What’s your most irritating thing about OLD?

[OldTownRoadHome]

Forgetting the freaks and the weirdos of course!

My biggest irritation that gives me the sadness/rage is how cowardly men (maybe women too wouldn’t know) are.

So you date for a bit, then something happens or the messages go bland, I always give an out eg. “Feel things have dropped off a bit, sensing you want to call it a day?” And you get a “”no just busy want to stay in touch/go out again/be friends”.

Then you text and get yet more blandness, no progression, ignoring and just feel like a bit of a dick!

If someone has given you an out why can’t people be honest and say “yes let’s leave it” or whatever, gives me the total rage .

And of course I always just delete number and move on but still grrr!

So what is your biggest irritation?

It took me ages to work out what OLD is!
I only did it once, through a FB group and he's currently lay in bed with me looking at wedding invitations which we really need to get a move on and order seeing as we get married in June this year!

Do the math. You're probably only going to match with 5% and of that 5% only 5% will be interesting and then that 5% will be flaky, cynical and more than likely ghost. Except maybe 1 or 2 and then that 1 or 2 may or may not be ideal.
But my main issue would be the flakiness of people.

Ican that’s a nice story

Yep noego that’s not good odds! Which is why I’m not doing it again.

My biggest gripe with online dating is the men. Either they're illiterate, using photos that are six years old or have a profile littered with their misogynist views.

I gave up after two years, probably hundreds of conversation and twenty odd dates.

Agreed Rosa have you met anyone in RL after giving up?

I used OLD to meet my ex. He was the only person I matched with. I felt so lucky, but obviously it didn’t work out and we split after a few years. Now I’m trying it again. I don’t get why so many people match with you and then either don’t message you, or just don’t respond at all!

Lots of profiles were inactive when I was doing OLD. I used eharmony and it was crap. After the first influx the matches dropped to about 4 every few days and they were often ones you'd blocked out as not interested. I found those over 40 were old in outlook and cyclists/gym addicts or even worse: golfers. Those under 40 were all Jack the lad types partying the weekends away with the lads. Far too many photos with pints or a big group of men so you've no idea who the profile belongs too. And lots of university of life blokes

@OldTownRoadHome

Unfortunately not...

That is exactly what happened to me with my one and only date arranged through OLD. Now I've deleted all the apps. Can't be doing with it!

And lots of university of life blokes

I usually click past the profiles with this in, but what does that actually mean?? I assumed it meant left school with no GCSEs.

The messages that say:
"Hiya" or "wyd"

I think it means they are a twat who doesn't value education and will probably ridicule you for knowing anything and belittle you as having been advantaged or not earning your way in life y til you left uni and got a job. I imagine they read the sun and go shirtless in the summer. Happy to be proved wrong there though!

I think Bercow is spot on with that description!

50yo men who have pics of them in their boxers as their profile pic...

I wouldn't want to date anyone who thinks that's appropriate.

'Hey how's your weekend x'

I hear you @noego on the flakiness

I think people just see it as some sort of all you can eat buffet which in itself makes me shudder.

Hence why I steer very well clear of the whole scene!

I've just joined match in a bit of a tipsy haze and I'm not sure how to work it - I'm being bombarded with requests to chat - do you chat to everyone? Is that seen as a come on or is it ok just to be friendly and chat ? I'm clueless!

Oh and do you use your real name ? I'm only in with my first name but looks like a lot of people don't use their real name ?

Hows you

(No apostrophe, no question mark, no imagination).

No don't use your real name. Don't chat for weeks, meet up quickly before you invent who they are through text. Expect lots of first dates, which should be short. You dont need to only date one at a time, they certainly don't.

The repeating yourself over and over again got annoying! ‘How are you?’ ‘Job?’ 🙄

The swapping of mobile numbers to never hear anything from them again!

The constant first dates and waste of precious spare time!

Dick pics. Why do men send them the second you agree to swap numbers

I live where I live. I get people interested in me from 200 miles away. Do they think they're so wonderful I'l travel that far to go for a cuppa tea with them? Have they not actually read even the basics of my profile? Probably the latter. They seem to miss the "No married men" request too!

SueDoe seriously find the dating thread on the relationships board and join it. They will save you months of learning the hard way!!

When they would start a conversation and you would ask them a question and just get 'yeah' back or other one word answers. Used to annoy me so much.