What’s your most irritating thing about OLD?

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Forgetting the freaks and the weirdos of course!

My biggest irritation that gives me the sadness/rage is how cowardly men (maybe women too wouldn’t know) are.

So you date for a bit, then something happens or the messages go bland, I always give an out eg. “Feel things have dropped off a bit, sensing you want to call it a day?” And you get a “”no just busy want to stay in touch/go out again/be friends”.

Then you text and get yet more blandness, no progression, ignoring and just feel like a bit of a dick!

If someone has given you an out why can’t people be honest and say “yes let’s leave it” or whatever, gives me the total rage .

And of course I always just delete number and move on but still grrr!

So what is your biggest irritation?

When use txt speak. Bugs me in real life let alone when trying to make a good impression

The line "my kids are my world"
I realise this is mn but it's where would I be in this world

Unimaginative opening gambits like "hey" there's no where for the conversation to go

And when message #2 is " do you want to meet up?" Errrrr I bearly know you and to me that's the OLD of when kids are encouraged into a car for sweets

There is probably more but my muscles have been flexed

Just thought of another one because I've just received an example of it

Men who put x on messages straight away - I don't put x on messages to my brothers never mind some random bloke off the internet!

Pen Y Fan.

Guys who don't get the message you're not interested on them even when you (politely) tell them 🤣

*in them not on

'I dont do drama' = I'm a fuckwit which causes a negative reaction in women I date. Cant you all just let me do and say whatever I want?

My favourite is the demonstrative feminist man, loves to go down on women, loves female company. A player with a library card

It was deleting my account and reactivating out of boredom (and I was running out of men to swipe through, wanted to refresh) that led to me meeting my fiance. He was THE only one who didnt hit me with a "hows you" and hes continued to be different throughout our relationship.

I met a lot of very boring men and had some very bad relationships before I found him though

@PicsInRed I swear every bloke within a 50 mile radius of Bristol has been up there and has a photo to prove it.

@Phoenixxx I always found moving to Whatsapp much easier. Hated messaging through Tinder and the like.

It's all about numbers, and I'm totally the same as in I'd be bored of it, swear I was off OLD then download the app in the evening again because I was bored!

Ones that give you a 'nickname' in the first message...and then become really pissed off and call you names when you (politely!) ask them not to 😩

I can't even recall how many think it's amusing to start messages to me with: 'What's Teach been up to today?' (Or variations on that theme) I mean...I wouldn't use their job in that way! 'What's Banker been up to today?' Or, 'How did Landscape Gardener's visit to Bristol go? Make good time?'

It's just bizarre (and weirds me out!). One 'hilarious' chap used 'Teach' to address me 6 times in a 4 line message. Not 4 sentences...there was no punctuation, so not even one sentence really...but 4 lines of hard to decipher txtspk.

I also hate the 'Hey sexy' (I'm not remotely!), 'Hi babe' (I'm fifty fucking five!), 'Luv Ur Pics...got anymore? (So the 6 recent photos on the site aren't enough to help you decide...and what about the rest...did you bother to read any of it? No I haven't! Fuck off!)

The amount of guys who send you a wink or a like and then when you respond in kind or send an actual message and then you hear nothing more. Why wink or 'like' me in the first place??!!
I now only respond to guys who send an actual message.
I've also had guys presume I'm the love of their life just from messaging and become far too presumptuous about 'our future together' too quickly, sometimes before we've even met!
I've probs been on about 30 dates through OLD on and off over 2 years but to be fair in that time have met w handful of decent, normal blokes but for various reasons we haven't clicked beyond a few dates. I did meet one lovely chap who I went out with for a few months but in the end he wasn't for me.
It's definitely a numbers game and some sites are much better than others.

Eugh i hate ALL of it and cannot imagine for a second I'm actually going to meet a decent man online.

Some of the photos they use are just mad ... smoking a spliff .... pint in hand outside a working men's club .... full moon party type shots .... group shots so you have no idea who they are .. showing off their scary dogs ... holding a child but being very clear "the kid ain't mine" ... gym selfies and topless selfies (give over!) ... photos of the back of their heads playing golf (why?!l) ... photos of them cycling or up a mountain with their face obscured ...

Jeez it's just the pits!

Oh yeah and personally I am not remotely attracted to a man in Lycra cycling shorts 😂
Luckily no dic pics to date. Not a single one. Maybe my profile exudes prudishness 😂😂😂

Resurrecting this, to remind myself not to turn the apps on today. Because it’s all awful, right people? Right? Better to be single (and slightly bored!)...

I think group photos, ones involving alcohol, sticking your tongue etc out are common to both sexes.
The Endless filters with bunny ears. Why?

And the ubiquitous side on selfie, camera above the head, pouting up at the camera as the camera looks down their cleavage.

Men do that too now! The filter thing. There is a guy who likes me every time I give in and turn the profile on and all he has are snap chat filters with stars and bunnies. It’s been 2+ yrs now. I’m tempted to like him back next time I cave and give him some friendly advice to change his bloody photos!

The lying about their age annoyed me, and the meeting up then just going silent. But all is good, met a great man and planning our long term future with me moving later in the year

@SueDoeName

Talk to everyone, go on lots of dates - coffee ship or a quick pint, expect it to take time to meet someone but be open to it happening, I met my dp after perhaps 10 dates, him only 2

@Phoenixxx

Except when you meet "the one" it's so natural, you talk about everything and it just clicks. Perhaps sites vary though, tinder was ok for my age group but I used a paid one that came up trumps.

I once signed up to a site but didn't have time to fill in the profile at all. All it showed was my age and where I lived; no photo, no information.
After a few days I had five messages from men telling me not to be so shy and asking me out, or obvious cut-and-paste introductions. Made my "successes" from my proper profile look suddenly less impressive :)

The bitter ones whose profiles are a rant about how women are all time-wasters. so only to contact them if you aren't going to waste their precious time. I mean, it's useful to know to avoid them, but also annoying as you would really like to tell them what they are doing wrong, but you know they would just add you to their list of time-wasters 😂

Men who lie about their age
Men who lie about their height
Men who use a photo from when they were 5 stone lighter
Men who slag their ex off constantly on a first date

Having said all that I married OLD no11 when I was about to give up as I was so fed up of it all!

Men who will too and fro for ages without asking g me out. BLOODY ASK ME OUT!!!

FFS Okie now I’m going to put the apps on again because you go and make people all hopeful

Oh the HEIGHT thing, you are going to know if they are 6 inches shorter and bald without the hair they had 5 yrs ago!!

Had this debate with a guy in the pub, he was about 5:4, he said one woman had a go at home for wasting his time, he’d said he was 5:9. His argument was that if he said his actual height he got no dates, and hopefully by the time they met him they’d like him and look past it.

Which as he’s now married for the 2nd time must have worked

I'd have said the same as Okie a few months ago.

Now I spend most of my days trying not to cry and wondering wtf was wrong with me/him/the DC that meant he hated them more than he loved me