Dating thread 179 - am I doing it right?

[Chochito]

Looked for the new thread but couldn't find it...

I think I missed the whole last thread! will need to catch up. hope everyone had a good christmas and new year.

Mr Builder came over xmas night and at very last minute invited me to his family New Years Party. I not only met his family for the first time but drove them 122 miles alone to the party lol as he had another car-full.

@shitwithsugaron both sound lovely but I think for a wine bar date you definitely want some cleavage on show. Well I would if I had any 😂

@Undecidedsofa yes and we only live 5 mins away 😂 but have primary age kids and irregular hour jobs. Theoretically we could prob meet for an hour here and there but I think that would be worse than waiting and spending a evening , night and morning together

Hmmm been seeing mr lovely for a month. Did the deed last night. It wa rubbish but he is so kind. Help

Rubbish how ? Could be nerves or communication?

Right gang I’m home from my date with Mr Fact. I liked him. Very tall, nice looking, interesting. We chatted for ages. He had to drive home (about 20 miles) so feels like a bit of a short date. Outside the bar he kissed my cheek and said he had a lovely eve and would like to see me again. Where was my snog? Does the early hour and no snog mean he wasn’t interested? Waaaah I liked him ☹️

Marlboroandmalbec34 From my male friends who date I get the feeling it's quite tricky for some guys to launch into a first kiss unless they're 100% certain the woman wants it. The nicer more courteous ones are scared of coming across as rapey or having misread your signal of consent.

@Sosounhappy was it just nerves do you think?

@Marlboroandmalbec34 I'd have wanted a kiss as well! He said he wanted to see you again though...

Don't think so. I feel awful I just wanted him to want me but it was really hard work

@Sosounhappy it sounds a bit ominous tbh... what a shame!

I really wanted a snog but the doorman was stood right there so might have been weird. I desperately want to message him saying I had a lovely eve and would like to see him again. I shouldn’t should I? That would be too much? Waaaaaj

Cleavage shitwith obvs 😁

@Marlboroandmalbec34 I've never really snogged on first dates to be honest. I like a little time to reflect and decide if I fancy them
as it's rare I really fancy anyone straight away. Second date snogs are better in my opinion as you are a bit more sure you like each other.

If he said he wants to see you again then I guess he wants to see you again...stop overthinking!

@Marlboroandmalbec34 I'm with @Sunshineandflipflops I never ever snog on a first date. And no man has really tried. Don't worry. He liked you!

Oh yay I hope so!! Eeeek

@Chochito I'm on POF, Bumble and Tinder. To be fair, I do get a lot of messages on POF but just not from anyone who catches my attention. Despite clearly stating on my profile that I'm attracted to tall guys I seem to attract guys who are 5'7 🙄

I also seem to attract younger guys too but I'm about to turn 40 and to me, 33 year old single guys are at a different life stage to me 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don't know how POF works. Can you message anyone on it, dancemom ?

How long have you been on it, and have you ever met up with anyone?

He has just messaged me hoping I got home safe and thanking me for a lovely evening 🙌

@Chochito yeah on POF anyone can message anyone.

I've been online dating on and off for about 2 years. I've been on plenty dates, just feel that currently there's no one I'm interested in

Ho hum

Hmmm. Sounds frustrating. Have you met anyone in real life? As in not via OLD.

Hi all - placemarking. Been at drop in centre all afternoon and on penicillin now for chest infection. So no dates for me for a bit. Got a couple of new irons but not sure I can be arsed for much longer so won’t name them yet. FYI I have not snogged anyone on a first OLD date either but I only once wanted to and he was too much of a gent. I have randomly snogged a couple of people in bars over Christmas but excessive wine might have been involved

Oh god am I awful for doing way more than snogging on first dates? 😂

@UtterSocks feel better soon btw 💐🍫🍇☕️

@Marlboroandmalbec34 yay!