The Happy Singleton - All welcome!

[SirChing]

Hello, following a thread where I discussed how happy and excited I was to have consciously decided to be single for 2020, it seems there are loads of us out there: People who are single through choice and happy about it.

Some plan on being single forever, some for a shorter time, but none of us are dating or want to date at the moment. We are too busy focusing on the important things in life: us!

This is a thread for anyone who wants to join it, to support and encourage each other, to discuss what we have or hope to learn by being single, and to discuss random practical stuff, like which companies don't charge single supplements for holidays.

Come on in and pull up a chair if you fancy a chat.

Happy 2020 all

Yeah I went crazy and had a large cup of tea . I can't crochet so I will continue with being the better person. And yes I don't want her to see she affects me. Until recently I had gone from hating her to apathy so apathy is my aim!

I can't crochet either but now wish I could

I think I am a terrible person really, but hey, we have to do what we have to do to move forward. One time I looked at her and in my mind just thought to myself how he had downgraded.

I should add that I don't have airs and graces about myself, but she too was married when they had the affair, and I feel just a little better knowing that all that strain is showing somewhat .......

And now she has to deal with all his issues, and not me hehe.

Anyway, I was asked to go on date so I count that as a one up

@isthismylifenow I do think similar things, my ex downgraded too and not just in looks. Plus she has to deal with his issues whilst I just have pleasant chats when I see him these days.

That book is fantastic @isthismylifenow I would def recommend. It was amazing how much I compared to it with different circumstances. And on reflection of past relationships I could see them perfectly clear in the book too.

I would recommend to anyone. Oh and we do 🤦🏻‍♀️

Hope everyone is well

Morning ladies! I had an erk comment from an ex boyfriend (I only have two, we don't meet but we stay in touch as we have loads of mutual friends in both cases, and this one is the most recent and the split was still six bloody years ago) on a perfectly innocent chat following my birthday 🙄 didn't dignify it with a response, but am in a definite FFS men are all bollocks mood today.

Normally men don't cross my radar so I'm annoyed twice!

Hmph. On the plus side I am having breakfast in bed before a client shoot and I'm seeing my bestie for a halfway day tomorrow! We live about 3 hours apart so every once in a while when we can't manage an overnight trip, we go to a pub we've found which is almost exactly halfway and spend an entire day there chatting and catching up and eating and occasionally doing some work on our businesses 😍

I'm not great at responding to every message here but I read them all and I think we are fabulous 💙

That sounds like an amazing and fun arrangement Under.

I did have a little snort at being annoyed twice though I totally get you though.

I'm not great at responding to everything either, but I agree we are all fabulous

Is this for the single only? I've been effectively single for just over 2 years now (but i do have a FWB). I'm really enjoying my time to myself with my kids. Ex is an alcoholic.

Morning everyone and welcome @Taddda! Your ex sounds like such a monumental wanker. Very glad you have ditched him! Life can only be easier without that man shaped millstone round your neck.

I have been absent due to a heavy day of shagging my FWB and then being knackered So much easier than being in a relationship. When I got bored, I sent him home. Took a while for that to happen as the man has skills++

@mildlymiffed I think the only reasonable response to your colleagues age guessing fuck up, it to buy a massive tub of wrinkle cream - purely to use for beating him round the head with. Then he is silent and you can bin the cream! Men are crap at guessing ages. Truly shit. Its because they spend so much of life focusing on their cocks, sport, their cocks, work, their mothers and their cocks, that they don't spend enough time really seeing women to work jt out. Dickheads!

@isthismylifenow I think Saturday night sounds fun. Just go with the flow and see what happens. It's not like he is going to demand to marry you on Sunday, so just go and have fun. Do what feels right at the time.

@Mulberry974 Oooh you could have had great fun with the woman and really made her shit herself. If you see her again, you could go up to her with a face full of 'faux concern' and say "has it happened yet? It can be dealt with but it's so difficult'. When she asks 'what' then you hurriedly backtrack and say 'oh nothing, nothing'. She will always wonder WTF you were talking about and start to get paranoid. Which may be slightly fun revenge. But then I can be evil [grin. At least it would make her avoid you in future which solves your problems.

@Eesha Welcome! You still count as single with a FWB. A few of us have them. There are also a few of us with alcoholic exes - they utterly suck don't they?

