Dating thread 180 - Deep thoughts on attachment styles, psychology and love bombing. (Oh my!)

[PerfectPretender]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@HairyArsedMan of course you would go for a jog. That is probably your answer to everything 😁 you know what I would do. I only date men who live in reach of a certain kind of thing. (That's a joke before I get told I'm reducing my available er pool. Well almost a joke)

@MissHx is anyone truly rubbish at their phones !? Aged 25 !? Do you get to see him using it when you're together ? You know even if I was rubbish at my phone, I think I would get my shit together to communicate with someone I was dating and liked a lot. But then I'm twice his age 🤷‍♂️

Aw @EchoElephant I'm glad I was of some help. Obviously any decision you make is your own. But you deserve to be a priority.

Gah I'd really miss morning sex @Sunshineandflipflops I can spend hours messing on my phone in bed though. But I'd want to get up for tea and toast.

Also struggling with the time and space to see each other. I have two teenagers. THe youngest never leaves the house other than school. Mr B lives with a parent (I know!!) and is a EOW dad. He has come to my house (ignoring our break it's been 6 months) but dtd is tricky!!

Oh I know! I would lie in bed messaging the Thread! Although I think you've got that one covered...

@unambiguousbeard just off for a jog to mull that over

Ah @BackInAtLast that's lovely. This thread is turning out to be so upbeat. Yes I will get back on bumble later. Expect ranting over the next few days before I delete it in disgust.

I am cleaning my house this weekend and am rather grumpy about it. Next weekend I'll be with Mr G so I'll survive.

Haha @HairyArsedMan yes I'm just off for (insert unmentionable but not dissimilar obsession/leisure activity) myself.

I got fed up and made him go and make me tea and toast. I think he'd have stayed in bed all day otherwise.

It's not so bad when we're at mine as I just get up and get stuff done.

Deffo bringing running gear next time as he lives right near a big park type thing.

Gah sunshine I'm a lark and couldn't cope with that. I like my very early (4/5 am) sex - can you wake him up with the offer of sex ...?

Undecided a spontaneous meet like that could be fun, I'd suggest it.

@BatshitCrazyWoman I honestly don't think he'd respond/wake up.

It's not a big deal in the grand scheme of things yeah...I'm a morning person in more ways than one 😉

well, Mr Local has beaten me to it and asked if I'd like to meet this afternoon or tomorrow :)

@BatshitCrazyWoman if someone woke me up for sex they'd get short shrift! You and Mr BC are so well suited it's ridiculous! 🥰

@Undecidedsofa oh fab...what will you do? Exciting!

Yay @Undecidedsofa 😁

I love to be woken for sex. Not gonna happen for the foreseeable!

We are meeting for tea/coffee :)
I am hoping he will say today is better for him.

Morning sex is lovely - Mr Popcorn was excellent at morning sex...
I don't think I'll mention that to Mr Local

Yep to morning sex here too...might be a long way off for me again with teens who don't go away much until it's more established argh.

Never had morning sex before OLD, cannot do without it now. Previously, alarm goes off, damn have to get up . Now, alarm goes off, have sex, get out of bed with a merry cry

I'm not sure any sex is on the cards at the moment this weekend.

He's not feeling great and is doing the typical (sorry men) dying animal act and is really snappy and martyr-ish, which I can't abide.

He better snap out of it 😤

@HairyArsedMan no he never uses when we’re together, it can ping and he doesn’t check it 🤷🏽‍♀️

I feel like this is why he hasn’t had a gf for over a year, he’s good looking, good job, own house, but crap at communicating!!

All the morning sex talk is making me think of FWB again..

I never let him rest 😂 literally could have kept going all night. I used to wake about 6 or 7 and start tossing an led turning to try and wake him 😂 then cuddling and running my foot up his leg. Which was usually responded to by 'will you let me sleep woman, I'll shag you again once I've had some rest'.

I love morning sex, it's the best.

@MissHx That would really bug, to be honest

3pm date in town for me :)
its really stormy out so I will look like a right wind blown mess..
denim skirt, long boots + Stripy jumper..?

I also have a sleepiner, MrNN was asleep by about 10:30 last night, he’s still asleep and doesn’t appear to have moved. I have checked, he is alive. Not sure it’s possible for him to have sex at any point during am!

I went to bed at about 1, got up at 7, I’ve been to the gym, done park run, had breakfast, played some xbox and about to have lunch.

@undecidedsofa yeah it does really bug me, which is kind of annoying as that’s his only downside! Perhaps a frank and open discussion is the way to go here

Even if this isn’t a long term thing with mr gray I’m having the time of my life 😂. Watching films and getting tipsy and having the sex so many times I lost count . And more times than prob in a year with ex h. Hope anyone having dates today have a great time