Dating thread 182 - keeping our irons warm by the fireplace

[saltysally]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

I don't know the answer for you @shitwithsugaron but I can't help but think finding a childminder to perhaps be your back up / cover your course could be a good idea. It will stop your mum being able to use her services as a control over you because you could call her bluff, it will get your daughter comfortable with someone else even if she tantrums and could be a back up if your mum couldn't help out.

placemarking again!

@shitwithsugaron really sorry to hear that about your mum.
saltysally has said exactly what I would have said - I have had an unpredictable relationship with my mum though and feel more secure if there is a safety net for arrangements with her so she is not in control of the situation (I realise I am projecting there, though!)

Hope every one Is having a good evening - I am busy eating crisps under a blanket on the sofa, with my dog for company - I have discovered the joy of a crisps and coleslaw roll, the highlight of my evening so far (rock + roll lifestyle here!!)

Just coming on to say hi, I followed the last thread on and off and thought it was about time I joined in!

Split from LTR about 4 months ago, feeling ready to meet a few guys, go on some dates and have a bit of fun with someone nice.

Joined tinder a week ago and it's been a revelation Have chatted to a few nice sounding guys, unmatched a few very much not nice ones and think I'm going to go out for a drink with one that stood out early next week! Eek!

Good morning
Welcome @pomegranatefizz !
How did everyone's Friday night go?

I am hoping I have a new iron, I will call him Mr Boat - we started chatting last night..
I am seeing Mr Spa for coffee tomorrow, I'm not too sure about him, he is quite opinionated (but then, so am I ) my daughter's insight was 'This isn't going to end well' 😂

Welcome pomegranite

Might be a match made in heaven undecided

9 hours people!!!

@shitwithsugaron that's difficult about your mum. I understand the value in free childcare as my mum used to help too but it shouldn't come at an even higher cost (you being unhappy at how she speaks to your dd).

I had a nice evening with Mr Ad-dinner, tv (both knackered) and sex and then I've woken up to my period making an early arrival. Wonderful.

Ooooh exciting @Marlboroandmalbec34 - can't wait for your update (am far too invested in strangers relationships!)

@pomegranatefizz tinder has quite a few success stories on this thread including mine. Good luck and like someone else says unmatch if you're not feeling it!

@Sunshineandflipflops ahhh the witch has come early? That sucks, are things really good with MrAD? I keep imagining you skipping along with a big floppy hat and flip flops!

Any good dates happening this evening? MrM and I are off for a cinema date then back to his for gin, and whatever else pops up 😁 life is good peeps, life is good!

Good morning again!
Ok, so a few people have mentioned periods/sex etc, and at the risk of sounding like a public service announcement, there are some really good products you can use if you want to, if it is something that might stop you having sex eg:
flexfits.uk
You still need contraception etc, but they are brilliant

Welcome to the new thread and newbies too!

An update from me. I’m trialling a full, exclusive relationship - eek! - with Mr Greedyneedy (henceforth Mr GN). We’ve been seeing each other about twice a week for a year, have never argued, have no concerns re WhatsApp convo style, continue to have lots of excellent sex, lots of laughs and a good deal of two-way emotional support. He is definitely more emotionally invested than me but I know I’m holding back and so does he, and why. He’s used the L word, I haven’t and that hurts him but again I’ve explained why. The deal is that I’ll see him twice a week still. He wants more but is prepared to wait. Neither of us know if I’ll ever get there but we have to try. I know it sounds one-sided and he is the one pushing it forward. I guess in your 50s the start of relationships are different to in your 20s?

So with a fair amount of regret I’ve told Mr Bike I can’t see him again, I’ve said goodbye to another Tinder iron and I’ve deleted my Tinder account. Darling Mr Mad and Mr Cat are friendzoned. This is scary stuff!

Hi all, need to catch up properly...

I'm a bit fed up with OLD now. Last date was Mr Sharkbite who seemed really keen- I did like him but not sure if I liked him enough? I've not messaged him back and he's not messaged me again so I'm not sure what to do. Another date to see?

I think I'm hoping for that instant chemistry thing that makes me feel certain that I like someone. It's so bloody hard to find.

Mr Cheekbones has still been messaging- oooh in fact a notification just popped up he's messaging me now 😂 he looks gorgeous in his pics but he's too good looking for me, I know it. I'd still like to meet up with him but even that doesn't seem like it's on the cards.

@undecidedsofa I bought some but never used them. that may change soonApparently they are a bit awkward to fit?

Welcome @pomegranate and congrats @tigerdater

@Undecidedsofa I'm really interested in those- do they honestly work?

And @shitwithsugaron that sounds a nightmare with your mum, I hope you get it all sorted out

I must admit I like the reusable nature of cups better too..

@saltysally they can be, but easy once done once, esp if you’re used to a moon up or something similar
@TigerDater yay! 😊
And @shitwithsugaron, too
@LeaveBeforeTheLightsComeOn , I’m feeling the same a bit, I think I’d like to just have that ‘yup, this is the one’ feeling.
@Marlboroandmalbec34, I think a few of us will be thread watching later today to see how you’re getting on 😁

*moon cup...

Thanks @undecidedsofa. I can see the benefit on light days.. for sex!

@KermitRulesOk Yes, things are really good with Mr Ad. I don't know what the future holds as neither of us are able to move things forward in the near future due to issues on both sides but we're happy with how things are right now so I'm not thinking too much about the future.

I had never done period sex before Mr SAS but don't mind now. Not sure I'd feel comfortable at my heaviest point though so think the rest of this weekend is out but at least we had last night 😁

Congrats @TigerDater!

@Undecidedsofa I'm a moon up user. Can't see me ever going back.

MrM and I enjoy period sex as it give us a chance to finish it off in the shower ☺️ we've had some very steamy sessions...

@Sunshineandflipflops I think you and I are very similar. Same age and at the same sort of point in life - really glad things are going well as I was distraught for you after MrSAS