are all ok?