The Happy Singleton - All welcome!

[SirChing]

Hello, following a thread where I discussed how happy and excited I was to have consciously decided to be single for 2020, it seems there are loads of us out there: People who are single through choice and happy about it.

Some plan on being single forever, some for a shorter time, but none of us are dating or want to date at the moment. We are too busy focusing on the important things in life: us!

This is a thread for anyone who wants to join it, to support and encourage each other, to discuss what we have or hope to learn by being single, and to discuss random practical stuff, like which companies don't charge single supplements for holidays.

Come on in and pull up a chair if you fancy a chat.

Happy 2020 all

Morning all. Is it ever going to stop raining?! My dc have just left and I've got that weird empty aimless feeling straight away... I've got a ton of things to do but struggling to get the motivation...

The sun just came out here.
@Misty9, my go to thing is cleaning. Everything to an inch of its life. Then order starts settling :)
Been to the gym, picked DD up from a sleepover, we’re grabbing some brunch then we’re taking the dog for a long walk.
I’m working tomorrow morning, till 2, then I plan to just chill, so when we come back from our walk, I’ll clean the house, to some batch cooking and hopefully have an early night tonight.
What are you guys up to?
I woke up at 5!!!!😩. Could not drop back to sleep so I drew a mind map. With me in the centre and everything else around: parenting a teenager, work, exercise, emotional well being, friendship etc, everything I play a role in.
I added 3 positives and 3 negatives to each of them. It became quite elaborate, but it helps me see where I’m drowning and where I’m doing alright. Besides, I got my colouring pencils out, so that was quite therapeutic.
I think Dd is expecting her brunch now :)

I like this mind map idea!

Morning all. I believe we will have some sun dahn saf today, though yesterday afternoon was very sunny here, cold but sunny.

@BuddhaAtSea I also like the idea of a mind map, but I'd probably wander off piste, my concentration span is of a gnat! Seriously though, batch cooking and mind maps, you do sound very 'together' I, sadly, am so not together, all over the place

I'm London today, a matinee show. I love London

Enjoy your Sunday everyone

Happy sunny Sunday everyone It's not raining yay

We have sun here finally! I'm feeling shit as I just allowed a man to treat me really badly. And it's one year today since I ended my marriage. I don't want to be alone today

Well, @Misty9, come down for a walk along the beach!

Oh no @Misty9 so sorry you’re having a shit morning. But try not to let it dictate your day. Are you alov

Ffs - sorry. Was going to say , are you on your own (or had dcs around?). Get your boots on and head outside - anything, anywhere. Just look at spring and the sunshine and maybe even do a bit of feeling sorry for yourself which is all good . But then tell em to “fuck Off and they’re not going to spoil your Sunday”.

Sorry you’re been treated badly. Seems the only way to stay sane is to stay single.

Don’t step outside the safety of the (Singleton) fort!

and a hand hold for you @Misty9 keep your chin up this too shall pass. I was really struggling last week but deciding to focus on me and my emotional health helped. I like the mind mapping idea too.
I’ve set some goals. I’m planning on running a half marathon this year and I’m working on improving my social circle. I’ve joined a running club to help with both.
I run 16k yesterday my target for the week and 5k today I think I’m transferring my addiction. I’m also going for a hike in the Chiltern hills later today with a meet-up group. I’m hoping the sun will stay so l can take some nice pictures

@BuddhaAtSea are you east anglia too?

I've got dd for a couple of hours so that's helping. Then a friend is taking me out for an early dinner. I do think the only way to stay sane is to stay single!

Nope, SE :)

Glad you have DD. Have you anything planned? Mine has decided to make meringues!???? But anything is good to distract from your thoughts.

And how lovely that you’ve got a mate taking you for diner - you’re obviously a very nice friend and the shitbag has lost out on the pleasure of your company. Rewrite the script. Chin up chuck

@Misty9 bless you, it's a bloody awful feeling isn't it? Like a real physical painI hope spending time with your friend relieves some of (hopefully all) that pain

@misty9 a sunny Surrey hug for you. Sorry you're feeling shit.

I've had a weekend without ds- so have painted a wall in my living room- and (yahdee yah!) have Annie Sloaned a mirror! On the flip side I've just scoffed some super noodles for lunch and shall head out for a run. This afternoon going to surround myself with 10 year old boys at my son's bowling party!

I'm so pleased the sun is shining. Realise that I have (maybe deliberately) been hibernating. Blocking out exBoyf, and being a little bit of a hermit. Time to remember there's a world out there. I hope this will help us all feel more positive

Afternoon everyone. Back from sunny Liverpool to a sunnier Yorkshire. Hope everyone is having a good weekend.

@BuddhaAtSea I love mindmaps too and use them in the same way. Any excuse to get out pretty pens in this house

@Itsallpointless Hope your show is fab. Which one is it? I will be very envious if it's a musical.am gagging to see Les Mis again. Wonderful show.

@Mulberry974 Hope you are having a lovely Sunday.

@Misty9 - sending a huge hug. You didn't LET a bloke treat you badly. He chose to treat you badly. Failure to stop that in time doesn't make his behaviour your fault. It makes it his. And you won't have stopped it in time because you are lovely, and so your brain doesn't naturally work in horrible ways. So you won't see that behaviour quickly as it is alien to you. It says everything about him and NOTHING about you.

One year anniversaries are hard but remember, you might not have some one in the house but you are never alone. We are all here so give you virtual hugs and as much support as you ever want. You can and will get through this. Get mad at how the arsehole treated you. Being on your own in the house is so much better than being with an arsehole. Free from arseholes is a pretty good state to be in. Huge cuddles and [flowers. we've all got you in a huge embrace xx PS @Upyerbum70 is 100% right

@Maturewine78 Wow those are amazing goals. I am so impressed at how far you can run. Where will the marathon be? Can we come and cheer you on?

@mildlymiffed Wow you have had a productive day too! Will you be posting photos of your decorating? I am still after ideas. I agree re hibernation. I too feel ready to live again after hibernating all winter. I want to grab life by the balls and have adventures.

Which reminds me: I am seriously thinking of arranging a meet up one weekend in the summer. Somewhere near the majority of people. Maybe Saturday until Sunday. Would anyone be up for that?

Aww thank you everyone for your kind words. It's his loss... I've had a busy day so that has helped. Time with dd was absolutely lovely, she's nearly 6 and at a lovely age, albeit as stubborn as a mule!

I feel a bit of a fraud in this group as I know I don't want to be alone, but I'm also finally believing I am enough as I am, but I despair of finding anyone decent and don't really want to go looking via online dating or anything. Sigh. This too shall pass. I've got so much to be grateful for, and to look forward to. Apologies for not commenting on others posts... I'm feeling a bit self focused today

Afternoon @SirChing. Yep I’d be well up for a summer meet - I'm oop north too

Hands up here for a meet up. @SirChing I'm ready to join your Facebook group (initials PC) x

@SirChing yes I'd be up for a meet up! I'm East anglia so anywhere is a trek but London is easy enough

@Misty9 you’re no fraud - and I’m on your side of thinking. You are where you are.

Glad you had a good day with DD. Another few years and she’ll be making meringues (weirdly perfect!)like my teen DD. and you too can make yourself feel sick with cream and raspberries like I’ve done 🤢

Apologies, only person left in the world not on FB

hello can i join? i’ve recently become single halfway through my second pregnancy. this happened the first time too, so i am in no rush to date again, or ever if i’m honest

@KLS02 welcome and that sounds horrendous that it's happened both times you've been pregnant how are you doing in general?

hello @KLS02 . Sounds pretty crappy. Have you got some support from somewhere?