And hi to everyone else. Too many posts to.reply to, but hope everyone is well and enjoying being mentally free from fuckwittery. If we get near to needing another thread and I am not about (I am away for the weekend) then someone else feel free to set one up. I am not precious about that. I'm just so glad that wr have a place to.meet and support each other xxx

Eesha got to say that fwb seems the way to go. Maybe I might have one too after this weekend. I will still class myself as single too though.

SirChing At your entire post.....

Oh SirChing, as a joke he asked me if i was going to ask him to marry him on the date, its the 29th. I replied with a sorry to disappoint as I am not that type of girl. He says maybe in 4 years then. Me: still won't be that type of girl.

will see how it goes on Saturday though, maybe i will be blessed with a good fwb like you have been.............

@SirChing thank you all! Yes, alcoholics drain us a lot. Mine just disappeared for a week (usually chats to kids each day). I do love not walking on eggshells and realistically have no time for anyone really. I see FWB every fortnight which works well! I definitely recommend them if you know they definitely aren't the one!

@SirChing I do like your evil ideas to mess with her head. I will no doubt be the better person and have evil thoughts whilst I just peer around corners so I avoid having to see her potato face. She looked really rough though so that amused me.

@isthismylifenow You never know, in four years time you could have a "Happy Singleton" table at your wedding.....

@Eesha The lack.of eggshells feeling is priceless isn't it? I too recommend a FWB. I wouldn't have a proper relationship with mine. He is lovely and treats me so well, but he isn't what I would look for in someone long term. But as I can't be arsed with someone long term, he is an excellent stand in.

@Mulberry974 Oooh even better if she looks rough. You could say "has it happened yet? I just noticed you aren't looking too well and couldn't help but wonder" Being the better person is the right thing to do. Being evil is more fun though And will keep the silly cow well away from you in future!

@SirChing Sometimes being the better person is just hard work! Being slightly evil does sound more fun. She really has aged in the 3 years since I knew her, maybe its dealing with his nonsense that has done it!

Love the idea of a Happy Singleton table at your wedding @isthismylifenow

@Mulberry974 Maybe it's just Karma catching up with her face! It always amazes me when rhe other woman WANTS to take on the man she was having an affair with. He has already proved to her he is a liar and a cheat. WTF?

@SirChing I guess people who will have affairs with married men don't have qualms. Or maybe the fact that she has tried to add my sister in law and a friend of mine she's never met by mistake proves that she doesn't trust him and is obsessively scrolling through his Fb friends!

"karma catching up with her face" made me proper gigglesnort!

I have been deliberately obtuse about stupid suggestive comment and don't feel bad for making him feel stupid 😂

Also it's stopped snowing, the sun's out and I have chocolate muffins so no longer raging!

@Mulberry974 Well she has created a vacancy. And a vicious circle of wow: she worries, then won't sleep, her face starts to plummet faster than my tits with no bra, then she worries more about affairs due to how she looks...... To which I say: "oh dear, how sad, never mind"

@undercoveraessedai I don't think you should feel bad either......except for not throwing a chocolate muffin this way. I would LOVE to be able to learn to bake cakes but, sadly, I'm just too lazy.

Vicious circle of woe! Doesn't sound like the word "wow" is applicable in this case at all!

@SirChing I do like the vicious circle of woe Thing is even if he's learned his lesson and wouldn't cheat again, doesn't mean she won't still worry. Oh dear how awful...

@Mulberry974 I agree with you. What a shame, eh?

Quick hello here. I'm dashing out for an evening meeting. Ds's bday dinner last night. Me, my ex h, his pregnant partner, my ex bro IL and my ex in laws. Nothing like playing happily families eh?!! In all honesty we get on well enough, but it was a bizarre evening nonetheless!

Love to all, but especially @sirching 's response to Mulberry's dilemma. I am laughing at the situation that she could be wondering what she's caught!!!

@mildlymiffed Aw the dinner sounds lovely for your DS. I get on well with my ex and am looking forward to meeting his new GF. She bakes amazing cakes so I have told her via him that total acceptance into the family can be bought via the small price of a cake. Not that I am easily pleased, oh no!

Happy Friday all. Hope you are enjoying your evening and have good weekends planned (not envious of @SirChing’s ‘heavy day of shagging’ .., no not a all. Ok, yes I am).