Dating thread 179 - am I doing it right?

[Chochito]

Looked for the new thread but couldn't find it...

What’s wrong with west Londoners unambiguous?

I understand what some of you are saying about bad pictures, but think short, bald, overweight and poor communication skills. They say like attracts like, but honestly I would say I am fairly attractive.
As I say I have had lots of dates in the past so I must assume it is now an age thing.

@TigerDater there's nothing wrong with them. They're just very different to East Londoners and generally not for me. Different financial bracket so different outlook, very groomed, generally smarter and swisher. I am very scruffy, left-wing and hard up. Also I get chippy round big houses and obvious money. Obviously that's a huge generalisation but it is often the case. Plus it can take longer to get over to that side than it takes to get to the coast!

Ie it's more about me being difficult than there being something wrong with people who live in West London!

I agree @crimsonlake . It always sounds like I'm being mean about men of my age, but I'm not. My coupled-up friends are all fine; I look around my circle of male friends and acquaintances and they're all acceptable. But somehow the single ones online are all dreadful! I don't understand it. What happens to single men after 45 that doesn't happen to women??

unambiguous those are stereotypes though, and I wonder whether you are missing a trick by limiting your pool so much?

crimsinlake I agree there’s no getting over dire communication skills or being shorter than they claim, but baldness and being a bit overweight kind of come with age for many, many men - like wrinkles and CS overhangs do for women. Before I started OLD I never thought I would go for a bald man or one who is overweight - but I’ve refined my ideas now. It’s all about meeting up in my book. Meet the man, don’t get overly hung up looking at the picture

Have a good time @shitwithsugaron, hope he’s a good ‘un

I really don't mind bald or a bit overweight.

I've matched, messaged and dated from all over London. I dated a guy from West London for about 6 weeks. We didn't get each other at all. It's just a different outlook. I'm probably thinking of particular parts of west London, Richmond, Putney, Fulham, Chiswick, Kew, Twickenham.... nope.

Good luck @shitwithsugaron hope you have some mansize Kleenex!

My pool is small anyway @TigerDater I'm not alot of men's cup of tea...

Ah I get you unambiguous! My DDs call people from those specific areas ‘west London wankers’ - but it’s still a stereotype, and they are always unfair and misleading re actual live individuals. I would hate to be stereotyped as being a Home Counties posh professional, even though that’s what I am on paper. I’m me.

I've dated bald, overweight, short etc. I'm short and overweight myself. I swiped right on those that had nice eyes or a smile that interested me. I think my radius was set to 30 miles and Mr S was at the limit of that and an hour's drive away.

Mr B is less than 30 mins away but as he lives with his mum (!) I won't be going there!!

@shitwithsugaron good luck! Hope it's going well.

My radius was 20-ish miles...I can't really remember. I don't know what happened with Mr Ad though as he is an hours drive away and 33 miles. I think he swiped on me, eh IG made him appear in my stack on Bumble, even though he was out of my distance preference.

He is 47 and set his lower age limit to 41 so as soon as I turned 41 I appeared in his stack and he swiped on me straight away 😊

*which made him

I’ve just turned from 40 to 41 and it’s all new men shown up 🤷🏼‍♀️ Althou I’m not actively using

@Jane how is it going with MrGray? I've gone back on the apps, but no oke wants to speak...or if they do, no meet.

@shit good luck

@bangheadhere40 it’s good well it’s like a fwb thing I guess we go for a few drinks and have a lot of sex 😂. But we have the same sense of humour and get on well but I’m not sure it’s a relationship as such. It is literally a friend I have sex with. Sorry that was a long answer 😂 will just go with it for now it Makes me happy and there’s no pressure or over thinking.

I am just about to dump Mr FO....from a great height, preferably.
I found him on tinder. Using a fake name but with a photo that I took of him.
Why was I on tinder? A couple of things weren't adding up for me, so I thought I'd check.
He told me he was seeing family this weekend. Now I wonder what he's really doing.
I've sent him a screenshot of tinder and left him a voicemail telling him what I think of him.
Now I'm waiting to see if he takes the coward way out and just runs away.

@EchoElephant sorry to hear that 🙁

I get a bit mixed up with people on here - how long have you been seeing Mr FO?

I first met him 6 months ago. We had a few dates then he said he just wanted to be friends.
We've been on and off friends until mid November he said he wanted more than friends. I said he had to delete the apps because he'd messed me around. He said he had. Even gave me story that he was banned from tinder.

@EchoElephant sounds like he's messed you around way too much. Some men just want it all but end up with nothing.

YES! @shitwithsugaron