DP typically leaves house at 7am and returns at 8pm.

[Jaycee74]

I currently don’t work - all household management is left to me during the week. I get some help at weekend - but I have to ask. He generally cooks at the weekend. Do I have a right to feel pissed off?

So how do you know how things in your household might chance if you did?

Nice lecture on how stupid mothers are and how they made an active choice

I’m not telling mothers they’re stupid, I’m telling women who think they should do everything because their husband works, that it’s not fair. How do I know how my household would change if I had kids? Well because I’m not as stupid as some of these men and know that adding dependents to your family means more work, not less!

and you know what, if I’m wrong, explain why without kids, I do more than these men even though my partner is out of work, yet if I had kids, I should expect to be waited on hand a foot. Why should any man expect that?!

My DH behaves like yours but I’m the one pulling 12/13 hour shifts. I clean before and after work. Your husband is perfectly capable of doing his share around work. My husband is also a dick.

Ugh, he's just got in. I warmed up his food in readiness but I am knackered so got myself ready for bed. Apparently I am "making a point" about him being in late.
No, I am just fucking tired and want to go to bed, asshat.

Why did you warm his food?

I think him not pulling his weight around the house is the least of your problems. The being out 7am - 8pm every day and sleeping on the sofa is the real problem

Do you know exactly where he is all this time? Is a lot of this time made up commuting?
You say he works extra but doesn’t get paid for it? Very convenient don’t you think? Longs hours evidently at work, going above and beyond for no extra pay?

All sounds very fishy. And it’s a piss poor excuse he has there for not sharing the same bed as you

Why are you parenting on your own? I get why you do chores and things during the week but not sure why he doesn't pick up the slack at weekends.

Regardless of his hours, it doesn't make it ok for him to get out of parenting his kids. Reading books, bathing and just generally being around them is important for a child.

Does he work 7am til 8am or whats happening?

@Gutterton You are spot on.

They are 100% avoiding the drudge work at home and don't care that their spouse is doing everything. These men like the idea and the status having a family gives them, but they don't want to participate, unless it's easy and fun.

Then they still get the praise from others. You should be grateful. Your DH works such long hours! What a good man! Yeah right. Working hard playing fortnight or whatever game is popular.