How to get my partner to allow me a girls night out?

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Hi I've been with my partner for ten years we have three children under 5 and I'm mid 20s I've never ever been on a girls night out and I really want too.
He said no if I go he has to come or I can't go and I'll be breaking up our family and relationship for the sake of a night out.
I've never ever been out without him only to like the school runs shops or my mums or grandmas. What do I do?
He said if I go out I'll be cheating on him or I can't handle my drink or I'm using a girls night out as an excuse to meet men but I'm not.
I probably would only have two drinks as I don't really like it as much as I used too and plus having the children the next day would be difficult hungover.
I've never gave him a reason not to trust me he keeps telling me I don't love him and I'm a slag if I go but I haven't ever been out with my friends before and I really want to go but I guess it's not worth losing my relationship and family life over a night out is it?
Has anyone experienced this before??? I don't even know why I asked I know I shouldn't have to ask him but I did and it was vetoed straight away now it's gone to shite

You are being abused OP. Mentally abused.

Please talk to friends or family. Or please call a domestic abuse helpline.

What he is doing is not right or normal.

What’s happening op?

This is a worrying post. Its great he’s gone but I fear he may be back trying to win you round. You think you cant cope without him? A damn sight much easier than coping WITH him!

Can you get locks changed? Please get plenty of real life support. Try and look for work if you can - can family help with the children?

Good luck. Do not trust him - do not fall for the nice guy routine.

Been wondering how you're getting on, OP. I hope you're okay.

You are strong OP, you can do this and you will.
Nobody should live the way you have been made to. Don't let him back in, take back control of your life and let you and your DD be happy and free.

OP don't be scared to come back to this thread if you have taken him back, many of us here know just how hard it is leaving an abusive ex and how many attempts it can take. We are still here to support you through the process.