What’s your most irritating thing about OLD?

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Forgetting the freaks and the weirdos of course!

My biggest irritation that gives me the sadness/rage is how cowardly men (maybe women too wouldn’t know) are.

So you date for a bit, then something happens or the messages go bland, I always give an out eg. “Feel things have dropped off a bit, sensing you want to call it a day?” And you get a “”no just busy want to stay in touch/go out again/be friends”.

Then you text and get yet more blandness, no progression, ignoring and just feel like a bit of a dick!

If someone has given you an out why can’t people be honest and say “yes let’s leave it” or whatever, gives me the total rage .

And of course I always just delete number and move on but still grrr!

So what is your biggest irritation?

Forgot pics of them with several women - if it's non promo girls, you think player or wannabe player ... (While presumably the think they're showing we men like and trust them).

If it's promo girls. ...come on mate.

You took advantage of some women who are being paid to smile and tolerate you ... It says nothing good about your attractiveness or character - why do you think if makes you.look good (?!)

*women like and trust

'I'm the kind of guy who will open a door for you and snack your arse as you walk through'

Sone men really love lines, don't they. It's a slot machine mentality. I've seen them do threads on a male dominated forum I used to frequent, showing then trying the same line over and over with their success or lack of, and lots of amusement.

The above is supposed to convey being chivalrous and gentlemanly - while also being cheeky, dominant and sexy. They.always seem.to think women are like voice activated robots that just need the right code.

Completely about the serious/miserable/scary pics! Why do they think that's attractive?! Also, here's another one.. wedding pics as profile pics, as in them actually marrying someone else yeah, that works and clearly visible wedding rings in photos

I was chatting to a bloke who's turned out to be good friends With my ex husband 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ marvellous

Photos where they have clearly NOT considered the 'background/surroundings', which indicate their 'less than clean' habitat.

I am often tempted to tell them that we really do notice their filthy kitchen worktops, piles of dirty washing on the bed/floor and backs of chairs, and the overflowing crap all over the mantle and coffee table 🤢. But then I think...nope! 😩😱

Pics where you can't see their teeth. Been bitten by that one more than
Once. Turning up to a date and realising they have missing teeth or no front teeth.

"I'm not 49, I'm 62, bit the appt wouldn't let me change it...grrh".

Yeah, right!

IndieTara

I get where you're coming from.. I've met a few with really bad teeth, it puts me off a person very quick.

It’s just as bad on the other side of it (male). I met my DP (6 years together now) on OLD but I’d just about given up at that point.

Lots of time wasters in relationships who used it on a quiet night because they were bored. Lots of women not bothering to fill in profiles or add pics. Just as many only posting group pics (with their clearly much more attractive mates) and there were a hell of a lot where all their pics were of them in pubs or with alcohol in hand. Etc etc.

I also had many ignoring distance (200+ miles in one case, and she was really persistent about how it could work, and she really didn’t mind travelling etc), or age (I wasn’t fussy, but 20 years older when I was late thirties myself?).

I can see why men and women get so jaded and end up putting “no....” conditions in their profile, even though that’s guaranteed to put people off.

I agree peterpower, I am sure there are men who are terrible in OLD, but women are no different. I dated over 20 guys when I was looking for DP, although most of them were not for me (or I for them), the vast majority were nice, well grounded, hard working men who would have made a very good partner/husband if we had had more in common, yet... many mentioned about their dates turning around and leaving when they saw them, women who did look more like the mum of the woman in the profile photo (filters should be totally banned in OLD!), being dismissed after weeks of talking for not being tall enough, even when the girl was way shorter than them (something about looking still taller enough if she was wearing high heels) and a particular guy who was very attractive in a guy next door way, said “everyone is trying to rape me” when I asked him what did he find more difficult about old.

Incidentally, the vast majority were looking for a forever relationship, tthe ones quick to press the “next” button were the ones who had been disappointed so many times they didn’t have much patience left to find the “one”.

