Dating thread 184! Where we don't take any nonsense !

[bangheadhere40]

The Rules: 1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating. 2. Develop a thick skin. 3. Do not invest emotionally too soon. 4. It's all BS until it actually happens. 5. Trust your gut instinct. 6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault. 7. Know your worth. 8. If it's not fun, stop. 9. Loo update is mandatory. 10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy. Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps click here ** Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@Mylifestartstoday. Sorry a bit late to answer your question. I slept with mr g on second date as I wanted to. At first after a few more dates he wanted a fwb thing but now we are together. Sounds like if it’s not the 2nd date it will be the 3rd or 4th lol so not much difference 🤷🏼‍♀️. If you want to do it and it feels right then go for it. Or enjoy the company and wait. Whatever feels right

No. Not at all. I am normally robust, but this got to me. Blame PMS. Thing is I used to feel low about myself as I was quite overweight and no confidence. lost weight got my body confidence back and my ex always complimented me. This weekend I threw all my fat clothes out and by a fluke fitted into a size 12 dress, first time in years. I know we shouldn’t be validated by other comments, but sometimes it’s a boost.

@Ginbunny1212 what a charmless wanker.

@Mylifestartstoday my rule is I have sex if I want to but as long as I'm comfortable that i can enjoy it for what it is and it won't necessarily mean anything.

@bangheadhere40 how are you feeling today?

I'm feeling happy and loved up. Had a lovely weekend with Mr B. Wishing he was still here.

@notcool glad you had a nice weekend with Mr B.

I'm fine today, no real weirdness after the event, he has been in touch though....and was very reassuring last night unprompted.

Wish he lived a bit nearer now... the only thing that needs work is the sex side, but it's always so awkward at first ( I find anyway)...hopefully as we get to know eachother we can both be a bit more communicative.

I am kid free Tuesday and he is passing my way with work so is stopping, I suggested it..and will hopefully see him next weekend.

I hope he is as genuine as he seems!!!!!

I get anxious about the setting up dates, and I know that's not what I want to be doing ideally.

@Ginbunny1212

He says he wants none, so says best part ways. Fair dues - I wish him good luck.

You didn't beg or get upset etc, you bowed out gracefully which probably dented his ego.

Also, you fitted into a size 12 dress? Thats not 'a bit overweight' in any language!

@bangheadhere40 sounds good. With making dates it has to be a mutual thing. I tend to sort out most of the times to meet up with mr g as his kid times are consistent and mine vary.

@Stillsexystillsingle that was definitely the case here.
Going to RTFT tomorrow and have a proper catch up. Going to bed with a couple of headache tablets now, what a godawful day. Tomorrow can only be better.

@LabradorMama hope you’re ok, sounds so horrible. How did you find out?

Advice laddies (and gents).

Supposed to be meeting Mr Ski on Tuesday, we have been chatting a lot via POF, today he said he was going out to lunch with a mate so he vanished for most of the day, usually he sends the odd message when out. Now he has messaged me asking if we can talk via text and it seems he has hidden his profile (I can no longer see his photo). Am I over thinking things in thinking he went on a date today and maybe told them he would come off of POF which is why his profile is hidden? Yet he still wants to meet 🤔

I have text him and asked him why he has hidden his profile.

I hide my profile all the time so it might not be sinister. I've not had a discussion with anyone about coming off it. It's a me thing so it might not be all bad!

@Instamaticstars I had a really strong feeling about one of the lies and it was really easy to find evidence to prove it, it was in plain sight in the house. While looking for evidence to support another feeling I had I came across a load of other stuff that outed him on other lies. I gave him the chance to come clean but he didn't - he even tried to make out I was being unfair to him by asking. He came clean in the end though but it was far too late by then.

I think there was far more to it actually, I'm pretty sure he has been seeing another woman. Either way, the trust had gone so I gathered up my shit and got out of there toot sweet.

@Lovemusic33 don’t read to much into it just see what he’s got to say. If you’ve never met him he could well be seeing other people

@LabradorMama how awful, good for you for getting away. Sending

It’s all over with Mr Posh. Several hours into a great third date, he suddenly said he wanted to be “friends”, claimed he liked me etc but was scared. Later on he texted me and said he wasn’t interested. When I asked him some questions, he blocked me. I can’t stop crying. I really liked him and I’m seriously done with all this dating bullshit.

Sorry to hear that @ThirtyAndASmidgen it sounds like he was dating others and met someone he liked more. An occupational hazard of early stage dating I'm afraid. But it can be very painful none the less.

@lovemusic I think the opposite, if he wants to talk via text then that's a good sign.

If you've hidden profile your contacts can still see the pic.

It looks like he's taken his photo off completely

@thirty sorry to hear that....especially if it seemingly came out of nowhere. It sounds like he's been multiple dating.....

I would be upset too.

@lovemusic asking to talk, instead of just talking, would concern me too. Have you spoken?

Lovemusic33 do you mean he wants to move from chatting on POF to chatting via text?
It sounds like he's just taken his photos off/set them to private. I wouldn't read too much into it. I often hide my profile if I don't want any new messages for a while.

ThirtyAndASmidgen sorry to hear that. Blocking you is just cowardly.

I had a date last night. Someone I'd seen on POF for quite a while. Now I know why he's still on there!
Photos were at least 5 years out of date. He was 6 years older than he claimed.
When I asked what he liked to do at the weekend, he said "Nothing". And he meant it. He puts the tv on and just watches that all weekends.
I made my excuses after 30minutes

My date last night...we dtd, and I’m now really regretting it. Following dtd, he was banging on about anal and other stuff I’m just not into, and when I said this, he just kept on about trying it and how other girls friends said the same but then he persuaded them and they liked it. Good for them, but it’s not for me, so I got a bit nervy that he wouldn’t respect my boundaries. Made a quick exit, got home to messages asking for pics so he could sort himself out in the morning 🤢🤮. I think, if I had to guess, he watches a lot of porn

I have spoken/text Mr Ski this morning, he sent me a long text explaining why he has hidden his profile, he said he is looking forward to meeting me and he has enjoyed messaging me on POF, he said he feels that if we get on tomorrow it would feel wrong to be talking to other people on POF so he decided to take his profile down but he said if we don’t get on then he will take a break before putting his profile back on.

Not sure what to make of it, he hasn’t been pushy at all, hasn’t made future plans any further than our date tomorrow. Has said things like “don’t worry if we don’t get on, at least we would have had coffee and cake”.

I will meet him tomorrow and see how things go. I’m not taking my profile down any time soon, I’m pretty sure he won’t be my type anyway and pretty sure he may feel the same. I’m talking to others and will continue to do so.