What’s your most irritating thing about OLD?

[OldTownRoadHome]

Forgetting the freaks and the weirdos of course!

My biggest irritation that gives me the sadness/rage is how cowardly men (maybe women too wouldn’t know) are.

So you date for a bit, then something happens or the messages go bland, I always give an out eg. “Feel things have dropped off a bit, sensing you want to call it a day?” And you get a “”no just busy want to stay in touch/go out again/be friends”.

Then you text and get yet more blandness, no progression, ignoring and just feel like a bit of a dick!

If someone has given you an out why can’t people be honest and say “yes let’s leave it” or whatever, gives me the total rage .

And of course I always just delete number and move on but still grrr!

So what is your biggest irritation?

When I was doing it, it was general flakiness born of not really knowing what they wanted, except not being alone and not being without sex.
I had too many dates say half way through I’m not looking for anything serious. Despite not putting that in their profile. So either you lied in your profile or I’m only good enough for sex.

Also never knowing what was expected. Some want to finish a date with a snog, some a shag and if that doesn't happen then think you are not that into them and ramp up the messaging.
The worst offenders seemed to be those recently out of crap relationships which i guess makes sense.

I never did meet anyone from old but did have some lovely dates. in the end I met a wonderful woman in real life who doesn't have any of the baggage and insecurities that seemed to plague those i met on old.
I might just have been unlucky though.

The ones who want to chat offline straightaway because "my membership is about to run it".

Yeah. Sure it is... they just want to get your personal details ASAP... 🤷‍♀️

@oldTownRoadHome and @BercowsFlamingoFlownSouth

Thankyou for the explanation! Good job I've always swerved those men, what with me having almost two degrees

All of it 😂😂
I'm so over it.
The fact that most men are only on there for sex, many of them are not even single, those who write very boring messages like someone said before.
Then, I had one who asked me "so what happened with your ex ?" in his 2nd message to me.
I had one who would answer everything immediately and asked if my phone was working ok because I was taking 10 minutes to reply..
When you think theyre decent then they send you a really sleazy message.
When they have to go to Whatsapp asap because 'it's way easier on there'.
Those who just want pen pals and an ego stroke.
Those who want supermodels when they are anything but.
Meeting them and being instantly disappointed that they just used very good or old pictures. I've had 3 consecutive dates where they were pleasant but just nothing.
So fed up of OLD but I find it hard to meet people in real life !

Phoenix every single thing you just said x 1000!

@Phoenixxx everything you said! it's way too much investment for way too little return, I seem to get a lot of initial likes but not much else, very few conversations, those that start seem to fizzle out just as quickly, and then even if they're talking to you none of them seem to actually want to meet you, and then if by some miracle you do go on an actual date they're either really boring irl and make no effort with you whatsoever or they're just pushing for sex and making no effort with you whatsoever..so really the problem comes down to most men on dating sites are not there because they want to meet a woman to date, so as a woman if that's what you want you probably are wasting your time

I'm glad you feel the same 😂
Also, they either don't reply at all (especially on Tinder I find) or they will randomly stop replying in the middle of a conversation.

"Don't message me if your boring." (with that spelling)

Casual misogny

'add me on snapchat'

'if you want to know, ask'

'no instagram filters'

'no drama queens'

'newly single and new to this'

Always some sort of mountain/hiking photo
Could go on all day !
I'm sick of seeing the same faces on different sites, they're probably sick of seeing mine too !

Those photos where there are 5 of them on every photo and you can't work out which one it is.

'not my kid' photos

I'll stop now !

And if you actually do go on a date and you ask them about their online dating experiences the question always gets shut down with 'this is the first time I've done this' yeah right no one wants to tell you anything real about themselves or form any kind of emotional connection with you

Or the ones of JUST their kids, all I think is FFS man does their mother know?!

Yeah it's very hard to form a connection with them for sure 🙄

That is very true, a lot of the mothers probably don't 😐

Also those generic messages that you know they've sent out to everything with a pulse "
'hiya x', 'hey there x' 'hey beautiful' 'hey gorgeous wuu2'.
Having a rant about OLD has cheered me up a little !

Feeling like going to delete my profiles right now, after reading this thread!

😂😂 If you're anything like me you will delete them then recreate them 3 days later out of boredom 😁

When I did it the ones that didn't trust my profile photo and kept asking for others. It felt like they didn't trust I looked like the picture!

Urgh, so annoying when they do that. I've had that too, and he was really insistent that I send him one.
I was waiting for a first date once and he was about 10 minutes late, he kept texting me on the way to the date like, what you up to, what's the place like, what are you drinking ? 🙄

My main gripe is being judged by weird, butter and undatable singletons who think I have low moral standards because you know... OLD is full of weirdos.

C’mon, don’t they have mirrors at home?

Keep hoping that something might come of it, but so far, not! Been on them three and a half years this time around and in all that time only two guys have made it to two dates and none have made it to three! Ten years ago I did meet my last ltr on a dating site but that was after five years of online dating and the online dating scene was different then, as in the men seemed to actually want to take you out on dates, I used to get asked and go out on loads of dates, nowadays I don't really know what these men online want

I met my DH OLD. It’s a numbers game.

I dated ‘like a man’, or how I imagined a man would! The week I met DH I had about 6 dates lined up😂

I've been on and off for about 8 months, it really is a numbers game ! @Stillsexystillsingle I know what you mean, it just seems so hard. I used to think I could go on OLD and easily find a boyfriend, fat chance !

I think a lot of them just want casual things these days 🙄 they're like overexcited kids in a sweet shop.

I read some advice like that about it being a numbers game, every week message 50 , 10 should reply, talk to the 10 then pick one to ask out on a date and repeat again the following week and again every week until you've met someone..it sounded pretty exhausting!

sex maybe that’s the way to go! If I had the time ha.

Phoenix too bloody true, I’ve deleted mine so many times. Met 3 I’ve had a couple of months with (only a few dates), 1 totally psychotic freak who I won’t talk about because I’ve changed my username ranting about him so many times on here. And many I daters. 3 years in and I only started the thread to remind myself why I MUST NOT GIVE IN TO THE BOREDOM and reactivate

And not very romantic!

'Looking for a like-minded woman' 🤔