I want nothing to do with you anymore ....

[deedds]

I've been seeing him for 5 months now.
This last two weeks have been awful.
Him picking and choosing when he spoke,being short with me,cold etc
He said you remind me too much of my ex.
Then today he just said "I want nothing to do with you anymore"
No explanation

That’s good. Well done. How do you feel now?

Have you deleted his number

@Gutterton I feel really down and keep re reading old messages ..in two months we've exchanged over 1000 messages
It's a big miss..even tho clearly it was all fake

Delete all his messages.

It will stop you obsessing and allow you to move on.

You need to focus on reclaiming a RL from your virtual one. Do you think 1000 messages is healthy?

Sometimes it is hard to let go of relationships, even when they are hurting us.

in order to find the self determination to make choices that direct you towards happier pathways, you need first to love and accept yourself.
You gotta give yourself a cuddle, give yourself a pat on the back, each time you ackowledge your personal strengths

You gotta stop beating yourself up for your mistakes. We all make them. None of us havent messed up. We all find ourselves at times continuing patterns of behaviour that only serve to make us miserable Humans are good at that sometimes.

Currently you seem caught up in a cycle of being hurt by the X , dusting yourself off, after him hurting you again, then putting yourself back up for another round of his 'cold shoulder' arsehole act.

Im sure there are many other parts of your life where you are not caught in an unhealthy relationship cycle that keeps causing you much pain . Like at work, or maybe with your relationships with friends,, neighbours, or family.

You cant change this man who keeps hurting you- as others say ' he has shown you his hand'. no-one can change that. You can however break free from his shit, but only if you first love yourself , and accept yourself, warts 'n all, then it will be easy to say no, piss off , never again, block, delete, see ya later, good riddance.

Currently you are reacting to this man by your feelings of hurt and not using your power to choose to say no and make it impossible for him to hurt you anymore. But you also have the power, to choose what you do after reacting emotionally to his crap,
You get to decide what you say yes to, and you get to decide what you want to say no to from now on. You have a self responsibility to protect your beautiful self .
Write down the things you want from your life. What are some of the things you would like to change for yourself

After relationships end, even if they have been bad relationships, they leave a void. Do more of what gives you joy and be kind to yourself, and love yourself enough to say no to this cycle of sadness.

Sorry about your Mum. Instead of obsessing about this dickhead why not listen to an episode of Griefcast? It's much healthier. Cariad Lloyd talking to comedians about grief, its almost like free therapy.

Delete the messages. Protect yourself from yourself.

So it has always been a FWB arrangement - so what are the 1000 texts ? Are they sexts?

@Gutterton no I think we've probably only exchanged a handful of sexts.
Normally just general texts through the day.
Talking about our day,things each other might find funny etc

You've blocked him BUT, have you actually deleted his number too?

You are a bit evasive. Nobody on this thread wants you to be hurting, that's why everybody - but EVERYBODY - is telling you how to protect yourself. Do it. Rip the plaster off, once and for all.

Well done on blocking him on all social media! That must make you very sad but proud you are looking after and protecting yourself. Yay! What 's your next steps?

You respect his decision? Come on op. He's acted quiet cruelly. You value yourself more don't you? Just delete. Move on. He's a narcissist.

I have deleted his number too.
See I think he has been cruel but some are saying he hasn't.
I just keep re reading "I want nothing more to do with you"
I screenshot that message,I just keep thinking back to a few weeks ago how we were and now this.

I'm having a wobbly day today ..but how can someone speak every day,meet up,sleep with you.
Then turn nasty,ditch you and when you tell them your hurt and don't want to loose them out of your life ..treat you like this.
I even said to him,can I ring you I really need somebody to speak too.
He said no you can't.

Oh OP I really feel for you. I know exactly how you feel. I went through this exact thing a few years ago. I had feelings for him and then out of nowhere he turned, like I meant nothing and never had. It really messes with your mind. I also did what you're doing now and begged for answers, I wanted him to change his mind, or just speak to me, anything. I was so desperate. Now that I'm over it (and you will get over it too) I look back and cringe. He must have thought I was so pathetic, and I was! The best thing you can do is block him, delete his number and try to keep yourself busy. Every time you want to speak to him just remember you'd be giving him exactly what he wants. He doesn't want to be with you, he's found someone else, but he wants you to keep obsessing over him because it makes him feel good.
You deserve better, the guy is a loser. Hold your head high and never speak to the idiot again. Good luck x

I keep feeling like this is all my fault.
I pushed too much,I expected too much.
Now I feel like I've ruined it and I can't do anything to change it.
I'm blaming myself and I've pushed him away I think.

Pish OP! He’s a nasty selfish piece of work without any care or compassion for anyone but himself

Lucky escape and fgs delete that screenshot!!

Whether you pushed him away or not - the fact of the matter now is that he's not interested in you so you need to move on. I know it's hard, but you've got to accept that it's over.

I know he isn't interested in a relationship but surely we could of had a friendship.
He's treating me like I'm not worth anything

You don't really want a friendship though. You want to keep communication open to hopefully start up a relationship again. You didn't push him away, for whatever reason he doesn't want to continue a relationship with you and that's up to him. He's done it horribly, but he doesn't have to speak to you. He has asked you to leave him alone. I would do that now.
Do you have many friends? Children?

@Qcumber I would just prefer anything rather than nothing.
Even if he was seeing other girls at least we would still be speaking.
I just can't stand him totally gone

Well my dear - unfortunately you've no choice but to stand it!

I've apologised so many times and he doesn't care.

Why do you want to stay in contact with such a cruel person? I think in the weeks to come you will see what a lucky escape you have had.

He hasn't always been cruel.
Up until a couple of weeks ago he was nice most of the time.
Yes he would have hot and cold behaviour but not like this.

@deedds - Why are you so hard on yourself? Why do you insist on taking responsibility for, and worrying over, someone else's shitty behaviour?

What did you learn about love growing up? What were your parents like to you, and to each other? I am guessing things were far from perfect, and you are simply choosing what you know.