What’s your most irritating thing about OLD?

[OldTownRoadHome]

Forgetting the freaks and the weirdos of course!

My biggest irritation that gives me the sadness/rage is how cowardly men (maybe women too wouldn’t know) are.

So you date for a bit, then something happens or the messages go bland, I always give an out eg. “Feel things have dropped off a bit, sensing you want to call it a day?” And you get a “”no just busy want to stay in touch/go out again/be friends”.

Then you text and get yet more blandness, no progression, ignoring and just feel like a bit of a dick!

If someone has given you an out why can’t people be honest and say “yes let’s leave it” or whatever, gives me the total rage .

And of course I always just delete number and move on but still grrr!

So what is your biggest irritation?

As an aside does anyone on this thread want an invite to inner circle? I was getting fed up of the duds on tinder and POF and me friend sent me a link to this site... it seems fairly promising and I already have some messages from what seem like promising prospects! However I've used up all my free messages so I either need to pay to subscribe or invite 2 friends to access my messages, but I have run out of single friends to invite - all mine are paired up!

If anyone wants to join then use this link

Check it out 😉 www.theinnercircle.co/register/GUOMA3YQ

I don't work for them I promise! 😂 (penis beaker, Pom bears, poo cubes, cutted up pear etc etc! 😂)

Perhaps if a few of us want to join we can help eachother out and invite eachother? 😊

@bercows - yeah I agree eharmony is crap, didn't match with anyone who was less than about 100 miles away! Didn't subscribe - ridiculously expensive!

This was 16+ years ago as I've been married for 15 but "I can't see myself sleeping with you"... I don't recall offering.

Easygoing

Go with the flow

Don’t like arguing

Any of the above: I have no backbone.

One guy who “liked” me put on his profile something like, if you won’t send an initial message, pass me by. (Well all right then!)

Just looked at that twist but maybe from a name change as outing You have to log your Facebook or Linked in? Can they see everything when you are on?!

I have seen this written a few men's profiles:

'I'm the kind of guy who will open a door for you and snack your arse as you walk through'

Presumably to convey a cheekiness?! I don't know, but find this very irritating.

Another annoying thing they say "dont take myself/life too seriously" - wtf does that mean?? Are you not getting up each day, going to work, paying your bills, keeping your life in order ...... eugh

I have actually seen this on one man's profile

'No broken biscuits, you know who you are'

(Retching)

I saw someone who put in his profile he couldn’t tolerate a woman who eats bread in bed. Go figure what kind of deep trauma the poor man had suffered!

A protected life, no doubt.

I don't do OLD but have been dating for the past 13 months.

Shocked that everyone is into anal these days.

Baffled that no men have pubic hair anymore.

Disappointed and bored that so many men want to rant about their "crazy exs".

I feel like I could write a hundred things in this list, but will limit myself to 10

1. Lads holiday pics
2. 6'0 "because apparently it matters!"
3. University of life
4. Looking for a partner in crime
5. Tongue poking out pictures. 🤢
6. Selfies of them in a car
7. Shirtless pics
8. Pics of them with their kids, when they haven't even bothered to blur/pixelate their faces
9. 'Ask if you're interested' 'does even read these?' LAZY

10. Looking for someone to come with me on my next adventure, 30 countries and counting!

Chocito how are you dating without online?

GROMBERRY - excellent! Also topless selfies in bed!

Imagine 25 years ago. Newly single man goes on a night out. Wouldn’t mind a date or two, walks into a pub where there are maybe 30 women. He looks for rings, he narrows down to 6/7 maybe available. He quite fancies one of them. They have a bit of a chat, she has got a boyfriend. Rinse and repeat week after week.

Then internet dating was invented!

Suddenly 1000 women who live within 20 miles are looking for a date!

Suddenly a night at the pub is not as enticing!

I know men who swipe on everyone and see what happens. They chat to 10 women in one night.

It’s no wonder so many of you find it disappointing!

Just remembered another that irritates me: The Sapiophile and The Hedonist. Occasionally you get a real treasure...The Hedonistic Sapiophile 😣

I can only try to imagine the self-important wanker that lies behind such blatant arrogance 😩

Oh dear, I just had to look up sapiophile. That rules me out then. What a shame.

OldTownRoadHome At the moment I'm very casually dating someone who is a friend of a friend - he saw a photo of me on friend's Instagram and asked him if I was single, then friend asked me if I was interested in going for a coffee.

Went on a date about 10 days' ago with a guy who works in a restaurant I've eaten at a few times and chatted to there.

Been out with a few guys I've met in the gym, a distant cousin of a friend, someone I met at a café, someone I met on a (long distance) train.

I'm just scared of OLD. 😳😂

Hey @northernknickers I like to think of myself as a hedonistic sapiophile the way they think sending you messages asking how was your day? and photos on WhatsApp now replaces taking you on actual dates but seems to be a universal and not just an old thing as you also get now the way they think talking to you in the corridor at work replaces taking you on actual dates @Chocito you're scared of old..I'd be scared to date random men I met irl! If it was someone I'd been introduced to or set up with that would be ok, but sadly none of my friends ever seem to do that

As soon as I say how many kids I have they stop messaging. Every single time.

Totally Unsolicited where would you let me come on you type chats. Fucking disgusting.
Pics unclear or with million other friends, naked topless pics, pics with children or dogs and then talking about the dog. Its about them primarily.. its very, 'i read stats that dog in my photos will get more likes' rather than this is who i am, an animal lover.
Nasty things like no x or y or z need not apply.

Dating well how many do you have?

I won't be dating your pet and I won't be dating the model you've used a pic of .... You want to see what women look like before you'll consider them, do why would a woman message you and interact without seeing even one pic of you?

Then when they do use pics, 80% of them don't smile and look either miserable, depressed or potentially dangerous.

I think someone who takes a close up pic of their face looking totally serious and unfriendly, expecting it to garner attention & interaction .. is telling you something about their judgement and cop-on (for lack of a better word) before you even get to communicate.

Pics where it's not clear which person they are (making you go into their profile and play detective to see if you can figure it out) .. pics of them sweaty and drinking (you just think alco/bar fly), pics of them with doped tigers, pics with female partners v clearly cropped out - could you really not take a few mins to take one recent photo ... Etc