what affair signs did you see?

[Harpersjazz]

I’m in the aftermath of finding out about my husbands 5 month affair (emotional and physical) and I find it fascinating some of the times my intuition took over!

I started to feel like something just wasn’t right and then In the last month my intuition went crazy! We were having a fun afternoon doing our big Christmas food shop and he was at the end of the freezer aisle texting. I wouldn’t have given that a second thought 6 months previous but I went all cold and my stomach flipped and i just knew there and then he was texting someone else romantically.

He also got a lovely jumper for Christmas which he told me was from his mum. She buys him clothes and aftershave etc so it shouldn’t have been weird but again it was like this little alarm bell went off. Turns out OW bought it for him.

There were a few more too. I’ll always trust my instincts more in future. Have you ever been cheated on and got a weird feeling from non obvious cliche stuff?

@Dealornodeal80 I think that was guilt to be honest. Added to a withdrawal from our life together

I agree re the distancing of my family being guilt. My sister had a baby in feb last year and he kept making excuses not to hold him when he'd previously loved babies. We now see he wasn't wanting to get attached as he knew he going to leave.

Stopped calling me in his lunchtime which he did every day previously.

Playing golf all day on a Sunday suddenly.

Very guarded around phone, taking it into the bathroom.

Coming home late from work.

Don’t give up hope, there are other men like my husband and every person deserves to be with someone who loves and respects them. Easy to say and do when you've never been cheated on.

One thing I’ll say is that sometimes you have to re-think your type. It wasn’t until my sister did this, that she found a decent bloke who didn’t cheat on her. Great way to put the onus of not being cheated on onto the woman!