I want nothing to do with you anymore ....

[deedds]

I've been seeing him for 5 months now.
This last two weeks have been awful.
Him picking and choosing when he spoke,being short with me,cold etc
He said you remind me too much of my ex.
Then today he just said "I want nothing to do with you anymore"
No explanation

I wanted some sort of reaction from him,anything.
I told him I was hurt,not that he didn't want anything further but he didn't value me as a person.
We had been friends a few months before anything happened.
He was very blunt and cold,I've never dealt with a person like that before.
On the phone (last week ) it was like he had a personality transplant and just decided he was done with me.
I did yesterday send a needy text saying
The way he treats people isn't normal
I deserved a tiny bit of respect
I hadn't done a thing to deserve this treatment and at the end I called him a snake
He read it and just replied ..
Leave me alone
(As if I was the one who done him wrong)
I can't really explain what I mean by his weird behaviour.
He had zero empathy and no emotion.
If someone said to me I had hurt them I would apologise or show them some grace.
I ended up even apologising for my behaviour and saying I understood how this might have made him feel bad.
I said I know your ex wasn't a nice person to you and I never would want to make you feel upset intentionally ..I got nothing back.

He sounds awful and you can surely do better.

I’d block. Not to play games but I can guarantee in a few weeks he’ll be back sniffing around for a shag and treating you even worse than before.

Op you sound like you might be susceptible to this so protect yourself

Run Willow. Run like the wind!
He's an arsehole and you deserve better.

Stop texting him, remove his number from your phone and block him. You're not doing your self esteem any favours by continuing to text him and asking him what you've done or what's wrong. You haven't done anything, he's just not a nice guy. You deserve better. Keep telling yourself that. He's shown you who he really is, you don't need any more closure than that

You are embarrassing yourself. Stop it. There will be so much cringe looking back.

I suggest you put all that emotional angst into fixing the most negative aspects of people pleasing which are hurting you and others.
(a) expecting others to behave the way you deem correct
(b) refusing move on, accepting another person's personality is incompatible with you, which in turn leads to
(c) attempting to manipulate others into giving you the emotional release you seek, as well as
(d) winning at all costs, by which I mean winning his acceptance that you are right and justified and his acceptance that he is a dickhead.

Leave him alone. Stop chasing a wanker. Stop expecting him to make you feel better about you two being wildly incompatible. Block and move on.

He has told you to leave him alone,so do so.Block and dont give him anymore headspace.

I won't be messaging anymore.
It's just making it worse.
It amazes me when a person just changes overnight .
He was lovely at first (up until 2 weeks ago )
We got on great etc

What a grade A manipulator. Don’t be surprised if he comes back to you in days /weeks to prolong his game. He’ll claim he was depressed /had ptsd/ cat died / grandma in hospital - and will claim he needs you bavk. Then he’ll play the game again with you. That’s why he’s keeping you dangling blaming yourself rather than blocking you.
Fgs block him and prepare yourself in case he approaches you in future by post or in person.

@Mistressofpemberly that's what made me laugh.
If you have decided you want nothing to do with me,block me.
I'm not going to give him the chance,I'm blocking him.

I really need better boundaries,the first time someone is awful,I should walk.

He's a nob. How dare he treat you as though you are worthless. You aren't and doesn't deserve to breath the same air as you. Block him and move way on xx

He's looking for attention and a react and you gave him some because your human.
Nothing wrong with that so don't feel bad.

Just make sure you don't communicate with him in the future because he will never tell you the truth.

You probably do remind him of his ex - a female that is hurt by his repetitive arsehole behaviour. No because your in the wrong.

He's comment alone tell you he's a repeat offender

Don’t blame yourself - these types of guys are really good at manipulation and making you feel like it’s you. Love bombing followed by silent treatment to make you believe its your fault.
Just be prepared with stock phrases when he returns which I suspect he will. “No thank you”, “I don’t want to talk about the past, goodbye” and repeat and repeat. Expect crocodile tears , sad faces and grand gestures. “No thank you, goodbye”.

He hasn't blocked you bc he enjoys the attention and rejecting you makes him feel good.
Seriously, op do something nice for yourself: glass of wine, manicure, bar of chocolate -whatever and block him on everything.
You did nothing wrong. He's a nasty piece of turd that enjoys playing with your feelings.
Good riddance! And Good luck with your new life

Delete his number so you're not tempted, retain your dignity and let him go. He sounds like a complete twat who you are well rid of. Delete all trace of him from your life.

He's a narc

🙄 every man on here is a narc apparently.

He isn't he wanted to end it and sounds as if the OP just wasn't getting it. His method of ending it was crap but that does not a narc make.

Life is far too short for masochism, op.

Op, you’ve been posting about this guy over the best part of a year using many different usernames. Every single time people tell you to block him but you don’t.

Right from the off you were fwb, he never promised you anything and it’s got skewed in your head.

I understand the drama is intoxicating but this is a year of your life wasted.

I know you won’t block him. Something won’t let you do it and meanwhile he treats you horribly because you’ve given him all the power and he smells your desperation and it boosts his ego.

I hope this time you really do block him and find someone who suits you/your needs.

Why are you so quick to believe his ex is a nightmare, she's probably just like you?

Twatty men like this always have 'crazy exes', we should not be colluding with slagging them off.

Sorry OP but if you have sent the messages that you say you have then you are setting yourself up to be abused. Only somebody who is abusive would actually be that way towards you but your neediness would be a turn-off for many.

This man has told you, categorically, that he doesn't want anything to do with you. Which bit of that was unclear? Why do you think you deserve to be further hurt? He will carry on doing that because he hasn't blocked you, he's enjoying himself. If you carry on inviting him to do that then perhaps there's something about it that you have a need for? That's very sad.

Block and delete him - for you, for your sake.

Soon as I sent the messages I regretted it.
I don't know why I do it to myself.
Saturday night he was out with a girl (who he had said was just his friend ) and sent me a Snapchat of them both.
That was just to either wind me up or hurt me.

I really need better boundaries,the first time someone is awful,I should walk
Yes indeed OP.
Never let people over step YOUR boundaries.
Lucky escape.
He's either a narc or he has found someone else.
Glad you have blocked him now.
Stop stroking his ego.

Just delete his number.

And then block him.

And the focus on healing and distracting yourself into a much brighter and more enriching future.