New boyfriend is ex-addict

[Gina3333]

Hi, just looking for some advice really,

My new boyfriend has a bit of a past. He was involved in drugs and prison. He hasn't been in trouble with the law for 20 years, and has been clean from heroin and other drugs for many years, although he is still prescribed methadone. The way he explains it, it's a medicine, and is no different to being prescribed painkillers for a sore back. I only see the boyfriend on weekends when my child is away with her father, and at the moment there are no plans to introduce my boyfriend to my child. He lives in his own flat, and I live alone with the child.

My family aren't too thrilled about the situation and are telling me I'm going to lose my child. Just to be clear, there are no drugs anywhere near my home, my house is spotless, my child is well cared for, goes to a good school, is always clean and nicely dressed etc. etc.

Just wondering if anyone has any experience in a similar situation. Can child services come and investigate me? Can the child's father challenge for full custody? What happened and what did you do? This is really stressing me out. thanks

Alright love calm down 😂

A friend of mine had to go onto methadone when her dr kept increasing her morphine prescription

Just saying....

I volunteer with the homeless. All deeply entrenched in addictions. Some have completely turned their lives around. Some have hugely successful businesses working with some of the worlds internationally recognised traders. This is small. But then it’s small percentage anyway.

People CAN and HAVE changed their lives with addictions. I’m always believe people deserve a second chance. However. They ONLY get a second chance. Not a third. Or fourth.

Some of the worlds top people have been in the gutter.

And to the pp who said coming off opiates was ‘simple’

Let’s hope you never have to do it.

Opiates addiction is quite an alarming issue. Many of us take opiates. Cocdamol. Etc. You can buy that in the chemist.

Except people with type 2 do take insulin, Menora. Its you who dont know what you're talking about. Funny how people assume you're an idiot when you have an addiction and you can tell them anything.

Carry on ignoring that I said socially so you can get your little tabloidy rant in.

Funny that cos I wouldnt have a current weed user near me or my hypothetical kids. The pure tedium an psychotic behaviour. Dont assume you're any better than us, Iflyaya

@Patroclus I agree with you there. I think I'd rather someone whose addiction is being properly controlled being around my kids than a casual drug user smoking weed and having to deal with the effects, and smell, of that.

Or, you know, someone who wasn’t addicted to anything?!

OP has plenty of dating / social options other than opiate, alcohol or weed addicts!

@OhCaptain that goes without saying. I made it very clear earlier in the thread that I wouldn't continue the relationship.

I would get involved and I say that as a recovering person. Relatively recent relapse and not actually clean from drugs. Unlikely to have undertaken therapy or self reflection and made significant change

Wouldn't

I wouldn't have anyone on methadone in my life. I see the fall-out it causes and the multiple relapses. Is he on a reducing programme?