He just slapped my arm

[LadyLush11]

Been together 15 yrs. Three kids. Had up and downs but last few months he has slowly become more aggressive. Never hit me before or was aggressive. We play fight a lot but it’s just that. Messing about.
Few months ago he went to hit me with brush but stop himself. Another time he picked up a baking tray to hit me with it. He never actually did it.
This is how it started today. How petty it is. There were 3 cans of coke in the fridge, one I had left open which he had taken. So I opened a new one which for some reason he then took off me and said I couldn’t have it. So I went and got the last one out and thought screw you im having this then. When he saw this he then chased me around the table (I was laughing at this point of how stupid it was) he caught up with me and then slapped me so hard across my arm you could see his hand mark and it’s still red now. The anger on his face was crazy. Over a can of Coke. I’m shocked and furious. I don’t know what to do.

I’d have seen his arse out of the door before posting on Mumsnet...

We just had another exchange. I was just asking if the kids wanted to come upstairs. He called me a twat and told me to go and be a victim somewhere else. Lovely

I'm worried he's going to escalate this, Lady. He's still wound up clearly.

Please, please consider calling the police! Or if you're not ready to do that, do you have anyone who can come and help you make him leave?

Can you get out of there? Is there anyone you can call to come and get you? He's the twat and he needs reporting. Please don't waste any time he's clearly still on the warpath.

What's your housing situation? How easy will it be to get him out?

I would consider reporting this asap to the police, particularly as he is not backing down.

@LadyLush11
Can you just take your children and go else where for the time being. Have your children come to see you

There's a whole evening to go, yet, and he's clearly intending to keep it up.

What’s your housing situation?

You need to figure out your next move ASAP. He doesn't even sound sorry for what he has done, meaning he knew exactly what he was doing at the time. This isn't a joke. No need to converse with him or continue posting online. Get out.

You gotta get him out of your house the vile creature

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This sounds like it's been escalating 😞. Reading the femicide census was horrifying OP. So many women killed by the men they were living with. I think you need to call the police.

If he isn't taking it seriously, I would report to the police so there is a record.

Let me guess that he has most of the power when you're play fighting? I bet he keeps it up longer than you want to, as well.

PLEASE CALL WOMEN'S AID

I know you want to get the kids to school tomorrow but if you have a place to go tonight with your children I would think about how you could do that. He sounds furious, like he doesn’t even like you. Where’s your shared 15 years of history in what he’s just done and said to you. I’m worried that he’s picked up implements over the last few months with the urge to hurt you. I think you need to get out of there.

Is there a police station near you? Can you go and report it there and show the photograph?

@FourDecades yes thank you for pointing out something I already feel terrible about

@LadyLush11
Are you ok?

Don’t normally do this, but please let us know if you’re alright at some point tonight- thoughts with

I’m fine thanks guys. I’m in bed and avoided him, he came up to brush his teeth and say good night to the kids but we didn’t talk at all. He’s off to work tomorrow early also so I won’t have to speak to him either.

Ok @LadyLush11 but please do try and get some help or advice

Thanks for letting us know, whatever you decide to do tomorrow good luck