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This is a red flag isn't it? I'm fuming

323 replies

duckingredflags · 12/02/2020 07:05

I have been dating a man who lives close to me for the last couple of months, we are both early 20's. I live at home with parents and he has a flat 10 minutes up the road. He works nights and last night he mentioned he hadn't eaten before work so I offered to drop him some food off from McDonald's at around 10 o'clock as I drive and he doesn't. I turned up with the food and then on my way home I received messages saying I'd got his order wrong and detailing everything I'd got wrong, he'd asked for no ice in his drink and there was ice, I'd got the wrong sauce and his chips were cold. This got my back up as I'd driven all the way there for him and paid for it, so I snapped back that it was ungrateful to be complaining and he messaged back saying 'well, if you got the wrong food served to you in a restaurant and you were looking forward to it you wouldn't be happy would you ? I saw red at this point and responded 'well I'm not a fucking restaurant am i?' You should go yourself next time then. He responded with 'forget it'. I'm seriously considering ending things over this, I'm not being unreasonable and overreacting am I ?

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Mittens030869 · 14/02/2020 17:02

@EuroMillionsWinner No, I don't agree. It was well handled, she told him some home truths (I loved the comparison with a toddler, that was apt) and walked away. So she did finish it to all intents and purposes, she treated the man child the way he deserved.

Anyway, she has deleted and blocked him now. I rather think that prick would have texted her again to have a go at her if she hadn't.

thehorseandhisboy · 14/02/2020 17:05

Well done OP. Good move.

kenandbarbie · 14/02/2020 17:14

Live a thread where op acts so decisively!

diddl · 14/02/2020 17:19

I can understand that he was disappointed that his order was wrong, but even so that's no excuse for the way he reacted.

I also think that not enough women seem to realise that you can stop seeing someone for any reason at all or indeed for no reason-just because it's what you want to do!

This needing reasons & trying to let people down gently-do (m)any men bother themselves with it?

copperoliver · 14/02/2020 17:22

End it before you get to into the relationship then it will be harder. X

Willow2017 · 14/02/2020 17:23

Well done op.
What a whinging baby he is.
Maybe he should text his mummy next time to.bring him his fav meal when he cant manage to feed himself poor lamb.

apparently as he can't be with someone who says things like that to him
Of course he cant he wants a woman to jump to his every need when he demands it and not waver from his idea of the ideal woman servant

You are well rid.

GCAcademic · 14/02/2020 17:26

He was fixated on the fact that I said to him the other day he complains more than a toddler and that was the final straw for him apparently as he can't be with someone who says things like that to him

He was so upset by something that you said to him, that he had to go ahead and prove you were right?! What an absolute bellend. Congratulations on being free of him, OP.

Sassanacs · 14/02/2020 17:27

Ffs Grin

Lozzerbmc · 14/02/2020 17:28

Well done you deserve much better.
Unbelievable man!

Isbutteracarb · 14/02/2020 17:30

Go OP! 👏🏼 🥳

SRS29 · 14/02/2020 17:35

Nice one OP, I'm laughing my head off!

JulaJ · 14/02/2020 17:37

Yes he is a big baby, toys out of the pram. I blame the parents myself 😂. You did the right thing. Couples bicker...that’s just life but he should have thought about it before having a moan about something like that!

duckingredflags · 14/02/2020 17:41

He's just found another way to message me and he says he doesn't care anyway because he could buy my car for me 5 times if he wanted to and I'm salty apparently 😂 I drive an old car by choice btw as I'm saving for a house deposit 😁

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duckingredflags · 14/02/2020 17:43

I'm not even responding any further as it is getting ridiculous.

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Mittens030869 · 14/02/2020 17:47

Oh dear, what a saddo. You're right not to respond. He sounds like he's completely inadequate, but he's not your problem.

Camopetals · 14/02/2020 17:47

You have great boundaries OP, keep up the good work.

Jux · 14/02/2020 17:48

Oh yeah, that' the way to do it!

You'll have a happy life now Star

Candace19 · 14/02/2020 17:49

You know the answer

81Byerley · 14/02/2020 17:55

Get rid.

EuroMillionsWinner · 14/02/2020 18:07

He's a stalky wee cunt in addition to just a cunt. One who has to have the last word, it seems. 'If you don't care then why do you keep trying to contact me? Get a life, you fucking reject!' and then block him there, too.

AGoodPodcastAndANiceCupOfTea · 14/02/2020 18:10

@EuroMillionsWinner This x1000!

MimiLaRue · 14/02/2020 18:23

Anthoer vote for @euromillionswinner

Agree totally

dramalessllama · 14/02/2020 18:29

Well done, OP!

starsinthegutter · 14/02/2020 18:43

Lucky escape op!

Poohpooh · 14/02/2020 18:43

Anyone who brings me food I ask for gets gratitude, not complaints. It's entitlement on another level.

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