What do you do when someone you adored gets back in touch randomly?!

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Backstory: guy I’ve known for 14 years. Always had a spark, but never the right time. Cliche!

We lost touch a couple of years ago. I think he blocked me! I’m guessing he met someone and didn’t know how to tell me.

He’s messaged tonight saying he wants to go for a drink tomorrow. Now, usually I would ABSOLUTELY say “not a chance son, you’re a twat.” But he’s not. And I miss him. And I want to know what happened!!

Don’t sleep with him until he makes a commitment and this is if he does, make him wait fucking ages to even see you naked and then you’ll know what he wants.

Yes op you were so close that he blocked you! This feels a bit one sided.

Just go and see what he wants.

I’m with Saint, you know you want to meet him so do it, you may not even like him after all now, people change and hopefully your feelings for him have.

Absolutely no shagging. That was never on the cards, I just really want to know what happened.

I’ll report back later as to wether the reason was ridiculous or had an ounce of merit.

Yeah you must see him, I would if I were you, if only to see what happened, it’s easy to say he’s a twat etc etc but feelings are feelings and they don’t just go away because someone wasn’t great to you.

Think my reaction to that would be why the hell does he still have my number or how did he get it if its a new one since the past? Bit weird after being blocked or at least ghosted.

Yeah go along, meet him and ask him why now and why did he ghost you? But don't expect truth to come from him, and definitely don't sleep with him. If you think it's the truth and you both want a relationship, then make him wait ages like someone else said.

Go, If only for closure and then see where it leads you both..
definitely look fabulous tho!
Good luck OP

Yes, you deserve answers to your questions about what happened and why.

I would go, but I would want to know what happened. I’d be extremely cautious however.

I’d go but I wouldn’t play it cool because I’m not cool. I wouldn’t even bother with small talk I’d just ask wtf happened and why he thought he could treat me like that. Then finish up my drink and be on my way, leaving him to pay obvs.

Meet with him OP, you don't know what his reason was for stopping contact. Just meet him with a totally open mind but don't get sucked in to any sob story! Let us know how you get on!!

Yup I would definitely go meet him, because I’m nosy and a bit bored!

Hopefully it's the right time now and things work out. Good Luck ❤️

Can't wait to hear an update! Play it cool and do not snog/shag him!

Good luck, OP!

Absolutely no shagging. That was never on the cards, I just really want to know what happened

At least be honest with yourself - you started off with "there was always a spark" and saying you weren't dating but it was "heading that way". And now he's just a pal and a mate etc etc .

Been there. Didn't end well. More than once. I'm actually right in the midst of another attempt. Loves me, apparently. If only it were true.

A fiver on him saying he was scared off by your connection and you being flat on your back by ten thirty.

Yes go and find out why he did that!

She may not be flat on her back, she may like it doggy

@category12 absolutely no shagging today I meant. We have a huge history, I’m not ruling it out in the future. But today is friends and finding out what happened.

Are you excited and nervous OP to meet him?x

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OP - you know you are doing everything wrong but thanks at least for being honest 😂

“Totally forgot I already made plans with a friend for tonight! Let’s reschedule!”

I started chatting to an old friend/flame after ending long term relationship last year and he’s ghosted me and it really hurts as I genuinely like(d) him as a person and was enjoying connecting again. Just be prepared you might get hurt x