Moving in with my partner

[Gemlouiski]

Hi everyone.

I'm looking for people to share opinions on my current dilemma as I am so confused and stressed and I have zero people to talk to.

My partner on a year and I have been talking about living together. He is wonderful man. Great with my two boys from my previous relationship and our relationship is fantastic. By far the best one I've ever been in. I love him so much and he says he wants a future of marriage, a child of his own and to be a family all of us together. All things I would love. However the dilemma is this... he owns a house already. A 3 bed terrace in an area that we both acknowledge isn't the nicest place to bring up a family. I however live in a very nice family friendly area but I currently live with my father. Who is retired. Single and cant drive. He doesn't need constant care but I like to be there for him obviously as I hate the thought of him being alone. My eldest boy is happy and settled in a lovely school after a rocky start in his first one and being moved. My littlest is happy at nursery. However my area is quite expensive. My partner is open to moving as he feels we would need a bigger house to live comfortably. But the properties available in my area that are within budget are not to his taste. They are older 70s style houses and he like modern and something aesthetically pleasing. To be fair to him there are hardly any properties available in his budget anyway.

So we started looking down near his family. A nice much cheaper area towards the coast where he can afford a big new build. It's a gorgeous house for sure. Close to his family. However a very long commute for him to work and an hour and a half from my family. Which I wouldnt mind if it werent for the fact my dad cant drive, and has no friends or partner. I am so worried he will be lonely if I live so far. And how I will care for him as he gets older. My other huge worry is of course my eldest. Moving him to a new school again. I'm not sure I can do that to him he is so happy where he is.

So my question is... am I being unreasonable for not wanting to move so far away? I realise my partner is offering us a new life. Beautiful family home and willing to take on a ready made family. But the truth is I would happily live in any property with him as I love him so much I just want us to be a family. But I also still want to be able to be there for my father and I'm petrified of uprooting my children.

Any advice or opinions welcome. Thank you

@Graphista - There's statistics with demographics from the CMS??? No didn't think so.

Stop trying to big up your statistics which don't exist. If not, feel free to copy and paste here... NRP who you kindly referred to previously, being an American entity doesn't count and if you actually looked at their AMERICAN statistics you'll see that AMERICAN women are less likely to pay CS than their male counterparts.
But you want to gloss over the fact that women do it too, like they're not part of the problem.

www.npr.org/2015/03/01/389945311/who-fails-to-pay-child-support-moms-at-a-higher-rate-than-dads?t=1579426819921

For anyone that wishes to read..

In the United States, almost nine out of ten single parent households are female-headed. OECD figures show that the poverty gap is much wider in the USA, ie women are more likely to be poorer than elsewhere. I think it is a good idea to look behind sensationalist press interviews to find the actual reports or statistics informing them.

For example,

fas.org/sgp/crs/misc/RS22499.pdf

This breaks down child support awards and amount received in the US by sex, ethnicity and other factors, such as whether previously married.
The really striking thing is the average income of the male custodial parents ($70k) versus the female ones ($33k).

In fact, I found an interesting article which delves into the headline statistics your link provided:

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/fivethirtyeight.com/features/are-moms-less-likely-than-dads-to-pay-child-support/amp/

Which breaks down the figures and the broader working circumstances including income differentials of male and female custodial parents. For anyone who wishes to read.

Should probably add that when you look at full child support received by the sex of the paying parent, the difference is not statistically significant and when you look at the area between no child support (the headline statistic) and full child support, women are paying non-cash support such as medical cover/bills and education etc. This is in a context where such women are often working part-time, and/or low income jobs and custodial fathers have an average income which is way higher than theirs. Also bearing in mind that for every one dad owed child support, there are nine ‘moms’.