Dating thread 180 - Deep thoughts on attachment styles, psychology and love bombing. (Oh my!)

[PerfectPretender]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread

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Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Hi all.
Well,I met Mr bluenose last week as we had been chatting and getting on so well,but as soon as I saw him I just knew he wasnt for me. I think his pics were old. He was alot greyer,older and bigger. Also two inches shorter than me.And I didnt feel I could say anything as we had been getting on so well. Might have to send a txt but ask to be friends?
I'm away in Europe at the mo with eldest dc,a holiday I've been saving for for two years. My God these men are something else! Pretty much all taller than me( I'm over 5 foot 10) and attractive. All laughing in their groups. All seem happy. No beards in sight though!
I'm really going to go for it regarding dating,not sure how i change what I've been doing but maybe just be more selective.
No more than 10 miles away,my height or even 5 foot 9 would be fine. No skinnies, slightly chunky is fine and bald is ok too. Not asking for much!

Oh my! I really like Mr Fact! Stop no kiss. Shall I just pounce?

My divorce was read in court today, do I should get my decree nisi soon. Still feeling like the hard work is to come with getting a consent order and a decree absolute.

Still

Pounce marlboro, pounce!

Pouncepouncepounce

Step in the right direction, @UncorrectedDoormat!

Yes Marls just go for it, I dont think he'll complain 🤣

Checking in, thanks for new thread 👍
Took some catching up on but sounds like there's some good dates being enjoyed!

Mr Smile has asked me to be his girlfriend which I am happy with. Does this mean he is now Mr S or do we refer by proper last name of surname?

Pounce marlborough he may be shy

@tiger not sure, people can be different in person but if it's not flowing then point

No point

Do what you like, @bangheadhere40. I referred to my irons by initial pretty quickly because I always came up with rubbish names

He can be MrSP then

Omg hot and heavy snogging with Mr Fact, wowzers I really actually like gonna!

Him not gone 😂 pardon me too much gin

Hello all, I’ve mainly lurked with the occasional post, but thought I’d dive in now.

So I’ve been doing OLD for a year now with a couple of 3 month relationships, but was dumped at the end of November because of distance

Anyway I dusted myself off and started again last week started chatting with Mr I. He’s gorgeous in his pictures and even better in real life. I’m just back from our second date and it was fab. Amazingly he lives 5 minutes away. Another date with him booked for tomorrow😄

So. A date has been booked for the date with Mr long distance. That's the first weekend of Feb. Quietly excited but trying to just be cool. Haven't messaged him since date decided. He needs to pursue after cancelling on me last time.

I also have kink club with Mr Pilates in Sunday. Film date with Mr Hong Kong next Friday. Possibly some kind of date with Mr climber next Saturday. Overnight with Mr Pilates....
Shit. I sound slutty...

And a weekday date with Mr short tbd. Who is admittedly still taller than me but is still short. He is a brand new one who I'm not sure about yet but he seems v keen so we'll see...

So can I have a show of hands what exactly people mean by "casual dating". Because I'm still pondering this

Oooh Marl that sounds very promising!

Uncorrected getting the Nisi is the beginning of the journey.

Kerkyra I had rules. No widowers was one of them. And he's an hours and 45 minutes away. Don't rule anyone out is my advice 😂😂😂😂

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking I am
Lost on casual dating Myself 🤷🏼‍♀️. I think it means you can see other people

Casual can mean so many different things. I'd say I was casually dating. But I'm seeing one person, both exclusive and we message 3 to 4 times a week for an hour or so. I just have no expectations of commitment or LTR.

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking I'd be unable to keep up with your style of casual 😂 but it seems right for you. We're all so different in what we want, need, and the opportunities we have.

@NoMoreWeepingAndWanking

I managed multiple dates for a few weeks, it was fun but getting confused was a constant problem! So much happier with just the one man

okie-dokie - I'll get there. I want to right now though this stops me from over investing in any of them.

oh well. We'll see.