Photos taken in the gents so you can see the urinals behind them 🙄 also just general lying/being economical with the truth. So many dates with Mr 5 ft 11 on paper but are probably no more than 5 ft 8. One guy I met actually had nail fungus 😩 so glad I drove to that one as made a quick getaway! The biggest gripe tho, and it is all too common, are the 'separated' men who are no way near ready to date and still in limbo from a previous relationship. I expect there are lots of women like that on there too. I've come off OLD now. Cant be arsed!

'"separated' men who are no way near ready to date and still in limbo from a previous relationship. I expect there are lots of women like that on there too"

In my experience, yes, there's loads of women on old that aren't ready for actual dating. One woman I met spent 2 hours telling me how.much her ex had hurt her, hinged cheated how he wasnt seeing the kids etc. there wasn't a second date.
One woman I met and really liked, we hung out and it was realy good. But she had massive issues with contact and intimacy. Her ex had been abusive. If I tried to hug her or kiss her, she froze up and went sort of stiff. Few months we knew each other but eventually we knew it had to end as she needed help I couldn't give.
Another woman I met, went for a nice walk on the beach and a coffee, was really plesant. Till she told me she still lives with her 'ex', still sharing a bed.. yeah, no second date there.

Basically people are Strange..

@IndieTara omg yes the teeth thing!!!

Men in my age bracket (over 50, and sometimes over 60!) who tell you that you are 'too old' as they are looking to 'start a family' and they want someone between 25-32.

Mate! That ship has surely sailed...unless you are some kind of celebrity, or mega loaded (or at a push, incredibly good-looking!), then the women you're chasing aren't going to be interested!

This situation happens so often, it saddens and repulses me in equal measures! My own daughters are the age these men are looking to date 😦

I have asked occasionally why they have waited so long...replies are always similar...too busy having a good time/didn't want to settle down too early. In other words, Peter Pan Syndrome.

Ha ha yes @Bungalowbella you do see that a lot! And I also get men in their seventies messaging me asking if they have a chance ...I'm in my mid forties

I'm an OLD pro and could probably write a book on dodgy profiles/dates etc

The one that sticks in my mind though is - first message contact from a randomer: "If we went on a date and you stayed over at mine, would you use the toilet in the morning for anything more than a wee?"

I still have the screenshot of it somewhere...I showed my (grown up) DD and we concocted a funny reply 🤣

My weirdest was a good looking guy, right age, good job, local, I was initially hopeful... then it turned out he got his kicks pissing in public places and he wanted a woman who would go along and watch

Ah yes...the OLD kinks 🤷‍♀️ I no longer respond to the kinky ones, but I used to by asking what on Earth, in my very 'non-kinky' profile, gave them the idea that yes, I'd love to join you in your rubberised basement, spank your naked middle aged arse, then piss on your wrinkly old balls! Standard Wednesday night entertainment for me, Bob, I'll be over at 8, get out the Vaseline 👍

🤢🤢🤢

LITERALLY just received this:

Married, horny and hung...wanna fck?

😩🤢

Hahaha.. Absolutely shameless. Poor wife.

I caved...and replied...

Single, ornery and faithful...wanna 'fck' right off back to your wife?

Haha, good on you ! These creeps need to be told.

I've only browsed so far but I can't stand:

-"no drama"- as pp said, it suggests they act twattishly but women must not react to this

-pics with kids

-referring to women as "girls" as in, "looking to meet a nice girl who takes good care of herself"

-tongues

-closed-mouth smiles in all pics-what is wrong with their teeth!

-negative rants

-boring references to liking meals in and out, nights in and out etc. Cosy country pubs must be swarming with single men!

-mentioning of "good old fashioned values"- I suspect casual misogyny. In fact I've been horrified at the number of profiles with misogynistic comments in them. One recent example said "Not interested in tarts" and he wasn't talking about cakes.

I can relate to the emotionally avoidant clearly nowhere nearly ready for a relationship - probably made up half my dates.

Also lying about age. In the same way men lie about height. Which brings to several exchanges where i was asked my height, ie i’m 5.2 and don't date men under 6ft.
Me : Oh well, Sorry you’re 6 inches to short (i’m tall) which would then get some reply about heels or me being shallow. Always enjoyed those texts!