Dumped by text

[user1471427667]

Bf of 2 years sent me this text in the early hours of this morning.
“Hey I’ve been thinking about us and it’s just not working out so best to end it. No need to reply. All the best”
I feel absolutely blindsided. Didn’t see this coming at all. Aside from the shock of it, I feel so dismissed that he put “no need to reply” as if he I don’t have a say in it ( well I know I don’t but the urge is to try and talk about what he feels is wrong)
Should I ignore what he said and try and contact him to find out what’s wrong and try and work it through or at least end it amicably? Or just accept it somehow and not reply.
I feel as if someone has punched me in the stomach and everything I thought was real just isn’t.
Please help me retain some dignity and tell me best way to reply or not.

Hi @RunningInRain , it sounds like a. Native American name .

RunningInRain is the perfect name for you!

Hope you enjoy running in the rain this weekend OP!
You will have to sign yourself up for a 10k or half marathon soon 😊

Morning 🌨 It does sound Native American doesn’t it - I like that! Certainly sounds better than “CryingInKitchen”!
Thanks @Chocolatedaim - a rainy weekend forecast so I’ll feel right at home 😄. Not sure what I’ll do in the summer !
I have thought about entering a half marathon to set myself a challenge but I’m not sure I like the thought of running with lots of others. Part of the reason I like it is the solitary nature of it and the fact I can cry freely!

I love a good medal, I am like a child, so I enter races mostly for that 😆 I’m not very fast and will always listen to a podcast so I still get that feeling of alone time even in the biggest, busiest races.
But whatever or wherever you run, the therapeutic benefits are undeniable. Keep running 🏃🏻‍♀️

@Chocolatedaim - thank you.
That’s really cute about liking a good medal! I have a friend like that. Same friend also insists her dentist gives her one of the stickers you give children after each visit. She proudly walks around the rest of the day with a “Ive been very brave” sticker on her jacket 😂😂

Only found this thread a few days ago.
I'm more than super impressed at your willpower.
Wish I could have had the same control when I was younger.

I don't understand him at all, seems so weird and rude.
Keep going OP you're amazing

@RunningInRain -
I really like the new name. I hope you have a nice weekend planned.
Just a thought but you are getting closer to the 1000 post limit now, maybe consider starting a new thread soon.
It is good to know how well you are coping and this thread has also given support to many others too.

runningintherain
I love your username! It's uplifting & positive!
So glad you didn't go for 'NNTR' You don't want to carry that around with you!

Thanks all. Have started a new thread as suggested xx

Placemarking

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3835502-Dumped-by-text-part-2

What a stinking coward. Reminds me of when my ex-f started to initiate our breakup over the phone one night.

Cut him out of your life. Give his shit to a mutual friend to be returned. Good riddance. It’ll be painful for a good while but years from now you’ll be glad the relationship didn’t get more serious.

How are you doing OP? X

You are an amazing woman! I replied to you at the beginning then lost the thread and have only just caught up! Bravo! @user1471427667

Wow OP
I remember this thread !
Jesus feels like a year ago not this January
Have you managed to stay silent
Take care

I would probably text "wheww saves me the problem of dumping your sorry arse"

but I am immature

Text back “No problem” then block him.

You’ve passed all the “why” back to him.
You can now carry on living your best life because you have “no problem”.

Oops! Didn’t read the dates - maybe I should sleep 😴

I would not contact him again, he said don't reply, and as much as it hurts, and is a horrible way to end things, it's shows that he is a coward at the end of the day, and it seems that a lot of men end a relationship in this crap way, even though the jilted person never thought things like this could happen.

Haven’t RTFT but,...you’re not in the UK are you?

@Nenevalleykayaker if you had RTFT you would have realised that it is over a year old

He was rude to do that by text after two years, sounds like you are well out of it - but it's hard .

Don't contact him.

Good luck.

@Nenevalleykayaker

Haven’t RTFT but,...you’re not in the UK are you?

This was over a year ago ... no need to reply

Impressed with your self control OP. Good luck for the future !