What do you do when someone you adored gets back in touch randomly?!

[MustardScreams]

Backstory: guy I’ve known for 14 years. Always had a spark, but never the right time. Cliche!

We lost touch a couple of years ago. I think he blocked me! I’m guessing he met someone and didn’t know how to tell me.

He’s messaged tonight saying he wants to go for a drink tomorrow. Now, usually I would ABSOLUTELY say “not a chance son, you’re a twat.” But he’s not. And I miss him. And I want to know what happened!!

I had no plans today, apart from eating the really good M&S garlic bread in bed, which I’m now doing. Also no chance of kissing in dark corners because I’ll honk

Meeting him at 4 and then heading to my friend’s for our weekly dinner night, so there’s a clear end.

In your shoes, op, I think I'd go as well - a mixture of curiosity, wishful thinking and wanting to look fabulous (but also without looking like I'd tried, etc). And I know myself well enough to know I'd probably sleep with him, because in the moment I'd think it was a brilliant idea and I wouldn't get attached. And then spend the next few weeks having my heart slowly broken all over again.

Ah, L'Amour. Just don't get pregnant, get married or lend him money :D

@morrisseysquif

Either
A He is single and wants attention and hopefully a shag
B he is with somebody snd wants attention and hopefully a shag
C He has always regretted you, feels terrible about how he treated you and wants to apologise and make amends -with a shag.

I’m not one for game playing but I wouldn’t have danced to his tune so readily after that ghosting. I would have agreed to meet but on a different day at a time of my choosing.

Great that you have your own plans after the drinks .

Looking forward to the update. I can’t believe how many people are saying they wouldn’t go. I would totally go (wouldn’t eat garlic bread first either), make myself look as good as humanly possible, and just find out if you can a) be friends again, b) what happened last time and c) whether he has romantic intentions now. You don’t have to act on anything. Just play it cool, make him think you have had a great few years, don’t need him and that he missed out. If all the old feelings are there, take it slow and see what happens. You only live once!

I think you are doing the right thing, you may get an explanation or closure, if he doesn't offer it, you can ask him.

I hope it goes well anyway

Looking forward to an update later OP

I hope you got some decent answers OP

update

You met him at 4! For the love of god, woman, we need an update!

(Hope you're OK.)

And?

She is having dinner with a friend afterwards.( not him )

How did it go OP?

Hope it was what you wanted OP, or close to it?

Oh God. Now I want to know what happened too.

I’m a little bit invested in this....

Was so hoping there would be a conclusion to this tonight after RTWT .

Oh what no update?!

I fear it didn't go well.

Or it went too well and she's still there..

Update.

He was in a horrifically abusive relationship. It hurts to know what he went through.

Nothing that I expected. But I am now so so glad he got back in touch.

Be careful. Very very careful.

I don’t need to be careful? Would you say that about a woman that was violently abused?

Did his abusive ex make him block you?